My husband won't let me go back to my mother's house for the New Year. What should I do?

Because of love, for a woman who has been married for a long time, the happiest thing is to go home happily during the Spring Festival. A man willing to accompany her back to see is the best response to love.

During the festival, you should think twice about your family. On New Year's Day, women who are far away from home miss their hometown even more, and take their husbands and children back to meet their parents, brothers and sisters.

But marriage is a complicated issue. A woman can give up her family because of love, but a man may not understand that you miss your mother's heart very much. If a married woman and her husband don't accompany you back to her home for the New Year, please look at these three reasons: If a married woman and her husband don't accompany you back to her home for the New Year, please look at these three reasons.

1 Bad relationship between husband and wife.

The relationship between husband and wife is indifferent, and the needs of women are often ignored.

Entering the twelfth lunar month, the autumn moon thinks about going back to her mother's house. She has been married for ten years. In the first few years, whenever she wanted to go back, her husband would try his best to cooperate.

Later, two children were born, and the contradiction between husband and wife became more and more serious. The autumn moon brought back the Spring Festival, and her husband found reasons to object. For example, children have to go alone when they are young. Mom can't run back alone. Going back to her parents' house is her dream.

The child is big this year, and the autumn moon has not come back for four years, but the husband said, "Your home is so far away and so cold. What are you going to do? "

The two had a quarrel over this, and the different opinions on returning to China were just the tip of the iceberg of the contradiction between husband and wife. In daily life, two people are speechless like strangers, so they don't think about each other.

A loveless marriage is also heartless. Everyone can distinguish their own things from unimportant things, and those things that have nothing to do with their own interests will naturally not be taken into account.

Men say that your home is far away, and finding reasons not to accompany women back for the New Year is just an excuse for women to be lovelorn.

Economic conditions do not allow it.

A few days ago, a reader asked me this question: "My wife wants to go home for the New Year, and I don't want to go back. I roughly calculated that if a family goes back by train (the most economical transportation fee), the fare for two adults is 1500, and the child is about 800 at half price.

She has two younger brothers, four nephews, children's red envelopes, gifts for parents and filial piety, at least seven or eight thousand yuan. But this year's work is unstable, and the income is only enough to support the family. My hands were tight, so I let her go back alone. She cried, and I was very sad. What should I do? "

I want to say that this is a problem that many divorced women will encounter. Don't carefully calculate the cost of going back to your mother's house. If you consider saving money, it will cost seven or eight thousand. As a result, 10 thousand yuan may not be enough. During the Chinese New Year, there were so many relatives at home that I couldn't hold my wallet tightly because of difficulties.

When the economy is tight, I have to say that men have big hearts. It's not that I don't want to spend the New Year with my wife, but that economic conditions don't allow it.

Think about your family.

Just as many women think of their mother's family, many men think of their own family. Some men would rather ignore their wives than their parents and brothers and sisters.

My friend Xiao Li is a typical example. He went to his wife's house to drink Huimen wine. When he came back a few days later, his parents were very anxious. They love him and he cares about his parents.

Every year, when his wife mentioned going back to her parents' home for the New Year, he would find an excuse to put it off. He will consider his younger brothers and sisters, but will not pay attention to his wife's needs.

Xiao Li's behavior may be selfish, but no one can let go of his parents and his wife can't help it. She really wants to go back and take care of the children alone.

Xiao doesn't understand that women marry far away. She needs his consideration when she can't see her relatives. She can't understand that her parents miss her daughter as much as his parents miss him.

There are always some men who value the people they love and ignore the feelings of their wives. A person is too considerate of himself to mind other people's business.

After the twentieth day of the twelfth lunar month, the number of women returning to their families in the village gradually increases. When people see a woman coming back with her husband, they will think that her marriage is good and it is right to marry someone who loves her. A woman's husband will also be labeled as a good husband and son-in-law.

Although this is not enough to measure the happiness of a distant woman and the quality of a man, a man can go home for the New Year with a distant woman, and at least one woman will feel loved and respected.

The woman who marries far away is duckweed, who has been wandering all her life. Her family is a man, and she depends on him. Some men are very distressed, and their husbands are everywhere, which makes her happy and stable.