"So what if I gave you 200,000 yuan as a bride price? If you don't give me the change fee, I won't get married." What do you think about this?

01.

Nowadays, more and more people like to use money to measure feelings. Many women judge whether a man loves them and whether he is sincere to them depends on whether he is willing to pay for them. Only a man is willing to spend money for himself, as if this man can be entrusted to him for life.

You can’t blame women for thinking this way. After all, money is the first priority in most men’s minds, but that doesn’t mean that he really loves you if he is willing to spend money for you. .

Because true love cannot be measured by money. Once this man uses money to measure the love between you and thinks that as long as he spends some money on you, you will be satisfied, then you are in love with him. In my mind, I can just "buy" it with money. Do you think a man will cherish you?

Yes, but it must be based on your benefit to him. Otherwise, you will be "useless" to him. When he gets someone new, you will be useless to him. It makes sense, so. Never think that a man who is willing to spend money on you really loves you!

However, when many women get married, they still inevitably place their bets on their marriage on the man’s betrothal gift, thinking that the more the betrothal gift given by the man, the more secure their future life will be. In fact, a woman’s marriage will be more secure. There is no absolute relationship between the quality of life and the betrothal gift. If you blindly place your hopes on the betrothal gift and do not manage your married life well, your marriage will also break up.

If you link your relationship to money too much, it will only deteriorate your relationship.

Whether a man will be sincere to you after marriage can actually be seen in the process of getting along with each other. Most of the women who insist on using betrothal gifts to protect their marriage do not feel that they are being treated. Love, but reluctant to let go. At this time, no matter how much gift you ask for, it will not sublimate the relationship. Instead, it will make the man misunderstand you, which will be even more detrimental to the two of you in the future.

Betrothal gifts are necessary, but you must accept them as soon as you are ready, otherwise it will not be a good thing for you.

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Xiaowei recently broke up with his fiancée. At the wedding, the quarrel was ugly because of the change fee.

Xiaowei and Xiaowen have been together for more than a year, and their relationship has always been very good. Although Xiaowei’s family conditions are average, he usually gives the best to Xiaowen, and the company Remember to get a share of any benefits for your girlfriend. Not long after they got together, Xiaowei took the initiative to hand over his salary. He received hundreds of pocket money every month and was often made fun of by us. But Xiaowei said It is only natural that you should give your wife money.

Xiaowei has always planned to get married, but Xiaowen always said: Wait until you buy a house. How will you support me in your current situation? "Xiaowei knew he was guilty, so he worked two jobs every day, and even worked part-time after get off work. Later, Xiaowen's family became anxious because Xiaowen was already thirty, but Xiaowen was dissatisfied with Xiaowei's current situation. Unsatisfied, but having no better choice, she had no choice but to take Xiaowei home to meet her parents.

Xiaowen’s parents seemed honest and trustworthy, but Xiaowei was shocked by the gift money. , Xiaowen’s mother said calmly: “The betrothal gift here is generally 200,000 yuan. "Xiaowei thought to himself that his savings were going to be used to buy a wedding house. How could he have the money to give such colorful gifts? His family was not rich. But when he saw Xiaowen winking at him, he had no choice but to say nothing. .

Later, Xiaowei found out that Xiaowen had a good reputation and told her family that her boyfriend was very capable, so he could not let her lose face.

But 200,000 yuan. , tell him to take it out from somewhere, Xiaowen just said; I don’t care about you, if you love me, you go back and tell your parents. In desperation, Xiaowei had no choice but to tell his parents that their parents had worked hard for most of it. I have some savings in my life, but as a result, I don’t even have the money to support myself in old age.

Xiaowei couldn’t bear it, but he didn’t expect his parents to secretly put the money into his bag. Xiaowei said that at that time he did not understand why he was getting married. It was not until that moment that he had the courage to refuse the marriage.

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On the eve of the wedding banquet, Xiaowei’s parents came to attend. Xiaowen saw her parents-in-law dressed so shabbily, and she felt a little resistant and always avoided them. Xiaowei saw this , naturally felt uncomfortable, and said to Xiaowen: "My parents paid a gift of 200,000 yuan to marry you as their daughter-in-law. Why didn't you even call them?" Xiaowen suddenly became angry and said : "So what if I gave you 200,000 yuan as a gift? If you don't give me the change fee, I won't get married!"

When Xiaowei heard what Xiaowen said, his long-suppressed dissatisfaction burst out, and he said, "Let's break off the engagement."

Xiaowen just said it casually, but she didn’t expect Xiaowei to take it seriously, and said that she would break off the engagement in front of everyone, so how could she lose face and how would she see anyone in the future? The mother-in-law also said that her daughter just said something wrong temporarily, saying that it was normal for husband and wife to quarrel. Xiaowei's parents also advised their son to forget it, but Xiaowei seemed determined and said that he did not want to marry. I can’t afford to marry.

Xiaowei said that he could not let his parents suffer such great grievances for him. They were the parents who gave birth to him and raised him. Parents have no obligation to bear these things for their children, but it was just out of love for their son. Love, it's all my fault for not living up to expectations. Since Xiaowen is so reluctant, forget it. There is no need to force it and make everyone uncomfortable.

Xiaowen later took the initiative to win Xiaowei back and said that she only asked for a gift of 200,000 yuan. As for breaking off the engagement, Xiaowei said that it was impossible for the two of them. Since Xiaowen looked down on her, there was no need. reluctantly.

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Xiaowei said that he used to think that marriage was very simple, that is, two people who love each other get married and have children together. He never thought that marrying a wife requires After spending all her parents' savings, she was already doing her best, so why did Xiaowen still use the betrothal gift to test her sincerity.

In fact, Xiaowei and Xiaowen are not suitable for each other at all. Xiaowen only had a slight crush on Xiaowei at first, but Xiaowei regarded Xiaowen as his marriage partner from the beginning, and Even when Xiaowei proposed to Xiaowen, she still made various excuses and finally took her home just to silence her parents.

To put it bluntly, I just don’t love her that much. The reason why I married Xiaowei was for face. I am already thirty years old and can’t be embarrassed, so I want to get married, and I want a gift of 200,000 yuan, and I have to change my mind. Fei Lai supported himself. However, all this is like rubbing salt on Xiaowei's wounds. Since you don't love, there is no need for the other person to continue to condone your selfish behavior.

In fact, when two people are together, the most important thing is mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, and mutual gratitude, rather than all kinds of calculations and disdain from the beginning. So what is the meaning of such a marriage? Woolen cloth?

I hope Xiaowei can get out of the shadow of this relationship and regain happiness. I also hope that Xiaowen will be able to treat each other sincerely when she meets her true love in the future.

Whether you are a man or a woman, if the other party plots against you before marriage, then I advise you to stop your losses in time!