Can't the son-in-law go to the woman's house to pay New Year's greetings?

If you don't get married, there is no need for the man to go to the woman's house to pay New Year greetings, but it is inevitable to walk around. After all, you are going to marry her daughter. Shouldn't you visit her during the Chinese New Year? I'm not asking you to propose. If you are even melodramatic about this, you are not interested in her.

If the woman goes to the man's house, the man will definitely feel it necessary. Even if you are not married, as a future daughter-in-law, you should go to your future mother-in-law's house to pay a New Year call. If we don't go, we won't look at that man.

So I think it's actually ok for a man to go to the woman's house to pay New Year greetings when he is not married, unless he really has something to do and has no time to go.

Tell me about myself.

I am a long-distance married person. Every year during the Spring Festival, we have to prepare a lot of things, such as buying new year's goods and paying New Year's greetings. Among them, I really don't like New Year greetings, because I am a foreigner and don't understand their dialect. Every time I go, I sit in the corner and pretend to understand them, and then laugh with them. If I don't accompany my husband to pay New Year's greetings, he will not give me a good look, saying that I don't pay New Year's greetings every year and that I am too cold to his relatives.

But you don't know, I've been married for so many years, and I haven't been back to my parents' house for the New Year. My husband won't let me go back for the New Year, saying that there are many things on his side. When I go back for the New Year, his parents will be cold and cheerless.

I remember one year when I went back to my mother's house, before the Spring Festival, he called me to urge me to go back, saying that a relative would come back from other places in 2008, and there would be a party at home at that time. I said, I came all the way back just to have a party at your house, and you have the nerve to call me to urge me, even if you don't come yourself, you still have to ask me that.

Anyway, I ignored him. I dare not tell my parents such a thing. I insist on marrying far away. If they know, they will definitely blame me.

So, I want to tell young people who are about to get married here that if your other half is not enthusiastic about your family, you really have to think clearly. For example, it is always easy for young couples to have conflicts when they go to the Spring Festival.