An event that misleads a child's life.

An event that misleads a child's life.

Misleading children's life events, children's mental health problems have attracted more and more attention from the society. In these aspects, you can know your baby more clearly, solve problems and cultivate abilities, which is the development goal of many children and provide them with better study and life. Let me share the ways to mislead children's life events.

Misleading children's life events 1 bad habits 1: impatience

Busy at work and under great pressure, I finally couldn't help shouting when I came home to see my children making noise: "Why are you always crying?" Stop crying, I hate it! "

Reminder: A child with self-esteem and respect for others must first be respected by adults.

Bad habit 2: don't avoid it.

After many years of marriage, you and your lover often quarrel in front of the children because of trivial matters.

Reminder: Our hostility and quarrels set a bad example for children's aggressive behavior.

Bad habit 3: Too generous.

You are very frugal and reluctant to buy yourself new clothes, but you are generous to your child and never teach him to save.

Reminder: Our "love" will make children only know how to take, but not how to give.

Bad habit 4: don't care

Every day when you come home from work, you always habitually ask your child, "How are you doing in kindergarten?" Ask, while busy cooking, cleaning the room, or reading the newspaper.

Reminder: Our behavior seems to tell children: I don't care about your answer. As a result, the child thinks that we don't respect him and learn to perfunctory others.

Bad habit 5: Don't admit your mistakes.

Your child quarrels with other children over toys, and your punishment is a little too heavy, but you think: parents should match their words with their deeds, so they never take back their words.

Reminder: We made a mistake and refused to admit our mistakes, and the children also admitted their mistakes.

Bad habit 6: complaining.

A friend breaks his word, and you complain to your child's wife, "Leave him alone."

Reminder: You let the children see that in the face of disappointment, we did not actively try to solve the problem, but just complained and blamed others.

Bad habit 7: no entertainment

The child is clamoring for you to tell him a story, but you are always busy with something else.

Reminder: Our behavior makes children understand a "truth": all work and no play in life, only housework and no games in the family.

Misleading Children's Life Events 2 Misleading Scenes 1

Busy at work and under great pressure, I came home to see the baby making noise, and finally I couldn't help shouting, "Why are you always crying?" Don't cry, what a nuisance! "

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A self-respecting and respectful child must first be respected by adults. If we are rude to children, children will take it for granted that others should do as I say, thus developing a selfish and violent psychology, and it is difficult to consider problems from the perspective of others.

Misleading scenario 2

You work hard, manage your family diligently, and are reluctant to buy yourself new clothes, but you are surprisingly generous to your son. He's Altman, and he wants Superman. Don't you think your life is just for one child?

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Our "love" will make children only know how to pay, but not know how to pay. How can such a child feel the hardships of his parents and what kind of life can he have in the future?

Misleading scenario 3

Every day when you come home from work, you will always habitually ask your baby, "How are you doing in kindergarten?" Ask while busy cooking, cleaning the room or reading the newspaper.

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Your behavior seems to tell the child-I don't care about your answer. What I really care about now is whether I can feel ready for dinner, tidy up my room, or finish reading today's newspaper. Similarly, you can only get the same answer from your child-"nothing", "not bad" or "not bad". Because children learn to perfunctory others from you.

Misleading scenario 4

The TV set at home is broken. Ask your son's uncle to repair it. At the appointed time, my uncle called and said he couldn't come because of something urgent. You hung up the phone and complained angrily, "Your uncle has a bad heart and won't ask him for help again."

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Not only is it useless to blame and complain, but you also set a bad example for children-in the face of disappointment, you don't actively try to solve the problem, just blame and blame others.

Misleading scenario 5

You and your son are waiting in line at the supermarket for payment. A woman cuts in line, and you put her in line. But she turned a deaf ear to what you said, so you raised your voice and argued with her, and finally had a big fight.

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Despite your good intentions, you are training your children with the wrong social skills. From then on, you will often see children quarreling or fighting with children over toys.