Married for 5 years, living once a month, should I cheat or divorce?

This is actually a multiple-choice question. Since high school, my routine of doing multiple-choice questions is exclusion, which is convenient without substitution for calculation. First of all, let's look at the topic, which means to get married once a month for five years. The implication is that we are not very satisfied with this frequency. In other words, which of the following options can increase the frequency of target behavior in the long run?

After solving the problem, let's look at the options. Option a derailed. It seems that cheating can increase the number of target behaviors in a short time, but the risks, especially moral anxiety and overall fear, are too high to be considered or ruled out. Note that this A option may also lead to the emergence of B option. Let's look at option b, divorce. Divorce may lead to a decrease in the number of existing target behaviors in the short term, and even if the society is relatively open now, the cost of divorce is still huge, which is obviously not reliable.

Is there a better choice?

Of course there is. First of all, you should talk frankly with your partner (accompanied by a counselor), what causes the current frequency of target behavior (and how you feel about it), whether it comes from your attitude towards target behavior or physiological reasons, or whether you have an extramarital affair. In order to communicate with your partner better, you can refer to some positive communication skills to create such an atmosphere (such as turning off your mobile phone to cut off interference, picking a free time and so on). Secondly, on the basis of understanding the problems, you can solve or improve them in a targeted way. (The following is for reference only)

Negative experiences of childhood or adolescence

Recognize each other's evasion and start practicing slowly. Practice and maintain intimacy regularly (twice a week, two hours each time), start sexual intimacy with comfortable behavior, and set the goal of target behavior as a comfortable husband and wife life. You can agree to stop feeling uncomfortable or anxious at any time during practice, but try hard every time and don't give up prematurely;

Your partner is unattractive.

You can set up a more emotional and romantic environment and go to the hotel for a romantic weekend from time to time; You can also use some well-known video materials (note that this method can only be used if both parties agree to try and will not feel disgusted), and please remember that the attempt to change needs to be repeated many times, and don't give up once.

Medical factors

This may require detailed consultation with a specialist. (Text/Ai Meng Atanqing? A psychological counselor who can master the data)