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Interpretation of the Chinese New Year blind date process and successful cases The secret of blind date for experienced people is absolutely reliable.
Blind date process and skills:
First, the general principles of blind date for boys and girls:
Punctuality and dress will affect the first impression, and details will determine success or failure;
Use words and dialogues to properly show your best side;
"Pretend" to a certain extent, but don't let the other person hate it;
Be modest when talking about certain topics, such as temper and housework. , will let the other party make a minimum plan.
For example, 1: If you say that you can only wash and can't cook (in fact, you can cook some simple meals), then he hesitates or directly changes the subject, indicating that he may not accept you in this respect; If he smiles and says to you, "Never mind, I'll do it. I can do all the cooking. If you are willing to learn, I will be happy to teach you! " "This kind of person is really attracted to you and has ideas to live with you.
Chinese New Year blind date process
Second, the preparation before the blind date
No matter who introduced the blind date, you have at least a minimum understanding of the other person: height, age, family, marriage experience, work, address, etc.
These simplest materials, if carefully analyzed, can "guess" some of his behavior habits and personality to some extent. If you are rational, you will probably have a certain concept in your heart, and what aspects will you focus on when dating; Emotionally speaking, as long as the other person has one or two qualities you like, you will look forward to the day of blind date.
If conditions permit, you can learn more about each other's lives from the side. In this way, if you know that he/she is excellent and you like him/her very much, you can only make targeted preparations to make the other party equally satisfied with you!
Third, the first impression
Punctuality, dress and courtesy ... are the most direct manifestations of first impressions.
Punctuality: Whether it's a blind date or not, it's very important. I don't need to go into details. It is suggested that the man arrive 10- 15 minutes before the date, and order drinks and tea; It is most appropriate for the woman to arrive 3-5 minutes in advance.
Dress: Based on your prior knowledge of each other, dress makes them like you. Boys, general requirements: simple and generous, if the weather is suitable, you can try formal attire. Boys generally don't recommend wearing jewelry.
Successful cases of blind date during the Spring Festival
Girls, overall requirements: according to personal preferences, you can wear light makeup or no makeup, clothes, shoes and socks should be clean and tidy, and you can wear one or two pieces of jewelry. Remember not to wear heavy makeup, which will give people a feeling of enchanting and unreal.
Etiquette: Meeting for the first time is always the most precious. Jay Lanster College in the United States conducted a survey: the first sentence and the first action of the first meeting account for 78% of the first impression of the other party on you, which shows its importance. Etiquette is very important to make a good first impression on each other. Boy: Take the initiative to get up and move the stool for the woman, smile generously, keep a proper distance (70- 100 mm), and don't get too close to the woman to avoid embarrassment.
Girl: She has a steady gait and a smile. When meeting for the first time, she should keep a certain reserve. When talking, she should try to control the volume so that you two can hear her. When the man pours tea or serves food for you, she should say "thank you" more. She must sit upright and stand dignified.
Fourth, conversation skills.
In the process of blind date, more than 90% of the topics are dominated by the man. It is suggested that the man carefully prepare a few humorous jokes in advance to adjust the atmosphere. When touching on more personal topics, we must pay attention to the relaxation and moderation of the tone.
For example, you are a girl and you really want to ask the man about his family conditions. But I don't know how to ask. I will give you a hint.
Chinese new year blind date
Direct way:
W: XX, I'm a little direct. Please don't mind! Actually, I have plans to settle down, but my parents and I want to have a warm home. My parents think this man should have a house. Actually, I don't value material things that much. I value his personality charm more. It doesn't really matter to me that I don't have a house. The key is that I can't get past my parents' eyes! So ... (Stop talking and pretend to drink tea)
Interpretation: If it is a boy with a house, he will tell you the answer with a smile. If it is a boy without a house, the answers are all kinds of strange. The most common answer for boys is: I definitely need a house to get married. I need some money myself, and my family will subsidize some. I will apply for a mortgage loan next year.
For this answer, you have to grasp the girl yourself. This sentence usually means that he and his parents really can't afford a house now. If you are with him, it is necessary to pay off the mortgage when you get married. Of course, if people are really potential stocks, they can get the house done in three or two years.
How can Chinese New Year blind date be successful?
Euphemism (personal data):
W: XX, my cousin is very beautiful. She got married the year before last, and my brother-in-law is very kind to her. When we first got married, the man said he would buy a house in the second half of the year, but he couldn't get the money and his salary was not high. As a result, now that my sister is pregnant, she still rents a house and moves frequently, so she feels insecure. My uncle has been trying to persuade my sister to hit the child, because he said that it doesn't matter if such a family makes my sister suffer. The key is to make the next generation have no good family environment.
Interpretation: At this point, boys should be able to hear what you want to express as long as they are not fools. Go on drinking tea and see how he answers this question. If he really wants to live with you, he will say how to solve the problem. If he laughs it off, it means he and you may just want to have fun.
Example: You are a boy and want to ask her how she feels about you after a blind date.
Method 1: If you find her cheerful personality during the blind date, you can directly ask "XX, what do you think of me?"
Interpretation: For the above questions, most girls will answer "not bad", and then there will be no more. In this case, you should strike while the iron is hot to enliven the atmosphere. You can use humor, you can continue to ask her to go shopping, go to the park, or you know what her hobbies are. If she says yes, well, there is a chance. If she is in a hurry to refuse, or doesn't want to go, then don't pester her, be a gentleman and send her back to leave. Maybe you still have a chance.
How to do a blind date in the New Year?
Method 2: If you meet an attractive woman, it will be a bit abrupt to ask her such a question directly. You can have your first official date at the end of the blind date:
M: Are you free this weekend? I want to watch a movie with you. XXXX has started.
Of course, if you want to use this trick, you have to know in advance what movies will be shown this weekend and whether she likes watching movies. Of course, there are other ways besides watching movies, such as going to amusement parks, climbing mountains and enjoying flowers.
Interpretation: If she doesn't hate watching movies, say yes to her face. Good boy, here's her chance. If she says to watch it later, she is hesitating. In this case, remember not to be impatient, let nature take its course and keep in touch before the next appointment. The opportunity is still in your hands. If she says she doesn't want to go or never goes to the movies, it's probably impossible. Do you think young people never go to the movies? Even if there is such a person, it is estimated that living with her is not fun.
Five, the cost during the blind date.
As a 2 1 century gentleman and man, I personally think it is best for the man to pay alone. If your conditions are not too good, you can choose a place with lower consumption. If the woman's conditions are similar to yours, most of them will not abandon you, and more will think that you are real and will live. Of course, it does not rule out that some girls are not well-off and people are generally too materialistic. Many times blind date will have a third party, such as parents, relatives or matchmakers. That would be best. You can give money to your parents or matchmaker in advance and let them pay after dinner. Of course, I suggest that boys pay for their own money, which can give girls an intuitive impression: I will be with him in the future, and the person who pays for it will not be me. (Even if girls really pay with boys' money, girls are naturally stingy and don't want to take money from their own pockets. Girls don't spray, there is no malice. This is what many of my female friends told me. )
Of course, there has recently appeared a blind date AA payment method on the Internet, which mostly happens on the basis that both parties have good careers. This way men and women need to discuss in advance and should not be decided in the process of blind date. If you don't discuss it beforehand, then the boy can open your wallet.
Spring festival blind date introduction
6. The end of blind date may decide whether you are out or not.
After the blind date, both sides have a general impression of each other. If they don't like it very much, it's easy. Maybe they won't contact each other in the future. If you are an indecisive person, in this case, as long as the other party is a little better and gives you something that can attract you, you may be able to impress one party. After the blind date, if he will take care of other people's boys (provided that the blind date has a good impression on the girls), he will definitely insist on sending the girls home, at least in the car. Of course, meeting a girl for the first time will make you look like a gentleman, take care of people and give girls a sense of security. However, please don't go into the woman's house when you meet for the first time, which will make people feel that you are very casual. Of course, under normal circumstances, reserved girls will not let you in. The ideal result is that boys send girls downstairs and watch her go upstairs. In this case, if the boys do well, then maybe the girls who are hesitant about you will give you extra points, at least, one step closer to success.
Tips: If the girl insists on not letting you take her home, or even letting you take her to the car, then the man should stop! Falling flowers are intentional, and running water is ruthless. Her heart is not in you at all.
Seven, contact after blind date
Neither boys nor girls can expect too much from blind date, but they can't have a casual attitude. After the blind date, I feel that it is necessary to develop, so I will continue to keep in touch and communicate with her. At the same time, please remember that there is not only love in your life, but also friends, work and family. You can't be too enthusiastic about others, but please don't forget his/her existence.
For example, you can give her/him a little surprise in life every week. When you get to know each other, cook a good dish and ask her/him to come to dinner after work. Feelings need to be cultivated slowly, and everyone falls in love at first sight, but most of them are the expression of the most primitive nature and desire of human nature.
It's not easy to have a blind date in the New Year.
Matters needing attention in blind date:
1. First meeting, the most appropriate opening remarks: Hello, nice to meet you!
2. Don't feel inferior or arrogant. Be confident, speak naturally, don't keep staring at each other, and don't keep looking away.
It's recommended to find out online before dating, and it's better to meet again when it's appropriate.
Don't always talk about your parents when chatting. What the other person values is how you are.
5. Self-motivation and sense of stability are hard indicators for most girls to the other half.
6. Understanding each other and filial piety are hard indicators for most boys to have girlfriends.
7. When you meet for the first time, you'd better turn your mobile phone to vibrate and tell your colleagues that you have something temporary. If you answer the phone frequently, it will make the other person feel that you don't care about him/her at all.
8. If it is convenient, both parties can send photos of their lives to each other before the blind date (be sure to remind each other, not PS photos).
The above blind date process and precautions must be seen by the blind date. In fact, if you think about it seriously, God is fair. Although you are still on the way to "find a girl", the bachelor is also "reduced" to a blind date. I hope everyone can find a suitable partner happily!
How to refuse Chinese New Year blind date?
Introduction to the first meeting of blind date during the Spring Festival
What should I do about blind date? When single men and women go home for Chinese New Year, blind date year and 20 16 New Year, it is inevitable that their parents will nag them about blind date. Even if you bite the bullet, you have to save face and do nothing. So, what should they do for blind date? This brings the first meeting and communication strategy of Chinese New Year blind date!
1, don't talk big when you meet for the first time.
When boys and girls meet for the first time, no matter which side, try to say: don't talk, let alone brag. The best state is: awkward, giving people a comfortable feeling, feeling that this person is very cultivated. I asked the man who had a problem with the blind date last week. He always answered irrelevant questions and unconsciously extended the question. Obviously, he asked him: I take the liberty to ask who introduced you to our aunt. He would talk about what his parents usually do at home, but he didn't get to the point.
To sum up, if a person has self-cultivation, the first contact is words. Or this is one of the most important factors in blind date.
Step 2 dress for the first meeting
Boys and girls must pay attention to their clothes. I once met a man who wore a down jacket in winter with an empty cotton sweater inside, which gave a very bad impression. Everyone likes to be respected and valued. If so, it will definitely lower the score of blind date. Girls, too, no matter how they look, must be able to dress themselves up, and the result of plain face will only make men dull. Remember: men always like beautiful women and women always like attractive men.
No matter what you look like when dating, you must pay attention to your dress. Last time you talked about dress, now I will talk to you about how to dress appropriately. First of all, we should dress according to the season, whether boys or girls, don't blindly follow the trend, and don't wear any clothes of Hari Hahan. Don't wear professional clothes. Of course, you can choose the former under the age of 25 and the latter over the age of 35. Still not all men are suitable for wearing pink shirts, and not all girls are suitable for doing long curly hair, so we must follow our own situation!
Blind date skills
Don't talk about your parents when you meet for the first time.
Today, I will introduce the taboo words in dating: Try to talk less about your parents when dating. Why? Talking too much will make the other person feel that you are not mature enough, and secondly, you will feel insecure with you. If you are a man, you will be associated with 24 filial piety. If you are a woman, you will be the head of the family in the future. To sum up, if you want the blind date to fail early, then move your parents out. Nine of the ten sentences are about parents, and the tenth sentence is about them. Congratulations, you will be eliminated.
Generally speaking, people who meet on blind dates should know something about their parents and family. There is no need to ask them when we meet for the first time. You can't help asking: Are your parents still working? Click here. Once a GG said: at home, what parents say is the imperial edict. It is absolutely unpleasant and even offensive for a 30-year-old to say such a thing.
4. The right topic for the first blind date
There are often problems with TF. Since there are so many things you can't say or mention on a date, what should you say? In fact, when we meet for the first time, we should talk about each other's work as much as possible. For example, you can introduce where you work and what you mainly do. This is usually said by men first. First, MM can understand what you do. Second, MM can also observe your speech through this. TF said that my job is poor and my income is not high. How can I express it well? The method is simple. You can just say: I think young people should practice more. I will read some similar books or study in my spare time. The following TF is free to play, but one thing is that this is only applicable to TF under 30 years old. If you are a male TF over 30 years old with a low salary, you have to put it another way.
5. Time control of the first blind date
It is often particularly important to control the time of blind date. It is best to meet for the first time in about two hours, and it is best to choose 2-4 pm. Why? First, we have already had lunch, and second, this election won't cost too much money. According to psychology, when men and women meet for the first time, the best time for them to talk is about 1 hour, because this is usually the first time they decide to meet again in the future. The prologue of the first blind date.
What should boys do in the process of blind date
Today I want to talk about the opening remarks of blind date. Many times, when men and women meet for the first time, they always like to ask: Have you eaten? Is it convenient to come over? Actually, this should be put in the third and fourth sentences. The first sentence and the second sentence should be: Hello, nice to meet you, with a natural smile when you speak. Don't underestimate this sentence. It's far warmer than how I feel about you. It's not that you can't say those words, just say some natural language on this occasion. Eating and convenient transportation are some conversation topics, which are not suitable for opening remarks.
6. It's best not to shake hands on the first blind date.
Some people say that for the first time, if you feel good, you'd better shake hands. In fact, this is very risky. How can I put it? Don't feel good about yourself on the grounds that "we talked very speculatively" or "we have many interests" before the two sides confirm their feelings. Sometimes it's just a superficial phenomenon. Don't shake hands on the first blind date. First, it is unnecessary; Second, it is easy to give people the illusion of doing business; Third, if the other person doesn't have the idea of continuing to develop, your hand is redundant, which will make the other person feel that you care about him.
7. Be sure to attend the first meeting on time.
Blind date, everyone is meeting for the first time, so we must have the concept of punctuality. Many men think that women are always unpunctual, and now they are all only children and don't pay attention to the concept of time. They always think it's okay to be late. Even some people don't know where to go in advance, so they wait until then, or there is a subway or taxi anyway. Actually, I'd rather go shopping early than be late. Imagine that no matter who is not on time, there will always be discomfort.
8. The first meal on a blind date
When eating, I usually invite my sister to dinner. MM said she had eaten, but she was just being polite. You must not think that she has eaten. If MM doesn't care where to eat, she can choose a place like Pizza Hut. On the one hand, the price will not be too high, on the other hand, it is more emotional.
If you like MM during the meal, you can take the initiative to add dishes to each other. Eating western food can best tell whether MM is a lady. Don't be too nervous. Ask MM before ordering. If MM says it doesn't matter, you can order some general food and ask MM if there are any taboo foods. Don't lock the door too tightly. After dinner, if you are still quite speculative with each other, you can continue walking. Finally, whether they are interested in further development or not, they must ask MM for contact information. It is best to control the time of first meeting within three hours.
Successful blind date
9. The problem of eating and ordering food on the first blind date.
There are generally four kinds of girls' reactions:
(1) ordered all the dishes quickly. Most of them are extroverted and independent girls. You can just smile without any special words.
(2) hesitate to take the menu and order slowly after asking your opinion, so that you can give some suggestions at the right time, such as do you like to eat * * food? As long as she doesn't explicitly answer that she doesn't like it, you can go on to say, then add this one, which is good for girls' health;
(3) I took the menu, didn't know what to order, and then handed it to you. Don't push again at this time. Ask her what she likes to eat and if there are any taboos. Just ask her opinion.
(4) Let you order directly, saying that you have never ordered food and are not familiar with it. The treatment method is basically the same as the third one. It is worth mentioning that such girls may belong to the introverted type. When asking taboos, ask more questions. It's best to mention some popular taboos, such as pepper, ginger, garlic and mustard.
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