I hate my mother. I always feel that she is not my mother, but my enemy. What should I do?

Son, you shouldn't hate your mother, let alone say that she is your enemy. Now, as a mother, I will carefully analyze the problems you mentioned.

First of all, you said that your mother likes to compare you with others regardless of your feelings. The better others are, the happier she will be. In fact, every mother likes to compare her children with other people's children, hoping that her children will get better and better. The better others are, the happier she will be. This is your mother's superficial phenomenon, but in fact she is crying in her heart. In her heart, she sincerely hopes that everything will be fine for her children! So if you think others are good, she will be happy. This is a wrong idea! Son, you should learn to accept and face the blow of life with greater courage. Your mother wants you to have a tolerant heart and forgive the unfair treatment. You can communicate well with your mother! Only when children can keep things in their hearts can they have them. Acceptance is the foundation of progress and the source of wisdom. You should keep an open mind. How big your mind is, how big your future ability is. Never blame others or yourself. Your weakness is to hide your mistakes and refuse to improve and reflect. You should blame yourself by blaming your mother's heart, and criticize yourself by criticizing her heart. Only in this way can you make continuous progress and surpass yourself.

Second, your mother doubts your ability, always thinks that you can't do many things well and always likes to impose your own ideas on you. This is what a mother often does. Because she feels that her life experience is richer than yours, maybe it is a framework that binds you, and wants you to develop good living habits and do things in an orderly and planned way. You should admit your mistake and have the courage to take it. You should know how to be grateful and be a contented person. Because your parents provide you with food, clothing, housing and transportation, you should use the mirror to correct your behavior, and don't lose your temper when you shouldn't!

Third, you also said that your mother likes to make fun of your sore spot. When you are angry, she still thinks you are narrow-minded. Since you know this is a joke, consider it a joke. Maybe your mother can't joke, and some people just can't joke. Black humor hurts people's self-esteem, but he or she doesn't know that he or she is wrong. Perhaps this is because the mother is afraid of overindulging her children and wants to train you to take care of yourself and be self-disciplined. You can directly say to your mother, "Everyone wants respect, and children are no exception." Son, your life is normal, and your body and mind can be healthy. Do things in an organized and planned way, and try not to let mom catch you!

In short, children, respect, understanding and tolerance are regarded as the three strings of the Chinese nation's inheritance and communication.

I think there is a lack of communication between you and your mother. If we can communicate well and eliminate misunderstandings, it will still be a good mother-child relationship. Love can win love, but hate can't win love. My mother gave birth to me, gave birth to me, kissed me, taught me and raised me. I should repay her. As the saying goes: "Beating is pro, scolding is love." Mother's kindness is as high as a mountain and as deep as the sea!

Children; Only mother is good in the world. You must have heard this song. Your mother is, and she hates iron. She talks too much. It hurt you. Don't have psychological pressure. Face what my mother said correctly, adjust my mentality and be a young and energetic child. Everything your mother does is for your own good.

Don't you know that you are still a rebellious child? If not, you should reflect on it. Your own mother can't stand it and hates her guts! Who will you trust in the future? Can you still get along with friends?

Your mother always likes to compare you with others. She thinks you are inferior to others and suspects that you can't do things well. Have you ever wondered why your mother is like this? Do you despise your daughter? It seems that you really understand it that way.

Mom also makes fun of your sore spot. You're angry. Mom says you are narrow-minded. What's your sore spot? It's a weakness, it's your weakness. I said my mother didn't criticize you. I said it in a joke. What a good mother! It means that she is very attentive to you. She is in no hurry. She wants you to overcome your shortcomings slowly.

Then think about a question, who gave you life and who raised you? Whose milk did you grow up on? I don't understand this truth! ! ! !

I hate my mother. I used to have this mentality. When my mother died, I regretted it, and there was always a pain in my heart. This is my true feeling.

Hello, seeing your question, I suddenly thought of my daughter. I wonder if my daughter feels the same way. If so, I feel very sad.

First of all, I want to make it clear that I understand your psychology very well, and there is no need to scold you, because I also have a daughter, and I feel very worried when I am far away. Staying together for a period of time will lead to quarrels, and it is annoying to think about it. I also hope that you can see my answer and give yourself some reflection, which can help you get out of this psychological shadow. Let me say some of my opinions, and I'm sure your mother must be the same.

1. First of all, you should believe that mom is the one who loves you the most in the world. Let's not talk about how great maternal love is here, but you have to believe that mom will always be the one who wants you to live well. That's why I will urge you to work hard and be excellent. My mother went through it, too. Maybe sometimes you can't understand your requirements, but my mother's requirements for you must be what she thinks is the best. The last thing you want to hear is that this is all for your own good.

It is precisely because your mother loves you from the heart that you have willful capital. Look how hard it is for those children who have no mothers. Their thoughts are precocious, so they think they are very sensible, and your psychology just shows whether you are born in happiness or pampered. The reason is my mother's silent care and love.

You have to believe that everyone's life is very difficult, especially mom. Mom's control over you is that she doesn't want you to get hurt when you are suffering outside like her. Your mother's nagging is to learn how to be a man, how to make progress, and how to be a happy person. We can consider this problem from different angles. If you hate your mother very much and feel particularly depressed, if you try to put yourself in her position, in fact, her heart is more sad than yours, and sometimes she even has a feeling of despair, which is a pain you won't understand. But to be angry is to be angry. When things are over, there will only be a daughter who bears a grudge, and there will be no mother who bears a grudge.

Take my daughter for example. I think she is a lucky girl. I say this because she is going to be a junior now. I can say that I forced everything she has now, and now she thinks this is exactly the life she wants. When my daughter was in junior high school, we were not with her because of the needs of life. She let herself go at her grandmother's house. As a result, in junior high school, her grades fell to the lower-middle level in her class. I decided to transfer her now. She cried for two whole days. I felt that she hated me so much that she gnashed her teeth and complained that we didn't understand and respect her, but she agreed to us. This is her luck. After our high-pressure control, although I didn't see her for a semester, her grades made rapid progress in just half a semester. I believe that if there is no mother's insistence and only the child's immature and simple temperament, all this will be a dream world.

Learn to understand your mother, even if she sometimes goes too far, learn to improve her attitude. I believe that there is a heart hidden under her strict appearance that can pay for you all my life. When you leave your mother and grow up, you won't have a deep hatred for her. People are two different concepts and orientations. Only by mutual change and mutual humility can we understand each other's feelings. Just as my daughter doesn't talk to me like before, my daughter is a little cotton-padded jacket in my mother's heart after all. Because the daughter finally understood her mother's heart.

So children, calm down and think about it, don't always feel wronged, and no mother is used to be angry with herself when she gives birth to a baby. It is normal for two people to have conflicts and quarrels together, but it is over. Don't take it to heart, because this is the intertwined life of you and your mother, and it is also the fate of this life. Cherish it and love your mother. I believe that when you can change your mind and attitude from the bottom of your heart, your mother will not be as annoying as you think.

Mom is very demanding of you,

Have a heart-to-heart talk!

Love your mother, she gave you life.

I want to tell you, son, if you think so, you must be wrong. What puzzles have you experienced in your life, how much misunderstanding you have with your mother, which broke your heart and made you hate her like this. You hate your mother, doubt life, and regard your mother as an enemy because you don't understand her good intentions. How many parents in the world have nurtured their children with youth, and how many silent spring days have gone to Qiu Lai to love you, all because of your unbridled rebellion, their good intentions have come to nothing.

You don't know how a pregnant mother spent that miserable October, how many nights in trouble sleeping, how many people were cautious and prevaricated, but she forced herself to swallow a terrible meal when she couldn't eat. She is depressed, sad and afraid. Edema, distortion, skin deterioration, no makeup every day, she will walk on thin ice, according to high-standard dietary requirements, you can't eat this and that, and finally risk your life to bring you to this brand-new world. The greatest love in the world is to give you life. She gave you her whole world.

You don't know how a mother raised you from infancy, and how many days and nights she stood by your side and gave you warmth and love. Who taught you to whisper, who taught you to walk step by step, who made you eat and wear warm clothes, who made you go to school to enjoy education and edification, and who tried to make your life better.

You grow up slowly in your mother's arms, and her mother slowly adds flowers and hair to the years. Your rebellious and naughty behavior broke her heart. No matter when and where, whether you are safe or not, you are still her unchanging child, and she will still nag for you.

You and your mother have created an insurmountable gap and estrangement. You should stop rushing, it's time to reflect. Have you ever wondered if you are too rebellious and stubborn and your mother is too strict? If you are still a student, study hard, please focus on your studies, don't waste your best time on useless things, and don't be unrestrained and free to go your own way. If there are many misunderstandings with your mother because of life or study, you should learn to be good at communicating with your mother, listen to her thoughts and express your thoughts calmly. If your mother misunderstood you, explain the problem clearly and thoroughly. If you misunderstand your mother, you should sincerely apologize to your mother and strive for her understanding. Communication is the only way to solve contradictions, and self-reflection is the lubricant of good communication. Through communication, "know yourself and know yourself" dare to admit their mistakes and shortcomings.

China's parents' ardent hope for their children for thousands of years cannot be changed after all. Parents are like an umbrella. Whether it is sunny or rainy, they will always hold us in their arms. It is an unchangeable fact that our parents love us. They want us to study hard, become talents and have a better life in the future. Is it wrong that they want us to have a better life in the future? Because parents' education and environment are different, we are educated in different ways. Their initial intention is to make us live well, but the ways and means of expression are different. The harsh methods will make you unacceptable for a while, so they have a great misunderstanding of their mother.

As a child, you don't have the same life experience as your mother. You can't understand the mother's mentality of "expecting her children to succeed", but it doesn't prevent you from putting yourself in the woman's shoes and understanding her hardships. One day, when you are also a parent, you will face a naughty child. No matter how annoying and incomprehensible he is, you will still love her as before, and you will still teach her seriously.

It's not easy for mom to give birth to us once. But with the pursuit of age, we know what the world is like. Just as we should thank our mother for bringing us into this world. But in life, what my mother sometimes does inevitably makes us feel bored and angry. But anyway, she is the mother who gave birth to us and raised us, so forgive them even if they are wrong. To err is human, so let's take her words as an obstacle to our progress. When we have our own life, we will look back at those obstacles and be nostalgic. At this time, you will feel that mother is another kind of care for us.