People who are too cautious are really bad.

People who are too cautious are really bad.

People who are too cautious are really bad. In daily life, everyone has his own characteristics, but some people with delicate thoughts are not as good as we think. Next, I will take you to know something about the fact that people who are too careful are really bad.

People who are too narrow-minded are really bad. 1 People who are too narrow-minded will always live in trouble and loss. Faced with many trivial things in life, they care too much, helping others and ruining themselves.

1, the heart is too narrow, there must always be a degree.

Some people say, is caution bad? Better than carelessness. However, have you ever thought that if you are too cautious, people around you will mind you and keep finding faults, and eventually you will face the problem of being too cautious.

My friend Xiaomei is in love. Love is a strange thing. Some people live a sweet life, while others live a fragmented life.

Xiaomei's boyfriend Zhang Zhang is a careful person. As the saying goes, "details determine success or failure."

Zhang Zhang undoubtedly touched Xiaomei with details. But as the days passed, Xiaomei gradually began to hate her boyfriend's endless "details." Going out to play with friends needs to be reported, and there must be a phone report; Even the details of life should be involved.

Is Zhang Zhang too cautious or Xiaomei too sensitive?

This kind of love and endless relationship without personal privacy has finally come to an end.

Love doesn't mean having each other all the time, but don't interfere in personal space. Too close relationship is always the fuse of breaking up. In love, being too sensitive will also be the fuse of breaking up, and being too careful, but there must be a degree.

This degree should not only be well controlled, but also the distance should be appropriately increased.

2, the heart is too thin, and occasionally you can be careless.

I once read a sentence: "if you look at something too thoroughly, life will be boring."

A person's maturity lies not in how many friends he has made, but in whether he has learned to be alone, peaceful and have a mentality.

It is difficult to have a peaceful mind. The modern world is full of feasts, and it is easy to make people feel emotional. With more experience, the surface and essence of things have changed.

Seeing everything too thoroughly is nothing more than that people have experienced too much and realized the truth of being a man and the way of doing things. In the face of other new things, they always substitute their "carefulness", but this is not happy.

Let's talk about the ancients first

We all know the battle of Chu and Han. Xiang Yu repeatedly defeated Liu Bang in the frontal battlefield, but Peng Yue constantly destroyed the supplies of the Chu army in the rear, which eventually led to Xiang Yu's escape by Liu Bang's army. Xiang Yu fled all the way to Wujiang and met the curator of Wujiang Pavilion. The director advised Xiang Yu to return to Jiangdong to make a comeback, but Xiang Yu was worried that he would be accused by his elders in Jiangdong and eventually committed suicide.

Xiang Yu didn't go back to Jiangdong because he had too many worries, so how did he know that Jiangdong's elders were blaming him? Everything is his own business.

And so on, Zhuge Liang also famously said, "Look before you leap." Wei Yan's surprise attack on Chang 'an in the afternoon valley was a clever plan, but he lost the best opportunity because he considered his opponent too wisely.

The story of the ancients has always been our reference. Being too careful, worrying too much, thinking too much about the ending and losing the best opportunity are the biggest failures.

3, the heart is too thin, try to be flexible.

Psychological caution has two meanings. One meaning is' cautious', which describes someone who is bold and meticulous in doing things. This kind of person's caution is used in work and study. The advantage is that he works hard and makes no mistakes.

There is nothing wrong with caution. If you are too cautious, you will live very tired and have a wonderful life. There is no need to live so tired.

Both researchers and doctors need this cautious advantage, which is a professional need.

Another kind of mental discipline is derogatory, indicating that this person's mind is too delicate and fragile, especially in interpersonal relationships.

For example, in A Dream of Red Mansions, Lin Daiyu is such a sensitive person who is too cautious.

After receiving a gift from Xifeng, she will want to know that she is the last one. Seeing that Jia Baoyu is close to other sisters, she will think more.

For example, the famous Daiyu burying flowers is related to the environment where Daiyu lives under the fence, but this behavior should not be "cautious". The unhappy Lin Daiyu always leads an unhappy life.

Life will never end, always hold your own thoughts in your own mind.

If you are too cautious, you should learn to be flexible, and you should know where to use your caution.

If you want a better life, you should be careful with yourself, and don't be too open and too restrained.

People who are too cautious are really bad. People who are too careful can often see it from these four little things.

First, treating others with pleasure is actually duplicity.

Many times, these people are kind, and getting along with them feels like spring breeze, giving people a quality that is easy to get, so it is easy for ordinary people to think that they are worth making friends, but in fact this is just a character habit. They are good at observing and like to cater to each other, so they can always gain the trust of others.

They usually show enthusiasm and say hello if there is anything useful in the future, but when you really need help, they find that this is not the case. Although they won't refuse directly, they will find various reasons to shirk and let you retreat.

Second, be versatile and win friends like a cloud every day.

This kind of person is very tactful in doing things for others. They have developed the habit of being neutral at any time and anywhere, and will not easily offend anyone. On the contrary, they sometimes make friends or help others mediate conflicts, which is why they can become mediators in the crowd.

Because of this, they have a wide circle of friends and basically have a good relationship with everyone. No matter where you go, friends will be in groups of three or five, but such people will never fall to a certain camp, let alone tell others the truth, so there are very few friends who can talk to each other.

Third, emotions are intangible, and people are true and false.

This kind of person is invisible. No matter how they feel, they will not show their true emotions, because emotions are often a person's weakness. Exposing one's weakness casually not only shows one's weakness, but also easily leads to one's crisis.

At the same time, they will not treat anyone with all their sincerity, and all their performances when they get along with others are done through increase or decrease and deliberately, so in the eyes of some people who have read countless people, such people are hypocritical.

Fourth, think twice when something happens, and feel uneasy all day.

Such people often bring trouble to themselves. Because they like to think carefully about everything and are too cautious about their words and deeds, they often make themselves very sensitive. Any troubles, any psychological doubts, will be infinitely magnified in their hearts. This is an act of insecurity. They are afraid of failure and mistakes and want to do everything perfectly. They are the most typical perfectionists

However, too sensitive personality will also bring great pain to yourself. For example, before going out, you need to confirm several times to refuel and lock the door; Important work assigned by the leaders needs to be checked repeatedly before they dare to submit it; When in doubt, you need to get several identical answers at the same time to feel at ease. In the long run, it will only make you nervous all day.

People who are too cautious are really bad. What about a man who is too cautious?

Men who pay attention to these details deserve your good treatment.

Turgenev wrote such a sentence in the book, "Only when people are in love can they show their brilliance and originality." Only when you really love someone will you want to make yourself better and let her see your Excellence, but it is often your carefulness that moves people. A man who knows how to pay attention to these details must be treated well by you.

Your various preferences

A man who loves you will clearly remember your various preferences. After all, this is also a way for him to please and get close to you. It is because he cares about you that he can remember these things. You don't need to doubt whether he really loves you. Even if he did, it's hard for you to escape in this Mao Mao rain and silent offensive. But you should know that men are not emotional animals, so if you don't like them, you can't last long. It's definitely worth treating your man sincerely.

Some emotional changes

It is difficult for you to hide your emotional changes in front of your lover, especially when negative emotions breed. Even if you don't want to show your fragile side in front of him, he can always find out, save your face and give you the care you need. It is because of his love for you that he can take care of you so carefully. I hope you can notice these little details and see how good he is to you. You know, the more you treat your man like this, the better he treats you than he looks.

The temperature on the hand

Even if you don't say it when you are cold, he can warm you for the first time through your performance or the temperature on your hands, perhaps holding your hand tightly, perhaps taking off your coat and putting it on you, no matter which one can move you. Because I love you, I naturally can't bear to let you suffer any injustice, not to mention the usual warmth and coldness. He can always tell you the weather changes in the first place, just like your exclusive weather forecast. He is worthy of your love. After all, only sincere love can last.

Special anniversary

Most people who remember anniversaries in love are girls. Because of their sensibility, they pay more attention to the sense of ceremony. In the eyes of girls, remembering these special anniversaries can better show their concern for this love, and naturally hope that he can be like himself. Therefore, for a girl, a man who can remember all the special anniversaries between two people must like it from the heart, so he will take pains to remember these trivial days. Similarly, she will feel your efforts in this relationship and will naturally treat it with care.

Gifts prepared when meeting parents

A man who loves you deeply will treat you as his wife after a while, and will always convey his thoughts to you imperceptibly, and want to take you to see your parents or take you home to see your parents. Before that, I will ask your parents' preferences very carefully, and the prepared gifts will be particularly rich. In this way, he will think that he can show sincerity. Seeing such a man, of course, you won't feel that you have chosen the wrong person, and you can secretly laugh.

Your physiological period

The girl's physiological period is sometimes not allowed, but she can send you brown sugar water in time and intimately every time to warm your stomach and reduce the pain when you come. This kind of thing is hard for men to notice. Only a man who really loves you can notice. You can also see whether he really loves you through this detail. If he is such a caring person who loves you, you will be very happy, provided that you don't squander his kindness to you at will.