What should I do if I don't want to drink on the wine table and offend people?

Many people have a headache when it comes to eating, because they are afraid of being persuaded to drink. They don't drink enough. When they drink, they are drunk. When they are drunk, they vomit. When they vomited, they felt sick all over. But the wine table is often a difficult occasion. If you don't eat toast, you will be punished. Often the more you avoid others, the more you chase them. Every time you say no, you always end up drunk and go home to sleep with the toilet.

So many people like to study various skills to avoid drinking or drink less. But in fact, if you just search online, you will find that the so-called ingenious ideas summed up by these predecessors are actually contradictory in many cases.

So what we are going to tell you today is a more general truth, that is, you must know wine before you can drink the wrong wine. Since you are here on the wine table, it is unrealistic not to drink at all, otherwise you can not come. Then all we can do is drink well, drink less, and drink on the cutting edge if you want.

So you have to understand something more important than drinking, which is what we have been emphasizing.

Three questions.

First, whose problem is it? That is to say, who are you helping by persuading you to drink?

Second, who has the right, that is to say, who has the final say in toasting and punishing each other, and no one dares to offend anyone.

Third, what are the expectations, that is, what are the real expectations of the people who let you drink for you and the wine bureau.

Generally speaking, there are two kinds of wine bureaus. One is the bureau with unequal rights, such as the leading bureau, the big coffee bureau and the Party A bureau, and the other is the bureau with equal rights, such as the classmate bureau, the colleague bureau and the friend bureau. No matter whether the group is equal or unequal, the wine field is a power field, which requires obedience to authority or majority. Wine is only the carrier of power transfer.

Why is this happening?

Because wine is a strange thing, which can make people enjoy it or feel uncomfortable, it can be used to show respect and punishment.

But now we are different from ancient times. We don't lack wine to drink, and we don't have to wait for dinner to enjoy this wine. Therefore, in practice, the effect of standby punishment is more prominent than respect.

What's more, we China people have a characteristic of drinking, that is, we never drink separately. Be sure to drink together, at least find two people to drink together. If I drink it, so should you. Do you want to tie it? Then where do you think this is enjoyment? This is clearly a fight!

But after all, it still has a respect side, which makes the core of punishment softened by the appearance of respect, so people are addicted to toasting.

If you understand these subtleties, we can analyze them with power relations as the core.

First of all, in the leading bureau, big coffee bureau and Party A bureau with unequal rights, the power relationship on the wine table is basically the same as that in reality. For example, at the annual meeting of the company, the boss may only drink a little, but everyone else at the table often drinks it all. If you want to respect the boss and the leader, it is often that you toast a lot, and then you toast first, and the boss can drink as much as he likes.

Therefore, in this game, the purpose of the superior to invite you to drink is really not the drinking itself. His toast makes you uncomfortable, and he needs you to prove your loyalty and obedience!

Therefore, many people say that the reason why they want to give up drinking and avoid drinking is because drinking is particularly uncomfortable. I think this is really a mistake! Because what people want is to make you feel bad! What people want is to see that you are willing to pity him without any benefit! So he can feel at ease.

So when you hear this, you should understand that you either feel uncomfortable after drinking it or hide it, which will also reduce the trust of the other party. You have to choose one!

But you really have a physical problem and can't drink it. What can you do? There are many ways to show obedience and loyalty. After all, drinking is not the only way!

A friend of mine tried to substitute acting for drinking. Although the performance was extremely embarrassing, the effect was very good. Everyone likes him very much, especially the boss, because this game is not a game that makes you comfortable, happy and beautiful. This game is to exchange trust by making you uncomfortable and embarrassed.

Therefore, for this kind of dinner, I recommend the "self-destructive wine hiding method". As soon as I came up, I used up all the wine, made a toast to the table, and then soon collapsed on the sofa stand and fainted.

It's called lying down and drinking! It means lying in a cubicle is the same thing as dying. This will make others feel that this person is sincere and has a good attitude, although he doesn't drink enough. Then the expectations of the other party will be met. Although you feel uncomfortable, the uncomfortable time is relatively short. You will wake up when everyone is drunk. Go home and want to exercise, just exercise. If you want to work overtime, nothing will be delayed.

Secondly, what are the classmates' bureau, colleagues' bureau and friends' bureau in affirmative action? It's simple. There are many bullies. An obvious performance is to punish alcohol. A group of people can punish a person, but I have never seen a person punish a group of people, unless it is the boss!

It's still the situation we mentioned earlier, so everyone will take the initiative to squeeze into the majority gang and try to find out a few dictators, such as who makes the most money, who has the highest status, who is the most popular with teachers at school, who has written love letters to Ban Hua or Ban Cao, and so on. In short, pick a place that can attract others to envy and hate, and you can draw a camp between the enemy and me and play the game of persuading wine.

At this time, we still have to use the "self-destruction method", but the usage here is different. It's self-mockery and self-mockery, from poor health, poor alcohol consumption and bad luck to complaining that the work is not smooth, the daughter-in-law is not good, and the boss is stingy, so that others can't find a reason to force you to drink, while others are extremely praising and flattering, which makes people feel embarrassed not to drink.

In short, since the dinner is called the bureau, there must be room and necessity to judge the bureau. Personally, though, I really don't like the social culture of wine tables in China. At the age of 30, I have never drunk. But for most friends, if you can't understand and examine the wine bureau, how can you overcome and get rid of it?

1, go to the table and explain why you don't drink; 2. Not talking will not lead to persuasion; 3. Try to give everyone water, not wine; 4, can't stop drinking, can't help but kill people after persuading, and so on. Therefore, if you want to be a sinner, you must stand the temptation and persuasion of wine. Only in this way can you win the trust of drinkers and customers.

Details of how to avoid getting drunk on the wine table

1

Tell others that you can't drink well.

Before you start drinking, tell others that you can't drink, you can't drink, you are allergic to alcohol, and others may believe you. If acquaintances drink together, most people know how much they can drink. At this time, they say that they are unwell, have a cold, or have other conditions that are not suitable for drinking. You must insist on not drinking or drinking less from the beginning. Once you drink, you can't stop.

2

Deliberately drink less to conserve energy.

After the wine field starts, it will go through round after round, including toasting, raising wine and drinking. According to different situations, drink as little as possible and keep your strength until the last round of drinking, then you will win. If you drink too fast, it's easy to get drunk, fall down, vomit and feel uncomfortable. So when you start drinking, you should pay attention to drinking less and slowly.

three

Silence, less talk, no attention.

There is a phenomenon on the wine table. The more people talk, the easier it is to attract others' attention and the more they drink. It has become the focus on the wine table, and there will be more people toasting and persuading wine. It is inevitable to drink too much. So if you don't want to drink more, talk less and attract less attention.

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Pretend to be drunk and have no support

Some people may recognize you because of their relationship with you or other reasons and have been advising you to drink. At this time, you can pretend to be drunk and exhausted, and you can't hold on. After some persuasion, others gave up. This way, you can avoid getting drunk, and then you can watch them drink nonstop from one side.

five

Eat vegetables and drink water to dilute alcohol.

Some people forget to eat and drink water after drinking on the wine table, which is easy to get drunk, and the alcohol concentration in the body is too high, which hurts the stomach. Remember to eat more vegetables, drink more water and drink less on the wine table.

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I can't find you in the toilet often.

Going to the toilet often is also a good way to avoid drinking too much, because if you go to the toilet, others will not stop to wait for you. The less time you spend on the wine table, the less wine you drink. If you can't drink and are afraid of being drunk by others, you should go to the toilet more often.

If you don't want to drink anymore, there are many reasons. First, I was afraid of being toasted and advised to get drunk after drinking too much. Second, you have been warned by that party to drink less cat urine and eat more vegetables. Third, some people really taste bad, but they still have to join in the fun. I also drink a lot. I dare to drink, I can drink, but ten eight people can stand it. You can have a drink or two in a bar, and then sit at the banquet and watch Lohas without saying anything, for fear of offending people by saying the wrong thing. If you have such an idea, I advise you that it is your best policy to refuse this kind of drinking party in the future, and don't let others sneer behind your back. I think this is a good idea. Personal opinions do not represent others, but express opinions in names. thank you

I have eaten it at least once or twice. No one will remember these useless things in life. I don't drink or smoke, and my relatives, neighbors and friends all know not to persuade me to drink, which saves me a lot of trouble and has no experience in this field. Accidents, beatings, injuries and even deaths caused by drinking. The radio station reported the wedding drinking incident, and the family of the deceased filed a lawsuit with the host through the court, claiming100000 yuan. Nowadays, wineries are much more civilized, and it won't be like in the past if you don't toast each other. Cattle don't drink water, press their heads hard. Getting married was a good thing, but it would be bad if it ended in a lawsuit.

Toast is just a formality in the future, and the organizer will not make trouble for himself again! Thank you!

You do it all, I will do it at will.

China's wine culture is profound and has a long history. Every place has a set of routines and table rules to persuade wine. As a member of society, especially business people, they even exchange alcohol consumption and health for business in order to sign contracts. So how to avoid drinking on the wine table without offending people? There are several ways to avoid drinking.

First, if you really don't want to drink, want to give up drinking all your life, or you can't drink because of physical reasons, you can label yourself as a self-drinker, take two things with you, check the report and medicine, and tell others clearly that you can't touch alcohol now, and drinking it will be life-threatening. I don't think any buddy or client will stick to it for a long time regardless of your life safety. Everyone knows that you don't drink, so you won't be advised to drink!

Second, change your workplace or social circle, stay away from those old drinkers, and don't touch a glass when socializing with these new friends and partners. Tell everyone that this is inherited from your ancestors and you can't drink it. As long as you drink a little, you will be allergic all over, your heart will beat faster, and you need hospitalization. So everyone will know that you have given up drinking and won't persuade you to drink.

Third, if you meet an acquaintance, everyone knows that you used to drink, and you really can't pass. The only way is to pretend to be drunk. After one or two glasses of wine, you will fall asleep on the sofa. When you leave, let people take you away, and let everyone know that you are drunk when you touch wine, and don't advise you to drink. Over time, you will give up drinking, and your friends will not persuade you.

Friends need wine to entertain communication and business negotiation. Without wine, they may be healthier. However, without wine, there will be many fewer friends and a lot of fun in life. We advocate healthy drinking, ecological drinking, don't expect drinking, and don't persuade drinking! Good luck comes every day!

This question was asked. I'm really not good at it. Either I won't go or I'll go for a drink. Honest and frank personality is particularly unsuitable for other women's sitcoms. I can't wait to focus the attention of the whole table on her. If I drink a little more, I want to hit someone.

The most effective way to avoid drinking at the wine table

One is to pretend to be sick.

Learn "Landlord, bachelor, pretend to be sick and don't go to work", so you pretend to be sick and don't drink. Pretending to be sick is cursing yourself. You can only pretend to be a minor illness, not a serious illness. If you say you have hepatitis or cancer, you will scare people away. It is really such a disease. If you want to drink, others will discourage you. Therefore, it is necessary to "groan without illness."

I got sick as soon as I went to the wine table and covered my stomach. Before the wine started, I said, "I have a stomachache and can't touch the wine!" " I just had a minor operation and the doctor told me not to drink. "At this time, there is medicine in your pocket. If someone doesn't believe me, show him the medicine.

Besides, don't be soft-hearted If others say, "wine fields should guard against four kinds of people: those who wear glasses, those who take medicine, those who blush and those who wear braids." He also said that "it is better to break a hole in your stomach than to let your feelings split", so you should refrain from drinking. Never give up halfway.

The second is to slip.

You should take the initiative in the wine field, not be beaten passively.

It's your boss who makes excuses to propose a toast to him. What wine meets a thousand cups of bosom friends? Give him a toast. What's for the dearest leader to have another drink? What feelings are deep and shallow, give him another drink; After the fish or turtle comes up, move out of the fish culture and let him drink three more cups. After that, you open the company you invited and pour the wine of the leader. No matter how big it is, it can't hold many people. When he drinks too much, you are liberated.

If you come from the same level or lower level, or you can't drink much, drink a big glass first and shock them first. When they see how big you are, they turn around. On some occasions, you must fight hard. What should I do? My method is to get a revolving pot in advance and ask the waiter to pour water for me and wine for others. When there is no revolving kettle, ask the waiter to bottle a bottle of wine and a bottle of mineral water. This kind of hands and feet should be done seamlessly. It would be terrible if someone found out.

In addition, arrange for my subordinates to call me. Come out and answer a few more phone calls, and I'll drink less. Another is to pretend to be drunk in the middle. Dance, talk nonsense, or even lie on the table and pretend to sleep. The key is to pretend. Another is to bring a subordinate who can drink a lot and let him drink for you.

Just say that you have taken anti-inflammatory drugs and can't drink!