Children always say "I won't"? Mom and dad's answer is very important.

Children always say "I won't"? Mom and dad's answer is very important.

"I won't!"

"I dare not."

"Mom, come and help me!"

Faced with various challenges in life, children will show fear of difficulties.

At this time, how to respond to our children, which can not only encourage him to face challenges, but also enhance his self-confidence, is particularly important.

Especially compared with ineffective encouragement, effective encouragement and communication are more important, and the following three types of words should be said less:

I believe you can do it, come on!

How dare you say no before doing it!

Well, if you don't do it, don't do it, and don't do it again!

So what is more effective encouragement?

1, first accept the feelings that children dare not try.

We can listen to children with respect and guide them to say what they really think.

We can say this to our children:

1, "Do you think this is a bit difficult? It is normal to feel this way. "

2. "Adults sometimes say that challenging things will happen, and my mother has had such a time."

You can tell your mother what you think and see if she can help you. Let's see what we can do to make it better. "

In this way, children can understand that fear of difficulties is normal, not terrible, and not shameful.

2. Help children recall past experiences and affirm their abilities.

Talk to your child about his past achievements and how he did it, and help him find evidence of "I can do it" from the past.

For example, we can say:

1, "Do you remember your first roller skating?"

2. "You know how to ask children who skate well, and you will also carefully observe how other children learn to skate, right?"

3. "The most important thing is that you keep practicing!"

Let children understand that we should have the courage to try. Through practice, we can do well.

3. Disassemble the target to reduce the difficulty.

Children can achieve big goals by breaking them down into small goals.

For example, children are afraid to speak in front of the audience:

1, we can ask him to tell the little doll at home;

2. Then tell mom and dad slowly;

Invite another child to play a story-telling game at home.

4. Then slowly invite more children to come home and play the speech contest with them.

By completing a small goal, let the children experience that I can do it! In the end, we can also achieve challenging big goals.

4, usually create opportunities to help children accumulate successful experience.

Usually, let the children do what they can, such as doing housework, tidying up the closet, trying to cook simple dishes and so on.

Children who experience the feeling of success will improve their self-confidence. In this way, they are more motivated to try what they were afraid to do before.