How about a letter of criticism for staying late and drinking?

Remember the last time you got drunk

Literally, we mean "getting drunk" rather than "drinking".

For most people, "drinking a glass of wine" has long meant a happy time for three or five friends to laugh and laugh. Based on the different ages of each of us and the environment around us when we first drank, we all had all kinds of memories and expectations (sometimes anxious), which made us recall a glass of cold beer, a cocktail, gin and tonic water, whisky and beer, a sip of red wine or something like that.

Over and over again, in the early drinking process of most people, the expectation of alcohol can always meet the actual need to drink alcohol.

if it happens to be appropriate every time, we naturally think that "drinking a glass of wine" is a pleasant experience, which not only meets our own needs, but also does not exceed the norms of religious customs. At the same time, it satisfies the desire, caters to the etiquette of social occasions, and helps us relax, cheer up and achieve our various pursuit goals. For example, a 55-year-old Finn, when someone asks him for a drink, can't help but immediately remind him of the warmth brought by drinking a glass or two of brandy or vodka in cold weather when he was young.

If she is a young woman, she may immediately think of a gorgeous crystal cup filled with champagne, fragrant clothes, intimate friendship and romantic atmosphere, or a young man dressed as a cowboy with a beard and long hair in a rock concert, taking out a bottle of booze from a bag full of bottled wine, the flashing lights are constantly flashing, the smoke is everywhere, and everyone is screaming and screaming, which is exciting. One A.A. member said: "Have a drink" is almost synonymous with eating pizza and drinking beer.

Another 78-year-old widow said that she often couldn't help thinking of the habit of having a glass of sherry at bedtime when she was in a nursing home. Although this impression of drinking in our minds is very natural, it is misleading in our current situation, which is also the way some of us start drinking.

If this is the way we drink, it is unlikely that we will deteriorate into a drinking problem later. However, if we examine the process of drinking without fear, we can see that no matter how hard we try, there has never been such a perfect and magical time in our last few years or months of drinking.

instead, we repeatedly find that our actual drinking capacity is much greater than this, which always leads to some trouble in the end. Maybe we only feel a little guilty about drinking too much in private.

but sometimes it will turn into a violent quarrel, which will affect one's work and even lead to serious illness, accidents, or legal and financial problems. So, when a "drink" suggestion comes up, now we try to recall the whole process from the beginning of drinking to the last poor drunkenness and hangover.

generally speaking, the invitation of ordinary friends to propose a glass of wine is purely a way of social intercourse and a glass or two of tasting.

But if we carefully recall all the details of the pain caused by our last drunkenness, we won't be fooled by the long-held impression of "drinking a glass of wine".

Now we can frankly admit that in terms of our real physiological reaction, we are quite sure that a cup of yellow soup will mean that we will get drunk again sooner or later, which will bring a series of troubles.

drinking no longer means music and joy to us, but memories of illness and regret. An A.A. member once said, "I know that if I go to a bar for a drink now, it will never be the same as before, just taking a little time and spending some money."

This glass of wine will exhaust my bank account, my family, my house, my car, my job, my sanity and even my life. This is really too big a risk. "

he remembered the last time he got drunk, not the first time he drank.

The difference between alcoholism and alcoholism:

Alcoholism and alcoholism are completely different concepts.

For example, when you see two people drinking together, they are both drunk. If one is an alcoholic and the other is an alcoholic, although the appearance is exactly the same, their essence is completely different.

alcoholism-refers to long-term and heavy drinking;

alcoholism-refers to losing control of alcohol!

Long-term and heavy drinking is not necessarily an alcoholic; Drinking occasionally does not necessarily mean that you are not an alcoholic.

the root of the problem is whether we can control the amount of alcohol. If we can control the amount of alcohol, even if we drink a lot every day, then this is alcoholism, not alcoholism.

if you take a sip of wine, you can't stop, even if you drink it once every few months. This is an alcoholic, that is, an alcoholic.

Alcoholism is a habit, and alcoholism is a disease, which cannot be mentioned in the same breath.

There is a misunderstanding here, that is to say, many alcoholics have given up drinking, so it is totally wrong to think that alcoholics can't give up drinking because of their willpower, perseverance, quality and morality.

Because this is two different things in itself, an alcoholic's abstinence from alcohol is just to change a habit.

However, alcoholics who quit drinking face a powerful disease.

remember: alcoholism is an incurable, progressive and fatal disease.

Many people in the world know that they are not allowed to eat certain foods ―― oysters, strawberries, eggs, cucumbers, sugar or anything else ―― once eaten, they may not feel too uncomfortable but may cause serious diseases.

People who are allergic to food may feel very inferior. They often complain that the creation is unfair, which makes them lose their ability to enjoy delicious food.

Alcoholics can never drink in moderation, so our goal of abstinence is naturally to stay sober for life!

2. Stay away from the first glass of wine

"If you don't drink the first glass of wine, you won't get drunk." "One cup is too much, but twenty cups are not enough."

when we change from drinking more to drinking, frequent drunkenness seriously interferes with our life and work, so we reduce the number of drinking, or try to control the amount of alcohol to one or two glasses, or switch from high-alcohol to beer or wine, so as not to get too drunk. Maybe we can stay sober for a period of time, and then meet the opportunity (some special celebrations, personal confusion or nothing special at all), and we will start drinking again. At first, we want to drink only one glass. Since one glass of wine has not caused any serious consequences, we think it is safe to drink another. But it turns out that it's just a trap-when we drink two or three glasses, we feel good, and then we feel that it won't be a problem to drink one or two glasses with our capacity. As a result, we couldn't help drinking too much and returned to the original state of drunkenness.

Doctors who specialize in alcohol dependence tell us that it is the first glass of wine that triggers the potential desire to drink, and then makes us out of control. This repeated experience leads us to the conclusion that it is impossible to try to control the drinking plan without getting drunk, and avoiding the key glass of wine-"never misbehave the first glass" can keep us awake for a long time.

Alcohol dependence is an addiction to alcohol. As a soft drug, alcohol is just like any other addictive substance. If we want to stay in a state of recovery, we have to stay away from the anesthetic that caused our addiction in the first dose.

3. Use the "24-hour" plan

On the days of heavy drinking, we often solemnly swear "Never drink again" when we are very uncomfortable. "I vowed not to drink for a year. ",said from the heart, we really don't want to get drunk again. Of course, some people will have reservations: saying that this oath is only for "spirits", not beer. In fact, beer and wine can also make us drunk, but we need to drink more to achieve the same effect as white wine. We are as hurt by drinking beer and wine as we are by drinking spirits.

However, after a while, the vows and painful memories will be forgotten. We started drinking again at some point. Our "forever" can never last.

Of course, some of them did keep their promises and quit for a long time, two months, six months, or a year. Until the time came, we felt that we should be able to drink freely and in control ... We resumed drinking, and soon fell into the original trouble with new guilt and regret.

Alcohol dependence is a permanent and irreversible disease. Our experience tells us not to make a long-term vow to stay awake. A more practical and effective way to put it is: "I just don't drink today."

maybe we drank yesterday, but we can decide not to drink today. No matter what temptation and anger we encounter, we try our best to avoid drinking the first glass of wine today.

If the desire to drink alcohol is too strong, then divide the 24 hours into smaller units-at least one hour-and we can tolerate the discomfort caused by this temporary cessation of drinking, then one more hour! Another hour! Go on. If we succeed today, we have reason to believe that we can do it tomorrow.

the "24-hour" plan is very arbitrary. We can start over at any time, no matter where we are. At home, at work, in the hospital ward, at 4: in the afternoon or at 3: in the morning, we can decide not to touch alcohol for the next 24 hours or 5 minutes at any time.

We are just trying to live today (now), just to stay awake-it really works. Once this way of thinking has become a part of our thinking, we find that a 24-hour life is equally effective and satisfactory for dealing with other things.

4. Take action

The more we want to stay away from alcohol, the more we want to drink. Therefore, it is not enough to simply stay away from alcohol (or not to think about drinking).

once you stop drinking, how do you spend the spare time? Most of us have formal work to do, but there is still a lot of free time to kill. Therefore, we must cultivate new hobbies and arrange colorful activities to fill these hours, and at the same time find an appropriate outlet for the energy that was once addicted to alcohol.

there are many things that can be done that are suitable for us and meaningful.

1. At the beginning of abstinence, you can take a walk or a brisk walk. Especially to new places you have never been. Go for a leisurely stroll in the park or country road, but it's not a tiring March.

2. read. Although some of us can't settle down to reading, we should really read some books, so as to broaden our horizons, increase our life experience and concentrate more.

3. Visit museums or galleries, and some people choose photography.

4. Swimming, running, cycling, yoga or other exercises recommended by the doctor.

5. Start to deal with household chores that have been neglected for a long time. Tidy up the wardrobe, dresser, file documents in different categories, or deal with things that we have put off for a long time. But when we do these things, we should not be greedy and do what we can. Don't clean the whole kitchen or all the documents at once, but clean one drawer or one file folder at a time and do other work another day.

6. Try to cultivate new hobbies. Choose activities that are not too expensive or demanding, that are purely recreational, refreshing and refreshing without competition pressure. For example, singing, writing, tropical fish, carpentry, basketball, cooking, bird watching, amateur performances, wood carving, gardening, guitar, movies, dance, stone carving, potted plants, collection and so on. Many people find that the activity they really like now is actually a hobby that they never considered trying in the past.

7. regain the fun of the past. A watercolor painting, table tennis or go, reading notes, etc. that you haven't polished for many years, continue these hobbies. But if you feel that it is no longer suitable for you, just give it up.

8. Go to class. Learn Japanese or English? Love history or math? Want to know about archaeology or anthropology? Or cooking, computer operation, then go to correspondence courses, TV universities or adult education (just for interest, not necessarily a credit certificate). There are many places where you can take classes only once a week. Why not try it? Taking classes can not only broaden your horizons, but also broaden your life. In case you are tired of the content of the class, don't hesitate to quit immediately Learn to give up activities that are not beneficial to ourselves or have no positive, positive and healthy significance, so that we can summon up the courage to face it again and have the opportunity to appreciate a new aspect of life besides drinking.

9. volunteer to do some useful services. Many hospitals, children's service agencies and social welfare organizations are in great need of volunteers to provide various services. We can have many choices. When we can contribute to others, even if it is only a trivial service, we will feel particularly useful. Even when we talk about the process of participating in these activities and related information, we will feel very interested and particularly engaged.

1. dress yourself up. Most of us know that there are many ways to get a new haircut, wear a new dress, change a pair of glasses, or even update our teeth, which will have unexpected and pleasant effects.

11. Relax and play! Not everything we do in our daily life must be aggressive and innovative. We also need to do some activities purely for interest, such as kites, zoos, comedy movies, soul music, detective stories and so on. If you don't like them, find other fun activities that have nothing to do with drinking, just to reward yourself.

5. Change old habits

In the process of drinking, we have fixed time periods, familiar places and habitual activities. Especially when we are tired, hungry, lonely, angry or particularly happy, these seemingly ordinary and repeated scenes are dangerous traps for our sober life.

when we first started to give up drinking, it is very helpful to look back on our past drinking habits to find ways to overcome alcohol addiction. The place where we are often used to buying wine may be a supermarket we pass through at work, and each of us always has our favorite drinking place. Whether it's drinking with friends or habitual drinking at a fixed time every day, we can find out when and on what days we are used to drinking from the past drinking trajectory.

We can adjust all the details of life related to drinking.

6. Use sweets or drinks

Try not to let yourself be hungry-when you are hungry, the urge to drink is even stronger. At this time, eating sweets or snacks and nutritious foods seems to reduce our thirst for alcohol. Because sweetness can inhibit the impulse to drink, the eating process itself will bring a series of new body movements: chewing and swallowing when drinking drinks, milk, biscuits and fruits, etc., which is also very helpful to change the old habits when drinking.

When some alcoholics hear the suggestion of eating more instead of drinking, they may be worried about whether they will get fatter after eating more. In fact, after replacing the calorie supply of alcohol with a healthy and balanced diet, some overweight people have removed excess fat and lost weight. Of course, some people may get fat, but it can be controlled-after all, it is much easier to lose weight than to give up drinking.

according to the conclusion of current medical research, eating more foods rich in vitamin B can not only make up for the vitamin deficiency caused by our long-term alcoholism, but also help to reduce alcohol addiction.