Why do you feel motivated after giving birth to a son?

It’s really strange, why is it that after giving birth to a son, one has the motivation to strive, but after giving birth to a daughter, one becomes lazy?

What kind of thinking is at work? To put it bluntly, it is selfishness. Isn’t the child you gave birth to just a tool?

A son is used to carry on the family line and provide for the elderly. Even if he is exhausted for his son, it is still for himself.

Daughters are just accessories that are born to be sweet and funny, just like raising pets. Sooner or later, they will become other family members. If they marry well, they can promote their sons and supplement their pension.

It’s really heartbreaking.

At this point in being a parent, the underlying thinking is calculation.

The house and the car that should be prepared for my son should not be left behind, so that he can be practical and happy even though he works hard. A nanny whose daughter-in-law takes care of her son, cleans, and gives birth to children. Take care of the elderly when you get old. If you ask them where they get their confidence, they take it for granted that their unrelated daughter-in-law must take care of them.

No wonder the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a big problem.

Think about it, two people with foreign surnames in Lao X’s house, in an area dominated by patriarchy, aren’t they competitors? The resources are the men in the family. The mother-in-law's husband is of little value when he gets old. Naturally, the sons and grandsons are the potential stocks. Wouldn't the daughter-in-law become a thorn in the flesh?

Most people live such a hard life, and they even trick themselves into thinking that everyone else is living this way.

I comfort myself by saying that we are sons and we will not suffer any loss.

Let me ask, who benefits from this logic?

To tell the truth, no.

On the surface, men stand with their feet up, waiting for food, and the housework is taken care of, so they don’t have to take care of the children. But they are nothing without women. They didn't get their mother's full attention when they were young. Their mother no longer had much energy to deal with Lao X's family. She looked like a big man, but in her heart she hated girls, lacked love, was dull, couldn't have sex, and had no insight into love.

As for women, they are treated as outsiders by their parents. Being treated as an outsider by the man’s parents. Being treated as an outsider by your own children. It took a lifetime of trying to please and nag to get that little bit of attention.

Let me tell you, families that favor sons over daughters, families that allocate family resources to sons, and families that rush to marry off their daughters are essentially selfish. He spent most of his time with his daughter-in-law like crazy, raising a dull grandson.

Everyone in the world is suffering, and suffering is all there is to suffer. If you create your own suffering and watch others jump into the pit of fire, you will not be balanced if you don't jump yourself.