Can remarried families really treat their children as their own?

I think it should be difficult?

The problem of stepmother has a long history. From ancient times to the present,

85% of all kinds of abused children are related to stepmother.

The image of stepmother's evil has been deeply rooted in people's hearts, and it has always existed, so it is difficult to change, which leads to the situation that it is difficult to be a stepmother and it is even more difficult to be a good stepmother.

Although villains are common in this world, I believe there are still many good people. For most people, since they choose to marry and love that man, they must treat their children sincerely, treat their children as their own children, and hope that their children will treat themselves as their mothers. They must all want to get along well with each other, live a good life and make their home warm and full of love.

But the reality often backfires, and some things may not be achieved by hard work.

Mom, the child is your own, and you don't have so much scruples about love and education. If you severely reprimand and scold, maybe everyone will not feel anything wrong.

But stepmother is different. Whether you are good or not will be judged by many people, especially education, because it is someone else's child after all.

if you are careless, you may be suspected or even accused. Sometimes when a child is wrong or even makes a serious mistake, you can't scold or beat him.

what if we just let it go? What if you just spoil it? What bad habits did the child get in the end? I'm afraid you can't escape the criticism of everyone, too.

so whatever you do, it may not be right.

Imagine how tired it is for a person to live with such worries and scruples every day.

living in such a family, how can you not be depressed?

It doesn't matter if you do more things and get tired. What really makes people tired is actually mental fatigue. What kind of stable feelings can two people have, and they can withstand the entanglement of so many contradictions in life. They may lose their initial heart when they walk.

it's better to never start than to get lost in the triviality of chicken feathers.

Therefore, I suggest that women compatriots should never touch the stepmother. I also advise women compatriots who divorce before their children reach adulthood to take your children with them when they leave home. This is very important for the growth of children. Isn't there a saying: It is better to beg for a mother than to talk to an official's father?

for children, emotional neglect of mental abuse is much more terrible than material poverty.

Anyway, it really takes a lot of courage to enter a marriage and family and become a stepmother.

is your relationship strong enough to be unbreakable?

is your mind strong enough and unstoppable?

If you are not sure yourself, don't get married. Instead of torturing each other, you might as well be alone.

It's really hard to say stepmother, and it's even harder to be a good stepmother.

It is also extremely difficult for remarried families to treat their children as their own.

Because love is easy, but discipline is difficult ...

I am a remarried family with children and twins. 11 years old, fourth grade. Ordos, Inner Mongolia.

at the age of eight, I was with the father of two children. At first, I was sympathetic. Two skinny children. A pair of pure eyes, good looks! Look at me pitifully. I'm afraid of hurting their young hearts. I just tell them that I'm a life teacher hired by his father. Responsible for taking care of their daily lives.

at the beginning, his father and I slept in separate rooms, and we never made out in front of the children.

We agreed to let the children accept me slowly. Instead of forcing them to have a stepmother.

I have retired early and opened several clothing stores, all of which are managed by managers and employees.

My own son and daughter have also graduated from college and got married. My son is 985 and my daughter is 211. Thank God for his love [prayer] [prayer] [prayer] I really owe God's love all the way, and I walked smoothly.

I know my husband now, and I see his embarrassing situation. I owe more than 2 million foreign debts and take two seven-year-old children with me. I really feel that their life is too hard. I will tell you these things later, why I chose to marry this husband. Now let's talk about my relationship with my two children.

because I retired early, I have plenty of time to take care of my family. I get up at 5: 3 every morning to make breakfast for the children. Because of long-term malnutrition, the younger son's spleen and stomach are not harmonious. I didn't eat well, so I took him to the hospital. After strengthening the spleen, children love to eat. I stewed the meat, fished it out and chopped it, and mixed it with rice. Let him eat bit by bit. Three months later, I didn't eat meat at first, but I liked to eat this kind of meat mixed with rice, and then I didn't eat vegetables. I did the same thing again. This practice, first of all, is very beneficial to the absorption and digestion of a child with spleen and stomach disharmony. Second, he has to eat if he doesn't eat it.

because I used to be a teacher, I guess I have my own dignity! The two of them sometimes resist, but they dare not be too fierce.

I told my wife from the beginning that I could promise not to abuse these two children, but I couldn't promise to treat them as my own.

within a year, the two children took turns telling me that they wanted me to be their mother.

I didn't promise at first. I said, I need to think about it, because if I promise to be your mother, I have to take on the responsibility of being a mother. I want to pay a lot of energy to care and take care of you more.

One night, his father came back and said that he saw their own mother. At the court, his own mother needed to sign it. His father also made a video for them to watch. Suddenly, my little daughter cried, came to hug me and called me mom, and my little son started to cry. Later, I cried too. They are afraid of their parents getting back together. Once again, I fell into a family of quarrels and fights.

children are smart and the most primitive selfish animals. I will be kind to whoever is kind to me. They choose who doesn't mix anything utilitarian in it.

I have done my duty from the beginning to the deep love today. They are all cultivated for a long time. Don't talk about stepmother. How about it? And don't talk about stepchildren. See if you are sincere? Your words, your eyes and children are all sensitive. Everyone can cultivate feelings by raising a small animal. Why can't you get along with your children day and night? After all, it's selfish!

Don't be afraid of crooked shoes, be sincere, do your best, do your best, do your best, and listen to your destiny. There is nothing difficult in the world!

It's really difficult for remarried families to treat each other's children as their own. Just as the questioner said, I really love her when I love her, but I worry about it when I discipline her. This kind of mood is very contradictory, and I feel suffocated.

A 1-year-old child already has her own independent thoughts. If her tone is heavy, she is afraid of breaking her heart. Now that you have your own child, it's really hard for you to do everything for her. She likes you so much, she should be obedient to you. Now that you are her mother, you should be disciplined as you like. Let her know that I love you and educate you.

From your story, I can see that you are a kind person, and you would rather wronged yourself than hurt your partner's heart.

A woman should be kind to herself, and tell your partner what she thinks and see what he thinks. Talk it over.

Every adult's education method is different. When everyone comes together, be patient. After all, the child is ten years old. Her previous education must be different, but the general direction is still the same.

just remember one thing, you are her mother now, and you treat her as your own. When you love her, you hurt her in every way, and when you educate her, you are as strict as ever.

a: it's not the meat that fell off my body, and there is no blood relationship, and there is no kind feeling. How can a remarried person treat the other person's child as his own?

A remarried person can treat his children as long as they are generally and superficially reasonable and feasible. Who is the mother-in-law, mother-in-law? So, don't expect your child to be your own.

How can I put this question? If you are your own child, no one will say anything strictly to your child. If you are not your own child or a remarried family, if you are strict with your child, someone will tell you what to do. If you have a mother-in-law, it is more difficult to get along with. This is my opinion.

It's impossible. My primary school classmate's mother found a husband. Both sides have a daughter. It's raining hard. Her mother came to class to send her clothes first, and then talked to the teacher for a long time. It was very cold that day. Her mother kept talking to the teacher regardless of whether her stepdaughter was cold or not. Later, the teacher reminded her mother that you didn't prepare clothes for her sister. Her mother just made an epiphany and said that she had brought them. I'm going to send them now.

And studying. Her mother is very strict with her. She went to work after graduating from a secondary school that my master's sister doesn't care about.

Few people can really do it. After remarriage, the other child has no emotional foundation. Since she has no feelings, how can she treat her as her own? It is self-deception and deception to say that treating her as her own.

Few remarried families can treat their children as their own.

It's really not easy to be a stepmother to others. It's especially difficult. It's not something that ordinary people can do. There is no selfishness. Generally, IQ and EQ are higher than ordinary people, and the realm is particularly high. Only in this way can we treat ourselves as our own.

Food and clothing is the most important thing in a person's life, so it's great that a stepmother can do this. She can't beat, scold or beat a child. When a child is weak, she will hold a grudge when she is older.

The stepmother treats the children with a good word, but also needs to make sure that others can't find fault with you, and also needs your family's views and practices. Whether you treat the children badly, your husband and his family will appreciate you.

since you and your husband have become a family, it doesn't matter how you treat your child, whether you have a second birth or not, because your child is your own and others won't say anything.

My aunt is a stepmother. She is a qualified stepmother. When she first came to this house, the child was very resistant to him. However, he liked the child and gave him something delicious. He took the child to the shopping mall to buy new clothes. As long as the child liked it, she bought it without warning. If the child was wronged outside, he would go to someone else and forbid others to hurt the child.

When the child made a mistake, my aunt was angry and wanted to give him a beating, but she couldn't. Hold down her anger, reason with him well, and guide the child to the right path, so as not to let the child learn badly.

When the child grew up, he was admitted to a famous university. Knowing gratitude, he called his aunt Mom and said to her, Thank you, Mom. Without your tolerance and understanding, he would not be today. My aunt smiled and everything she paid was worth it.

Tell me about the remarriage story around you! See if it can really be regarded as out.

Example 1:

There was a couple who had been married for 13 years and had two children. They divorced because of their incompatible personalities. The children were brought up by their grandmothers, and one son and one daughter were awarded to the woman by the court. At that time, the woman was only 37 years old. The parents hoped that she would find a suitable remarriage as soon as possible at this age. After being introduced, she found a divorced man near her home, three years older than her, both of whom had stories. It didn't take long. Just last month, the man and the woman began to plan to have a child of their own. It is understood that the man has raised the former child for the woman for several years since he got married. So far, he has not heard the child calling out "father". In the eyes of the child, maybe only the biological father deserves it! During this period, the child has never broken the telephone contact with the biological father. Even if the adults don't participate, the child will always keep this true feeling for the father whose blood is thicker than water. At this time, the man proposed to have children, which is estimated to have lost confidence in her and her predecessor's children.

Example 2:

The couple have been married for about 15 years. In the year when the children just took the college entrance examination, the woman sued for divorce because the man had been working outside for many years and failed to fulfill his due responsibilities and obligations to the family. He was in a state where no one wanted money and no money. In the past 15 years, the woman and her parents brought up the children. To be honest, it was a hard life. It was not easy to stick to it for the children for so many years.

At the time of divorce, the woman was about 4 years old, and she remarried within half a year. The man was also a divorced family and had a daughter. It happened that the woman's side was a boy, which seemed perfect. From the perspective of parents, as long as they were happy, it was really not so good from the perspective of children. At ordinary times, it seemed that the family was sitting together and living under one roof, but the two sides did not have much communication and cordial greetings, and they could only see the life of the couple.

When we are together, we should make a bowl of water even, and treat the children of both sides as our own. We really don't feel it. Everyone is selfish, and the pain is the first to hurt the meat that falls from themselves. Whoever is the other one should take care of it more. Many people say that divorced families are the most harmful to children, not lies, but it is inevitable.

After the reorganization of these two families, the man is obliged to raise their children, but in the children's minds, you can never replace your father, which is a fact that family ties cannot be crossed.

A child can get along well with his current father and treat each other as a child's own. Unless his former father has done a lot of bad things in his heart, he has found his father's aura under the meticulous care and love cultivation of his current father. Only when the true feelings between the child and his current father are revealed and influenced each other can such a good result be achieved. If you are heart-to-heart and emotional, it will be regarded as a microcosm.

In other words, children will grow up one day and find their own happiness. As long as you are happy, your happiness will bring more love to your children.