I'm 30 years old and talking to myself normally. When I talk to others, I am so nervous that I can't speak, that is to say, I sometimes stutter.

Psychologists believe that nervousness is an effective way to cope with external stimuli and difficulties. With this preparation, we can generate the strength to cope with rapid changes. So being nervous is not all bad. However, constant stress will seriously disturb the internal balance of the body and lead to diseases. So learn to eliminate tension by yourself. ?

(1) Relaxation training: After intense work and study, you can engage in various recreational activities, adjust your life and relax your nervousness. If you encounter difficulties or urgent tasks that must be completed in your work and study, you should first stabilize your mood, don't be nervous, and don't rush for success, so as not to lose your mind. Furthermore, we should believe in our own ability, calmly analyze the difficulties, and formulate the necessary solutions. At this point, you can also make some relaxing self-suggestion: "No matter how difficult or urgent things are, we should take them step by step." It's no use being anxious or nervous. You will definitely overcome the difficulties and complete the task! " In this way, the tension will be dispelled; When solving difficult problems or completing tasks, success will become a benign stimulus, which will further relax people's psychology. ?

In the face of misfortune or sudden changes in life, people often quickly enter a state of high tension. The best way to relax at this time is to keep calm. In fact, in order to cope with nervousness, human beings have constantly created various effective relaxation techniques, such as silent prayer in the West, Indian yoga in the East, Japanese meditation, Qigong and Tai Ji Chuan in China, and modern biofeedback training techniques. ?

(2) Reasonable planning: If the proposed work plan is unrealistic, it will be frustrated and cause emotional tension. Some psychologists suggest that a short period of "vacuum time" can be arranged in the scheduled schedule. During this time, nothing was arranged in advance, and there was a complete "vacuum". Every time you reach this time, you can use it to finish what you didn't finish before, or start the next step. This will not only help to complete the plan, but also feel that I can control my work and feel more relaxed. ?

(3) Get along in good faith: In dealing with people, we should be sincere and open-minded and be kind to others. Hypocrisy not only makes people tired, but also makes people feel insecure, such as unconsciously guessing whether others will know the truth and wondering whether others are talking about themselves behind their backs, thus creating a sense of tension. ?

(4) Sublimation method: Nervous emotions can also be sublimated and transferred to study or work. When you are suddenly nervous, you tend to be particularly focused and may do things better. With the successful completion of the task, the internal tension gradually disappeared. ?

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