Who sends friends every day? What psychology?

In this internet age, everyone will have their own circle of friends, and sometimes they will share their daily life and some happy things in it.

But sometimes we can find that there are always some people in our circle of friends who like to send their own selfies every day, or some sentences that groan without illness. At first I thought it was nothing, but after a long time, I would feel bored. It's like life is ordinary and nothing happens, but there are always some people who like to send a dynamic message, no matter what it is.

Most people don't like such friends. It's good to share their daily life once in a while, but it's annoying to share it too often. And some people even go to the hospital when they are sick, always trying to gain the attention of others. In fact, most people like this are not very popular in real life.

Imagine, if a really popular person, will they have no one to chat with at ordinary times? This should be impossible. These people who keep sending messages just want to attract others' attention. If people are already paying attention to them, why do they make dynamic reports every day? If people often chat with them, they can share their daily lives with each other, and there is no need to send messages every day! Whoever it is. Admittedly, everyone likes to share their mood and state sometimes.

However, if it is only a small matter, most people will choose to ignore it. No one wants to share it with others every day unless it is particularly happy. And these meaningless daily life, watching too much will also make people feel bored. Just like most people like to talk about trivial things with their partners when they are in love. This is normal, but it is not appropriate to share it in your own space.

It is a matter of course to share a room with a boyfriend and girlfriend, but the friends in the circle of friends are not your boyfriend and girlfriend. They don't need to see some trivial things about you. Many friends will think that people who are dynamic every day are too annoying, because life is too dull and it is impossible to say that thrilling things happen every day. What's the point of always posting trivial things? Just to increase people's attention to you.

However, often this way will basically have the opposite effect, because if the other person doesn't like you, he is not interested in knowing what your life is like. People who often send dynamic messages are basically people who have no boyfriends or girlfriends. If so, they will share their daily lives with each other instead of choosing to send friends. Sometimes it is necessary to keep some mystery properly, and it is not necessary to send friends frequently. Too much of this kind of thing can easily make people feel disgusted.

If you really have something, you can share it with your good friends. Most people have no patience to look at your life. Especially for girls, keeping secrets will make others feel good about you, and it is not necessarily a good idea to attract others' attention in that way. It's best to reduce the number of times you send dynamic messages. Life is your own, not for others to see.

Wechat friends circle,

It is a virtual social networking platform, so you don't have to think about it.

As for what mentality?

What kind of mentality do you have in society and on the Internet? ! !

Because everything is psychological projection (inward projection and outward projection)

According to the classification of social psychology and social motivation:

Affinity motivation

Affinity is a psychological tendency that individuals don't want to be lonely, but want to be with others and establish cooperative and friendly ties. Although the level of gregarious and interpersonal attraction is low, the need for affinity will produce affinity motivation, which will lead to affinity behavior.

I think there are very few people in the WeChat circle of friends, and I hope others don't like it.

Are you another person?

In fact, affinity comes from attachment, which is the attachment between parents and children in early life. When parents are present, children will not have anxiety and anxiety.

From attachment to affinity, it is a qualified socialization behavior! ! !

Some people speculate too much about people who often send friends, and think that silence is better than everything. In fact, if you don't like it, you can completely block it. If you have an opinion, block it, as simple as that, or even delete it. Why don't you do this? It shows that you are stressed and anxious, and the cognitive adjustment mechanism has encountered obstacles in the mediation process from the stressor to the clinical stage-losing control of the situation ~ This is your own problem, not someone else's, because the circle of friends is social, not your own.

Affinity motivation has several functions ~

1. Meet some social needs of individuals, such as communication, belonging, love and respect.

So why not send a circle of friends?

Do we have to interact offline?

Don't people need to communicate? Don't you need to belong?

Some people say,

Friends circle is to show off.

Friends circle is to solve emptiness and loneliness.

Friends circle is for profit. .........

What I want to say is,

What's wrong with showing off? What's wrong with dissolving emptiness and loneliness? What happened to the profit?

Say it again,

You don't want to see it, you can completely block it! ! !

Why don't you want to see it and not block it?

There is something wrong with your cognition. You should ask yourself what kind of mentality, not what kind of mentality people who send friends! ! !

As for the content and motivation, you can't decide, you can only decide for yourself! ! !

There is no one else outside, only yourself! ! !

The victim is the perpetrator! ! !

Access to information

People who send friends must want feedback. Because of lack of information, people will feel insecure. Individuals must obtain meaningful information for their own survival and development.

Like likes or comments,

Feedback information can be obtained to guide individuals to survive and develop better.

Everyone,

You have to understand,

Any platform is a piece of land, and we are the seeds of the earth and need sunshine and rain.

Analyze several types of praise behavior ~

There is hope to establish a relationship (with people you don't know).

And (familiar people) continue to maintain relationships.

Have a plenty of passive obedience (I also command everything, such as leadership).

3. Relieve psychological stress

When you are happy, * * * enjoys happiness.

When you are in pain, ease your sadness.

Is this wrong?

Don't children need to share when they are admitted to Tsinghua?

Your job title has been rated as advanced. Don't you need to share it?

Today, Father's Day, I made a delicious table for my father. Don't you need to share?

………………

As long as anyone sends a circle of friends, it is to show off, to seek attention, to seek existence, to show off ... This way of looking at the problem is too extreme and not objective. This problem lies not in others, but in yourself, but in yourself.

Anyway,

In addition to affinity motivation, there are achievement motivation, right motivation and violation motivation.

However, no matter what the motivation is or what the content is, there is no need to think in vain. If you don't like it and feel bored, you can block it, but this is a temporary solution.

In the final analysis, there is something wrong with your mentality.

The circle of friends is a virtual platform, that is, a social platform from offline to online. The form is changing and the content is unchanged.

If you always think that people who make friends have problems, it is wrong. It's your problem. You need to adjust yourself and look inward. There is no one outside except yourself.

The victim is the perpetrator! ! !

Personally, I think this is normal. In today's society, everyone is playing mobile phones. When I look at my circle of friends every day, I always look at it with appreciation.

The content of the circle of friends is generally divided into three categories:

Category 1 is self-media promotion for WeChat business. I usually selectively block this kind of person's hair band, that is, if his business is novel or I may use it, I will keep it. There are also differences in the frequency of hair bands. Some people do WeChat business and send 3~5 messages every day. Some people send many pieces every day, so many that even I will block the screen.

The second category, recording life. He may send all the bits and pieces of his life, maybe the person he invited is eating, maybe he is taking a bus. I am holding the psychology of the people who eat melons. If the frequency is not very strong, I will not block it;

In the third category, some friends are very active, sharing excellent things, people and things happening around them, including their own cognition and views on these things. This kind of person's circle of friends, seeing his circle of friends, feels like a kind of enjoyment!

Nowadays, people's lives are getting faster and faster. As the most used communication software, WeChat has a very high usage rate among my friends. The most important purpose of my attention to my circle of friends is not to be out of touch with them. Of course, everyone in the world has it, and some friends are quite negative, such as being in a bad mood, seeing through human nature, and living is meaningless. I will also block those who often send such negative news. Everyone is in a bad mood sometimes, but if you do this often, I don't want to appreciate such a circle of friends.

No matter what you post, in my opinion, being able to send a circle is a sign of self-confidence and a virtue that you are willing to share with others. May our circle of friends become more and more high-quality, and may more people learn from it, whether they are people in circles or people wandering around. Positive energy every day!

People who live hard. Mental health, the content of hair is mostly their own living conditions;

At present, the Internet has been integrated into our daily life. Wechat's social function is also very strong, and the illustrated circle of friends also has a lot of room to play. In this era when everyone plays WeChat, everyone has their own circle of friends, and sometimes it is convenient to share their daily life and some happy things in it.

However, we often meet some friends in the circle of friends at some time or send messages or news every day, and regard the circle of friends as a platform for self-display. The continuous and daily posting not only sends some major events that everyone cares about, but also sends some trivial things, completely ignoring the psychological acceptance of the audience.

People who make friends every day, in one case, basically have no boyfriend or girlfriend. If there is, they will share their daily life with each other instead of making friends. Another situation is that almost no one pays attention. If people often chat with them, they can share their daily lives with each other, and there is no need to send messages every day.

People who make friends every day are generally cheerful, sunny, generous, optimistic, open and innocent. They like to share things with friends and hope to share them with friends in a sincere way. Some are lonely, lacking companionship and love, eager for attention, and need to find a sense of existence. The gap in reality is made up here. Some people meet people they like, but they dare not confess. The circle of friends has become his confession wall. Some people don't want to talk to someone because of things that go wrong in their lives or work. Making friends has become a way to vent their emotions. Of course, there are also many advertisements in the WeChat business to show products and make profits. Others are ostentatious, high-profile, narcissistic and naive.

Under normal circumstances, it is a very good thing to send a circle of friends and occasionally share your daily or particularly happy things. But if the frequency is too frequent, it will be a bit inappropriate and even annoying. Most of my friends are very busy and have no patience to look at other people's living conditions every day. You know, life is your own, there is no need to show it to others. Therefore, the use of friends circle should be moderate, moderate expression and moderate viewing.

When the Woods are big, there are all kinds of birds. No matter what mentality our friends have, we should treat them with friendliness, tolerance and understanding. Because we are all friends.

Starting from 20 13, I will definitely send at least one circle of friends every day.

In the past eight years, psychology has also changed.

20 12, when I first started using wechat, I was not used to it and didn't like to make friends. I occasionally send a dynamic message.

In 20 13 years, I especially wanted to commit suicide. I was very, very unhappy and unhappy in all aspects. I didn't want to be suspected after my sudden death, so I began to record the dynamics of the day in my circle of friends every day and express all kinds of unhappiness.

Gradually, in daily writing and expression, the mood has been released and the state is getting better and better. Some partners are getting closer and closer in real expression, while some partners with different views are drifting away. Every day's true expression not only helped me heal myself, but also helped me to screen friends worthy of communication in my circle of friends.

For me, the circle of friends is a platform to witness common growth. Like the real life partner in the circle of friends. You don't need to be together every day, and you don't need to contact often. As long as I look at the dynamics of each other's circle of friends, I can understand each other's recent situation and know each other's thoughts. You can understand each other without deliberately touching feelings, and improve each other through mutual encouragement and support.

Now more actively record in the circle of friends every day, giving more partners the confidence to get out of the abyss.

At the same time, I also print my circle of friends into a book every year, which is also a spiritual wealth for myself and my children.

Holding my memory in my hand and recalling everything in the past, even though I was desperate enough to end my life at that time, I feel happier now because of persistent self-improvement.

Freud said that the main purpose of writing is to meet some inner needs, not for others.

People's hearts are invisible and intangible, and written records can help us understand our inner self and help us become the best ourselves!

I'm @ Sousou Journey, I don't suppress my emotions, I don't embarrass myself, I hope we can all be the best ourselves in sincere expression!

Tell me about my circle of friends,

Sometimes I have experienced something that I am very collapsed, but I can't tell others, so I will send some words.

In this way, you will feel that your emotions seem to have been seen by everyone, and your heart will be a little relieved.

Simply put, if you don't get much attention in the real world, you will find a sense of existence in your circle of friends.

Everyone craves attention,

Sometimes I feel that when sharing my daily life, others will also brush their own words and pictures while watching my mobile phone, as if sharing a kind of happiness.

Although I was alone when I took the photo,

I uploaded homemade ice cream, and the comments below are all praise and love, which makes me feel unhappy.

Although, just at home.

Except for some WeChat services and other types,

In my opinion, everyone is experiencing the attention brought by friends.

Maybe life is boring, because a comment from another country will shine a little.

This is also a comfort [an epiphany]

Personal hobbies, I seldom send them.

Share your feelings with your dazzling heart. I also have my own hobbies, such as art and travel photography. Both inside and outside the character. Enrich your life and your sense of accomplishment. The more likes, the better.