Do you agree with your parents’ view on marriage that “the woman must be able to cook”?

I agree with my parents’ view on marriage!

If you want to capture a man’s heart, you must first capture his stomach. I don’t know who said this first, but I think he is very reasonable.

If the woman can cook, it can maintain the harmony and unity of the family.

When we get home from get off work, normal families will buy vegetables and cook. If the woman can’t cook, then the man must have no desire to go home. If there is no food at home, then of course he will go out. Eat! It's wonderful to think that you can have a delicious dinner when you come home from get off work. If we go home from get off work and have no food for dinner, we will worry about what to eat. We have worked so hard at work, and we have to worry about what to eat after get off work. This is a very painful thing! When people are upset, they are in a bad mood. If they are in a bad mood, they will be dissatisfied with the other person. This dissatisfaction accumulated over time may have a negative impact on our marriage!

Women who can cook are what men strive for. Motivation!

We work hard for life, in order to improve the quality of life and to make our families happy. We have a virtuous wife, and we will be grateful to her, thinking of her hard work in cooking and taking care of the housework. We will work hard, and work harder to make her live a good life. So a woman who can cook will be a motivation for men to fight!

A woman who can cook has a great impact on a marriage. I can’t imagine my wife not being able to cook! I go out to eat by myself after get off work every day. When I get home, there is no need to sit at the dining table to eat and chat.

So I very much agree with my parents’ view on marriage that “the woman must be able to cook”!

Do you agree too?

There are many girls who don’t know how to cook. It depends on whether you go to the restaurant to order takeout every day. If you don’t have this capital and worth, you can’t do whatever you want. How can you talk about enjoyment without capital? Maybe it's okay to be young, but what to do when you are middle-aged and old? Your parents are thinking about your future, and they must be right. They are used to being arrogant about you, and they are worried about you. Poor parents in the world.

I think both men and women must learn to cook.

I actually don’t know how to cook. Before I got married, it didn’t matter. It didn’t matter where I ate. I could go to a restaurant or a roadside stall. But after I got married, I found that I couldn’t cook. Food is quite embarrassing, especially after having a child, and it feels even more frustrating.

Actually, to be honest, these days, most of the people who can cook are men, and most of the people who cook delicious food are men.

When girls get married in time, few people ask them to cook, but whether they know how to do it and whether they do it or not are two different things.

I now feel that being able to cook is a basic ability and a cool thing. At the very least, whether you have guests at home or you are alone at home, you will never panic or feel embarrassed that you don’t know what to eat or want to eat but don’t know how to make it.

If nothing else, let’s just talk about yourself. If you cook a dish on a whim, it will either look ugly and taste bad, or it will be a complete mess. When you bring it to the table, all the other dishes have been eaten, and only the dish you made is left. It was very embarrassing to lie there alone.

I happily made complementary food for the children and worked hard for a long time. When the finished product was served, the little ancestors frowned after taking a bite and refused to eat again. They begged grandpa to sue grandma to let them eat again. Eat some, but no one will give you face, so you can reluctantly eat it, take a bite, and then pour it away silently.

What my family is most afraid of is that I will cook something for everyone. So I ended up making good porridge and doing good chores.

Usually when friends come over, if I ask them to cook something at home and eat together, they will definitely have to leave for a lot of reasons.

If you are at home alone, you either have to make do or go out to eat. So there are always stocks of instant noodles, snail noodles and so on at home.

In short, people who can’t cook are as helpless as they are and as embarrassed as they are.

Every time my mother always embarrassed her and told her mother-in-law that our children were not well educated and could not even cook.

Even though I always keep saying: So what, there are many people who don’t know how to cook, but I haven’t seen anyone starve to death because of this.

As someone who has been there, I really can’t say, it’s fine if you don’t know how to cook, as long as you can eat.

Therefore, I think it is really important for parents to say that girls must learn to cook in marriage.

I have always admired people who can cook and people who can make all kinds of exquisite snacks. I really think that making those is a very powerful thing.

A good marriage is actually inseparable from eating, drinking and having fun together.

Those without children will be happy if they take care of the food, drink and play of the two of them, and those with children will be happy if they take care of their children's food, drink and play. Therefore, eating is a big deal.

Being able to cook is the foundation of this big thing. Everyone wants to enjoy this kind of fireworks in the world. Eating alone is not enough. Only by knowing how to cook it can you experience that kind of happiness.

And being able to cook also requires talent. Some people just know how to cook, and some people are just handicapped.

However, there is also a saying called "hands are familiar with you".

It seems that more practice is needed.

You must know that being able to cook is not necessarily to please others or serve others, but to please yourself and is a skill of your own.

Let’s not talk about it, let’s talk about Li Ziqi. Who doesn’t yearn for such ingenuity and the power to turn decay into magic? It’s beautiful to see her planting land and picking vegetables. , cooking is beautiful, she beautifully expresses the atmosphere of fireworks in the world.

Three meals a day and four seasons should be like this.

First of all, continue to stick to your own ideas, such as asking a nanny to do all the housework. There is no problem with this, but you must be good enough and have enough capital, such as You must have high looks, education, status, and especially high economic income.

If your income is several times that of your future husband, then no one in your husband's family will dare to look down on you or make irresponsible remarks behind your back.

Secondly, there are very few such outstanding women. What if you are not that outstanding, have average looks, average education, average status, average economic income, and lower than your future husband? When you get married in the future, how will you deal with your father-in-law and mother-in-law in your husband's family, and how will you allocate household chores? This is what you need to think about.

You think you work hard and earn a lot of money, so you shouldn’t do housework and don’t want to “serve” others. But your husband may make more money and work harder than you do, so is there more reason not to do it? housework? Do you still expect them to "serve" you? ——So when it comes to reality, your logic doesn’t work.

You can also think of yourself as a man with average family conditions in all aspects, burdened with huge mortgage and car loan pressures, selling money to collect gifts, and marrying a woman home, but she ends up with nothing. If you know how to do it, if you don’t want to do it, you should serve it like your ancestors. You are a man, are you willing?

In addition, if your husband and in-laws ask you to do housework, you will not be able to do it 100% of the time. When you are busy or feel uncomfortable, no one will be free and will take the initiative to help you.

A happy marriage requires the efforts of both parties. It is about fulfilling obligations and taking responsibility for each other, elders, children, and society, rather than "enjoying" it. If you If you think that a woman's happiness is when others "serve" you unconditionally, then don't get married.

Although what your parents say is a bit extreme on the whole, they are rough but not rough. You have to listen, otherwise it will become a big hidden danger in the future.

Such parents are also very good. But there is still a long way to go to educate a girl. Children do not get a good education and do not understand the way of life. To be clear, neither girls nor daughters-in-law understand. A lifetime of happiness is gone. But to say that a lifetime of happiness is gone, I’m afraid many people don’t understand. Because people today have the opposite philosophy. But now women are working in society. Men should also cook. But you cannot rely entirely on men to cook. As the ancients said, men and women are different. They have different natures, different responsibilities, different psychology, and different happiness. What a woman should do is not necessarily giving. What a man should do is not necessarily giving.

Everyone has his own responsibilities and his own happiness. The Queen of England often makes coffee for her husband. The queen, the queen of a country. Why make coffee for your husband? Because she feels that in the family, the husband is respected, and it is a blessing for a wife to make coffee for her husband. If we don't feel it, that's our business. Education, if you lose education, you will lose true happiness. To pursue the so-called romance and excitement. Damage your own nervous system. insensitive. Rigid mind.

It is right and necessary for your parents to require the woman to be able to cook. It is not excessive at all.

Since ancient times, cooking has been a woman’s duty. It is a man’s responsibility to make a living outside the home and support his family. It’s just that in modern times, when women started working, men began to cook and share the housework, so they did not rely entirely on women to cook.

In this day and age, parents spoil their daughters and don’t let them cook, and men spoil their wives and don’t let them cook.

So some women don’t know how to cook. I wish I could cook.

When you are a family, you will not eat out three meals a day. It is unhygienic, unsafe, and uneconomical.

So your parents want you to become a woman who can cook. It is not excessive at all, it is for your own good. When you have a child in the future, let him eat the delicacies made by his mother. It will be "mother's taste" that he will never forget in his life. When your husband comes home, there will be ready-made delicacies waiting for him. You can make twice-cooked pork, steamed pork, or braised pork in different ways. , stewed chicken, stir-fried pork slices, cold chicken...

Then your children laugh at you: "Mom made it", and your husband gives you a smile of gratitude and satisfaction. The warm atmosphere of this family is outside. If you can't enjoy it, this is like a home.

Therefore, women must be able to cook. Not being able to make first-class meals is not the true nature of a woman. It will make people look down on you, despise you, and pick on you. Learn from it. It's not difficult.

As someone who has been through this, let me share my own thoughts. I agree with my parents’ view on marriage that “the woman must be able to cook”.

First, parents’ view on marriage is that “the woman must know how to cook”. Before I got married, I had the same idea as you. I thought cooking was very troublesome, and I didn’t want to learn it. I felt that learning to cook was not as enjoyable as sleeping. But the elders in my family kept teaching me, and I always refuted it when I looked back. I wanted to find someone to cook. Marrying a man who can cook will solve the problem. Later, someone asked me if my partner didn't know how to cook. My answer was, then marry a chef, which is better than having to cook by yourself. Always looking for reasons and excuses for yourself is actually because you are lazy. Someone at home pampers you like a little princess.

Second, parents’ view on marriage is that “the woman must know how to cook”. Later, my grandparents passed away one after another, and there were fewer people to cook for me and fewer people to love me. Then I realized that I had to do more. Everyone has to be independent. I don’t even have the ability to be independent. Why? What about supporting yourself? Ordering takeout every day, in fact, the food outside is not hygienic, and it is also an expense for your salary, so you can only learn to cook by yourself, so that at least you can take care of yourself and not get hungry, Mom and Dad , your grandparents said to you, they also want you to at least not starve yourself in the future, and they also care about you. In fact, the elders in the family are all people who have been through this, and they have seen your future path clearly, so they hope that you can be self-reliant.

Third, parents’ view on marriage is that “the woman must know how to cook”. Later I learned how to cook. When I got married, my husband also learned how to cook, which was considered a success. However, after marriage, you will find that both of you go to work every day and are really tired. When you get home, you can’t even eat hot meals. No, we can only order takeout, which is no longer home, without the warmth of home. Only when there is someone at home to cook for you and you can eat delicious meals when you get home, that is the taste of home. When you have children of your own in the future, you won’t even know how to cook, and your children won’t even be able to eat a bite of the food you cooked. By then, you will feel stupid and you won’t even care about your children. If you don't pamper her, you will find that you are not qualified to be a mother.

In short, you should not have any different ideas of this or that. Times are changing, but you must have cooking skills. When you enter the society or rent a house outside, you leave. Without the control of your parents, when you "explore the world" on your own, you will understand that the food you cook is your favorite.

I remember a report. A girl ordered takeout every day because she couldn’t cook. After three months of ordering, she fainted and was sent to the hospital. Because her blood lipids were too high, the blood she drew was very sticky. Yes, there is still oil in it. If you don't want to suffer this, it's better to learn one more skill. With multiple skills around you, you will become more beautiful!

Hope everything goes well! The future is bright!

I agree that girls should be able to cook, but I do not agree with the view that "for marriage, the woman must be able to cook." Love is not about pleasing people, but about the sound of emotion

I really hate a saying: "To capture a man's heart, you must first capture his stomach." Let me ask, girls who can't cook are not worthy Can you get a man's love? If you can't capture a man's stomach, can't you get a man's sincerity? I believe in exchanging sincerity for sincerity, but I never believe that good food can also exchange for sincerity.

There is a saying that "serve the king with beauty, and love will be with you when beauty fades", which means that you use your beauty to gain the king's favor. When you get old and your beauty fades, your favor will disappear. Real, stable and long-lasting love does not rely on external conditions to attract each other, but the inner resonance of each other's three views.

Society has been calling for equality between men and women for many years, but many girls who marry into their husband’s family are still wary. They are afraid that if they do not serve the family well, they will be teased by their parents-in-law and rejected by their husbands, so they carefully try to please their parents-in-law, husband.

But why should we do this? Marriage is inherently equal, and no one owes anyone anything. What is the thing that we are asking for carefully? Is it love? No! Blindly submitting to compromises will not get back your husband's true feelings, and will only make yourself passive. Love is never produced by one party's flattery, but comes from the harmony between two people's hearts and feelings. It is better to please yourself than to please others

I will let my daughter learn to cook, not so that she will be able to please others in the future, but to give her more fun and to feel and enjoy life while cooking. Life.

There is nothing wrong with learning to cook. It is a skill and many people make a living doing it. But I hope that you learn this skill not for others, but for yourself.

The above is my answer. May your cooking skills be for yourself, not to please others.

Agree, both men and women must be able to cook. It is unimaginable that a family cannot cook. Young people must learn this skill.

Once I was chatting with a colleague and asked her about her weekend. What to do at home, she taught her son how to cook. I knew that her son was only in junior high school, so I asked her in surprise why she was teaching children to cook so early, especially boys.

She said: Boys should also learn to cook. In the future, the couple will bicker and quarrel with each other, and my wife will not cook for her. If my son can be himself, he will not be hungry. If there is a child and the wife is angry and refuses to cook, my son can also cook for the child. When my wife is angry, my son can also make her something delicious to comfort her. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a good life? We live a life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Those days in pubs and restaurants are not what our ordinary families enjoy every day.

She talked about it with relish. Maybe she knew that I was still curious about why I learned to cook so early?

There is still time in junior high school. In high school, the courses are more intense. In college, children leave home and become independent. So the older the child gets, the less opportunity there is to teach him. It’s better to get started early on your skills.

Oh my god, my colleague has been working for so long, and today I discovered that this colleague of mine is so scheming and well-planned.

I can’t write anymore. I have to go home and make a cooking learning plan for my daughter. The skills you have learned cannot be divided even if you are divided into different families. "Food is the first necessity of the people", both boys and girls must learn to cook.