How to treat the relationship between having a second child and raising children to prevent old age?

It is undeniable that witnessing and accompanying the growth of a life is the most beautiful thing in the world!

This is an old topic that will never change. This paper summarizes the issues that should be considered when having a second child for your reference:

1. Does the economy allow

I put this issue first because I feel that money can really solve many things and contradictions since I have a baby. If you have money, you can ask Yueyue to take care of your baby, and ask a nanny to take care of your children. In this way, as a mother, you can not only be relieved physically, but also mentally suffer from the disharmony between husband and wife caused by the relationship between mother-in-law and mother-in-law. So as to prevent postpartum depression to a great extent. There is still an account to be settled. It costs a lot of money for a second-born child to grow up, and you are not willing to let the child be poor.

2. Whether to allow

to talk about having a second child is not only the process from pregnancy preparation to birth, but also the time you spend with him after birth, so you can't just give birth to it. Children who are not accompanied by their parents are good left-behind children, and there will be many mental problems; Everyone wants their baby to be the best when they give birth. Parents are the best teachers for their children, and their education depends on their parents. Some people feel that they have no life if they have one baby, so if they have two, can they stand it? Therefore, this is a question worth considering.

3. Does the body allow

Parents are older, and their physical fitness is definitely not as good as that of people in their twenties. Ready to have a second child, then have you done physical exercise; Whether to have a pre-pregnancy examination; The older the mother is, the easier it is to conceive a child with trisomy 21 syndrome, so whether the body allows it should also be considered.

4. Is there an elderly person to help take care of the children

This problem is a social problem in China. Young people have to earn money to pay off their mortgage and car loan. If there is no one to help take care of the children, only one of their parents can give up his job and take care of the baby at home. When old people reach retirement age, they should enjoy their family happiness and enjoy their old age. But I have to take care of the children. If there is no old man to help with the baby, no money to ask a nanny to take care of the baby, and you can't give up your job to take care of the baby full-time, then it is not recommended to have a second child.

5. Have you handled the relationship with your heart

If you really want another baby, you have had a special experience, and you can know how difficult it is from pregnancy to raising. Are you no longer afraid of morning sickness, discomfort during pregnancy, pain during childbirth, postpartum depression, hardship of night milk, sour and refreshing nipples, and anxiety when you are sick?

6. Can you handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the relationship between husband and wife?

Do you have a harmonious solution when you disagree about children's education, childbirth and hygiene? If you have a second child, you should continue the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so you must carefully consider whether you can handle the relationship between the two children.

Recently, a 12-year-old girl wrote an article about the second child in classical Chinese, which probably means that this little sister has less and less time to be accompanied by her parents because she has a little sister at home. This young lady just described the influence of having a second child at home on her life and study, and there was no negative emotion. This is still a good situation for her. In life, there are often adverse events caused by the second child, and some brothers/sisters run away from home; Have committed suicide by jumping off a building; Threatening to cut the wrist; Whipping a second-born brother or sister. Therefore, if you want a second child, and the boss has the ability to think, you have to ask the boss's opinion, or convince the boss to accept this second child reasonably, otherwise it will be troublesome when the child is born.

If you have considered all the above questions and have good countermeasures, congratulations on getting ready to have a second child. There are two dolls at home, no matter what sex, they are just right, no more, no less, and they have a companion. Even if we are gone in the future, they still have to discuss things. Someone once asked, since raising children is not for supporting the elderly, what is it for? The most beautiful answer I have ever seen is: witness and accompany the growth of a life. We only know something about what we remember, so what is it like when we don't remember it, such as the ugly appearance at birth and the appearance when we just walked and talked? All this can only be witnessed with a little life. Let's talk about raising children to prevent old age:

In this era, raising children to prevent old age has become a thing of the past.

With the acceleration of urbanization, more and more young people choose to work in cities and set up their own families in the cities where they work. Although it is still a traditional concept that men marry women, they are far away from their hometown parents. This kind of raising children to prevent old age can no longer be prevented Once a baby is born, parents at home will have to leave their hometown and come to a strange city to look after their children. They are not used to city life and don't like the strange environment around them, so they are definitely not as comfortable as living in their hometown. But thinking that it is not easy for children to work hard in the city, thinking about sharing some for their children, they can only suffer by themselves. So from this point of view, raising children to prevent old age is a thing of the past in modern society. If you choose to have a second child, you will tie up the old man in 5~1 years.

Even if parents are old and their children are around, they can't stand the long-term friction and mutual shirking. Especially for elderly and sick parents, there is no dutiful son before a long bed. When parents are old and children are in middle age, they have to deal with their own chicken feathers. I can't take care of the elderly in two places. Recently, all the big circles are sharing a story. Mrs. Zhou raised four sons, but died in a rental house. Initiate a discussion on what the meaning of having children is. It is everyone's duty to support parents, and parents have no obligation to help us look after the next generation.

There is no denying that there are still many excellent children in this society. We will step into the ranks of the elderly ourselves in the future. Xiao Bian suggested that we should look at this problem rationally from now on, and we should not rely on raising more children to prevent aging. It is best to leave a good body for the future from now on in order to really prevent aging!

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Dr., deputy director pharmacist and senior nutritionist, has 11 years of experience in medication guidance, nutrition consultation and health management. No medicine, no medicine, advocate healthy life, no illness, no medicine!