Tiles are funny and humorous.

Do you have such friends around you? It is always pleasant and comfortable to get along with them. They can always laugh at themselves properly, and even in the face of embarrassing situations, they can skillfully use humor to dissolve embarrassment into invisibility.

But when we want to imitate the way these people do things for others, we often can't find a way, and the jokes are either not funny or offensive.

How to master humorous skills so as to get along with people happily and comfortably is the problem to be solved in this issue.

Some friends may say: I am introverted by nature and I am not good at communicating with people. Is it because I have no sense of humor? Of course not, a sense of humor is the embodiment of high emotional intelligence, and you are not required to be a chatterbox.

A friend said, isn't a sense of humor just telling jokes? I have prepared some jokes, so I just need to tell them when I need them.

If you do, you will find the same joke. Telling this person may be effective, but telling another person may be another matter.

People with a real sense of humor never deliberately tell jokes, but can make jokes at any time and place according to the scene to make everyone feel interesting.

In a word, a sense of humor is an ability to create an atmosphere, which has nothing to do with introversion or not.

Since humor is a kind of ability, it can be cultivated and accelerated. After summing up, Chestnut sorted out a set of core formulas for humorous communication.

As long as you master these humorous formulas, use them in a routine way first, and then play them freely. Over time, you can internalize these formulas and become a truly humorous person.

Formula 1: the result of event A+the reason of event B: Zhang San said: "Recently, many health experts agree that ribs and abalone can't be eaten at the same time." Li Si asked, "Why?" Zhang San replied: "Because if we eat together, it will cost a lot of money."

Event A mentioned a "health expert" and misled the other party into thinking that the result of the matter would be a health knowledge. Who knows, it took a turn for the worse immediately, and when it came to the B incident, I told you that it was expensive to eat these dishes at the same time.

One thing to note when applying this formula is that event A and event B are two independent events, and the more irrelevant, the better the effect. But the content must be familiar to everyone, such as "health scientist" and "ribs and abalone" in the example.

Formula 2: the form of event A+the content of event B will give you a chestnut first. A couple, a man and a woman, said, "We got married voluntarily. Starting today, no matter whether the house price rises or falls. "

The woman said: "No matter the purchase restriction or the loan restriction." The man said, "No matter the down payment discount or house demolition." The woman said: "Whether it is tax avoidance or school district housing." Men and women said with one voice: "We are all in the same boat, sharing weal and woe, sharing weal and woe, and never parting!"

In fact, this joke is about the social phenomenon of divorce because of the house problem. In the form of wedding vows, the content of the comparison is about the house.

This kind of humor is widely used in life, but it should be noted that the form of event A and the content of event B should be as different as possible, and the final effect will be better.

Formula 3: the story of event A+the ending of event B This formula is actually the "shaking burden" commonly used by crosstalk performers. It is also effective in telling stories in communication situations.

Give you a classic chestnut. Zhang San said: "I was really depressed today and was kicked out of the group." Li Si asked, "Why?"

Zhang San said, "That's a group of doctors. Someone asked in the morning: Will a drop of water fall freely from a very high place hurt people? The group immediately boiled up, but it was an argument anyway. "

Li Si asked, "Then why were you kicked out of the group?"

Zhang San said: "I didn't hold back my speech for a moment, so I sent a message: Ladies and gentlemen, aren't everyone wet?" This group of people suddenly fell silent. "

Li Si asked, "Then what?"

Zhang San replied: "Then I was kicked out of the group by the group owner."

This humorous routine, that is to say, the speaker has been laying the groundwork in front, and the listeners are trapped one by one. When the listener was fascinated, at the end, the speaker suddenly shook a burden, and then the listener suddenly realized.

The focus of this humorous formula lies in the ending of the last event B. This ending must be related to event A, but there must be differences.

Just like in the example, doctors are arguing whether a drop of water falling from the sky will hurt people, and the final outcome-getting caught in the rain.

Formula 4: Comparing Event A with Event B, a proper image analogy often gives people a sense of humor. Or for chestnuts:

Zhang San asked, "Do you like small animals?"

Li Si replied, "I like it very much."

Zhang San asked, "Really? I like small animals, too. How much do you like them? "

Li Si replied: "Let me tell you this, every meal can't be less!" "

The analogy of humor does not need strict logic, the key is to be vivid and highlight the most similar parts of two things.

Don't use too many words to describe it, try to simplify it, so that people can understand it at once, and you can be very humorous.

The above four formulas are the core skills in humorous communication, but formulas alone are not enough. We must understand them and practice them in life.

To be a truly humorous and highly emotional person, you must have the following abilities.

Observational humor comes from life. If you want to be a truly humorous person, you should exercise your observation. Start with ordinary things around you, including but not limited to people around you, what happened and the environment.

For example, the paper towels on the table have been taken away, there are several tiles in the bathroom, and the restaurant owner is in a bad mood today.

Exercise observation with your heart, not just "look". For ordinary things, we should consciously observe its characteristics carefully and pay attention to those places that are difficult for ordinary people to find and easy to ignore.

Moreover, it is particularly useful to exercise observation by comparison, such as the passenger flow today and yesterday, the changes in the stock market, the sales of goods and so on.

Accumulate information Many friends are afraid to create their own humor when they first start to cultivate their sense of humor, for fear that others will not get a punch line and be cold. At this time, this problem can be solved through the information accumulated at ordinary times.

For example, accumulate jokes, famous sayings and so on. Keep the latest hot information in your mind and know a little about some hot topics, otherwise it is easy to have no consistent language.

Gossip between people is to narrow the distance between them, and only when you get the gossip information can you have a topic to talk to others.

There is a famous talk show host who reads more than 40 newspapers every morning, then collects new information and summarizes his own views.

He can always tell something new on the show, which makes everyone feel very interesting. Because of his existence, the ratings of this program remain high.

As ordinary people, we don't need to read so many newspapers every morning, but at least we should know the hot news of the day.

This also makes it impossible for you to get along completely when everyone is discussing a topic, just like you just got back from Mars.

When bravely practicing a sense of humor, the best way is to humiliate yourself.

If you want to be an interesting person in communication and make everyone welcome and like you, then you must keep a spirit of modesty and be willing to share your shortcomings with everyone.

Self-immorality requires open-mindedness and optimism. In the face of negative comments or ridicule from others, we need to know how to accept and resolve them in a humorous way.

Humor written at the end is the spice of communication, which can help us turn the tables and resolve the unfavorable situation in chatting. People who know humor can be calm and become the most popular people under any circumstances.