What to do in the face of puppy love? What is the specific content of the speech?

What do our parents fear most about puppy love?

We are afraid that puppy love will affect children's study, and we are also afraid that the contradiction in love will hurt children's body and mind. What we are most afraid of is that children have sex in the process of love, and the result is that children can't bear it alone.

Girls, in particular, will be more hurt in the incident.

Therefore, in the process of children's love, parents should convey the correct views to their children.

Nine questions

Parents can reach an understanding with their children by asking questions.

1, son, love is a sign that one likes another, right?

2. Love is contained in favorite ingredients. what do you think?

3, love is to be good to each other, but also to be good to each other. Right?

4. Do you agree that you can't do things that hurt each other?

At present, when we are students, the most important task for us students is to study hard, right?

6. If two people can supervise each other, learn from each other and make progress together, this is a sign of love, isn't it?

7. If two people are together, they will think about how to skip class, how to avoid the teacher's supervision, and how to go out to play, which will definitely affect their study. I don't think that people who don't study well must have no future, but from the statistical probability, the overall quality of life of college graduates is higher than that of those who have not been admitted to college.

For each other to live a better life in the future, shouldn't you encourage each other to pay more attention to their studies now?

8. If my boyfriend says: I found a very interesting place, I won't attend today's class. Do you think he is kind to you? Once such a thing happens, it may happen many times, so we must resolutely oppose it.

A person who loves you and treats you well will consider you comprehensively. When he asked you to skip class, he didn't think about you, not to mention whether he thought about your future or even your immediate troubles.

For example, the teacher will criticize the consequences of skipping classes. If you notify your parents, they will be anxious, sad and angry for you, and may punish you. Therefore, he will not be kind to you, nor will he show his love for you.

9. If the other person loves you, he won't do anything to hurt you. You agree, right? When you are in love, mom and dad will give you a few words of "show love and stop the ceremony". You can appreciate each other, but you can't have too much physical contact.

2? The story of Lingling and Jingjing

This is a true story of puppy love, which happened to two sixteen-year-old high school students. Due to lack of sexual knowledge, they secretly tasted the forbidden fruit, which led to the girl's ectopic pregnancy. Since then, both families have suffered great pain and pressure.

A girl's monologue—

I will be discharged from the hospital the day after tomorrow. I think a lot of things in my hospital bed alone these days. I think this is the most frightening and fascinating thing in my life. My mother said: the day before my operation, she cried and signed it. She has been wiping away tears for over an hour.

She thinks that if I bleed heavily during the operation, in case of any accident, how can she live in the future! Now I know how much my mother loves me.

I never thought things would develop like this. I am an obedient child at school, and my grades have always been in the top three in my class. There have been many boys writing love letters to me at school, and I refused them one by one until I met Jingjing.

I think he is different from other boys. He has a unique temperament that attracts me. Later, we fell in love. Looking back on what happened to us that day, I felt that I lacked sexual knowledge and didn't understand many things. I didn't expect the consequences to be so serious

I'm glad that my parents' respect and understanding helped me through this difficulty afterwards. I learned a lot through this incident and became mature at once. I will remember this experience all my life.

Jingjing's self-report-

I met Lingling in Class 0/2, Grade 3, Senior High School. In my eyes, Lingling is a lovely and likable girl. As long as she has any requirements, I will help without saying anything.

Until one day, I found that Lingling was not an ordinary concern for girls, but an independent concern, a feeling of a little warmth. I think I really like Lingling. Although our school is educating adolescent students, many times people still talk about transsexuality, and parents have been carefully avoiding the word "sex" for their children.

Under the guidance of bad ideas and my own lack of knowledge in this field, Lingling and I did something we shouldn't do. Until one day, Lingling told me in a panic that she was pregnant, ectopic pregnancy, and my mind was blank ... I didn't know what to do. After all, I am only 16 years old. What should I do?

I thought, "How did this happen? How will this affect her? " I'm scared, really scared. Lingling and I spend every day in anxiety and pain. Perhaps it is this day after day that I really understand a lot. If we had known the consequences of our actions before, we wouldn't have done so.

I regret it. I know I can't take this responsibility, because I am too young, and I know how painful it is for a girl. In these complicated emotions, I can only sum up my feelings in one sentence, "I really regret it."

Parents can take preventive measures with their children and tell them what not to do through the above questions and cases.

3? Necessary sex education

The most worrying thing for children to fall in love with their parents is that they don't know what to do. If they are not careful, they will cross the line and bring very serious consequences. Therefore, adolescent sex education for children is imminent.

1. Teach children the correct name of "sex". This is about physiological knowledge. If parents are embarrassed to tell their children directly, then provide them with books on adolescent sex education, or consult relevant information online with their children.

2. Don't passively wait for your child to ask questions. Parents shouldn't wait for their children to ask before starting discussions. In fact, many children are embarrassed to ask their parents about sex.

Parents can use social events, or news reports related to sex education, sex crimes and TV dramas to discuss with their children, which is much more natural than seriously talking about sex with their children. Of course, parents can also tell their own or friends' adolescent experiences, explain their views on sex to their children, and listen to their children's views at the same time.

Finally, it discusses how to prevent it and the solutions that should be taken after the incident.

Parents should set an example. Mutual respect, loyalty and sharing between husband and wife have a subtle influence on children.

Fourth, identify the gender of the child. Girls suggest that mothers can exchange knowledge with their children more, while boys suggest that fathers should participate more.

4? write a letter

Parents can also communicate with their children in the form of letters when their children enter adolescence. The following contents are for your reference.

Many parents don't know how to communicate with their children. Write a letter to their children.

The first letter

Dear child:

You will be 16 years old soon. This is the golden age of life. When I hear that you boys and girls have a good feeling for each other and dare to be "husband, wife and dear", I want to tell you this: baby, don't worry.

Falling in love now is like hanging yourself from a small tree. The branches of small trees are not strong, so they may not be able to catch you. They just fell to the ground together and were scarred.

Love is like finding a tree to lean on. The trunk below high school is too thin to be reliable. Concentrate on studying hard in college and have the ability to live independently is the right way. Deviation is a lifelong regret.

Study when you should study, and fall in love when you should fall in love.

You can't hang yourself in a small tree for a little boy (girl). You know there is a forest waiting for you to enjoy not far away. Why don't you take a look in the forest? The trees there are tall and short, with red and green leaves, which look much better!

In this unsuitable season, what should you do if you are already in love?

My answer is: free from puppy love. How to get rid of it like Madame Curie? After graduating from high school, Madame Curie worked as a governess in a rich family in the countryside in order to earn money to go to Paris for college.

Casimir, the eldest son of this family, fell in love with her, and she also fell in love with this beautiful big child. The two were intoxicated with the sweetness of their first love and planned to get married.

At that time, Manya was less than nineteen years old. Casimir's determination wavered because of her parents' resolute opposition. At that time, Manya was in great pain and had the idea of saying goodbye to the world.

However, the sudden blow opened the fog of enthusiasm, and Manya finally realized that this love was dominated by sensibility because of her youth.

She still doesn't know how to choose her life partner, and she hasn't learned to know people in essence. Manya saw the personality difference between herself and the other person, and the object of love was not as cute as she thought.

In the end, reason and will made her get rid of her personal distress and maintained and strengthened her life goal of marching into science. Later, Manya went to Paris to study, and in the pursuit of science, she found her ideal partner pierre curie. They all contributed to mankind and gained happiness.

The second letter

Daughter:

Hello!

You are a middle school student who is almost seventeen. With a flick of your finger, you will grow into a slim girl.

As parents, we are both happy and worried.

Happily, after knocking at the door in adolescence, you will be extra alert, full of energy, fit and full of youthful vitality.

The worry is that adolescence is a period of rapid changes in your body and mind. Mom and dad will create a good environment for you and pay attention to your nutritional development.

But we are worried about whether you will always accept our suggestion. Have you started to think about life with goals and get rid of confusion? Can you overcome your weaknesses and enhance your self-esteem? Can you redouble your efforts in your study and master all kinds of skills as soon as possible? Can boys and girls grasp themselves well and cultivate good psychological quality when communicating? ……

Dear children, maybe we worry too much. ...

I hope you can make good use of the wonderful time of adolescence, be a conscientious person, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, shape a good character, study hard, and gradually establish a beautiful life ideal under the care of teachers and parents. ......