Will you provide for your mother-in-law in her old age?

It is said that "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have many problems." A few days ago, Sister Zhang had a lot of quarrels with her husband about her mother-in-law's pension. She even got a beating because Sister Zhang didn't want to give her husband anything. The mother-in-law supports her in her old age, but her husband disagrees.

In Sister Zhang’s words: Her husband is a good-for-nothing, cowardly man who only knows how to behave in a nest. Sister Zhang said that her husband was not called filial piety, but foolish filial piety, because his mother was very unkind to him. She had been partial to her brother-in-law since she was a child. She would never think of him for good things, but he would always be the first to think of him for bad things. Therefore, the relationship between Sister Zhang and her mother-in-law's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very bad. Her mother-in-law doesn't like Sister Zhang, and Sister Zhang doesn't like her mother-in-law either.

Sister Zhang said that when she married her husband naked, there was no gift, no wedding, and even no wedding photos were taken. Just because her mother-in-law said that the family had no money, she split the money on the wedding day. She said that everything in the family would be left to her brother-in-law. From now on, she would stay with her brother-in-law's family and would not let Sister Zhang's family support her in her old age.

At that time, although Sister Zhang had resentment in her heart, she didn't say anything because after all, she married voluntarily and thought that the family really had no money. But who knew that when her brother-in-law got married, her mother-in-law gave them 150,000 yuan as a gift and lent them money to prepare a new house. Seeing her mother-in-law's move, Sister Zhang was so angry that she was half-dead, but her husband seemed to know about it. , it still doesn’t matter.

Later, when Sister Zhang’s family was still short of money when they bought a house, they would borrow money from her mother-in-law. But her mother-in-law said that she didn’t have any money, not even a penny. In fact, at that time, Sister Zhang knew that her mother-in-law’s old house was Just after the demolition, she must have money in her hands, but seeing her mother-in-law being so determined and her husband being indifferent, Sister Zhang finally gave up and went home to borrow money from her mother and bought a house. Her life was getting better and better. The better, but my mother-in-law came to the door.

My mother-in-law told Sister Zhang that she was sick and in poor health now and needed someone to take care of her. My brother-in-law and his family were very busy at work, so they didn’t have time to see her, so she asked Sister Zhang’s family to take care of her in her old age. She also asked Sister Zhang to resign to take care of her. After hearing this, Sister Zhang was so angry that she naturally disagreed, so she had a big quarrel with her mother-in-law. In fact, what saddened Sister Zhang the most was not the quarrel with her mother-in-law, but her husband's attitude, because her husband actually agreed to let her resign and go home to take care of her mother-in-law. Because she did not agree, Sister Zhang was severely beaten by her husband. Beaten severely.

Sister Zhang said that she wanted to get divorced. She really couldn’t survive such a life. She couldn’t imagine getting along with that evil mother-in-law. She also didn’t want to provide for that mother-in-law in her old age. Now she most What she is worried about is her children. She is afraid that her divorce will harm her children.

The editor has something to say:

It is said: "I would rather demolish ten temples than get married." My advice to Sister Zhang is to get divorced immediately, because such a marriage and such a man will never bring her any happiness. If you have the financial conditions, it is best to take the children with you, because the ability to divorce, It will never cause harm to a child, only an unfortunate home environment will.

It is said: "A good man will be bullied by others, and a good horse will be ridden by others." Sister Zhang's husband has been disliked and favored since he was a child. In fact, he deserves it because he is too stupid and filial and always submissive, so he is always hurt by his mother. So Sister Zhang had to get a divorce, because this man was not only irresponsible, violent, and unpromising, but for his mother, he would only bring harm to women.

In my opinion, Sister Zhang has the right to make her own choices. She has no obligation. She needs to sacrifice herself and then fulfill her mother-in-law. Therefore, every time Sister Zhang makes a mistake, it is only her husband and mother-in-law who are wrong. That's all, so divorce is the best choice for Sister Zhang.

Someone once asked me: "Will you provide for my mother-in-law in her old age?"

I did not answer this question directly, but interviewed four women born in the 1970s. Because they have been there and are experiencing all this, their answers are the most convincing.

Ms. Zhang, 42 years old, has no choice but to support her in her old age.

Ms. Zhang said that when she was young, her mother-in-law was very arrogant and treated her very badly. She targeted her everywhere. Not only did she not help her with anything, but she always based her happiness on Zhang. Lady's Pain.

At that time, my mother-in-law was very arrogant and said that she would never let us support her in her old age. She would not rely on us at all. She said that if she lay down on the road when she was old, she would be crushed to death by a car. . Later she suffered from cerebral thrombosis. Oh, now she has to be waited on for everything and doesn't go to the main road. She cherishes her life more than anyone else.

Originally I didn’t want to take care of it, but my husband couldn’t just leave her alone, so I had no choice but to support her in her old age.

Ms. Chen, 45 years old, will not support her in her old age.

Ms. Chen said that her mother-in-law had more than one child, and her husband was the least liked child, so she also suffered a lot of grievances and injuries. Therefore, she will not support her mother-in-law in her old age. Even after so many years, she still remembers the harm her mother-in-law did to her, and she will remember it for the rest of her life.

Ms. Chen said that in this family, she earns much more than her husband, so she has always had the final say in the family, so she will not choose to provide for her mother-in-law in her old age. She has no obligation to do so. She wasn't in that mood either, because her mother-in-law was indeed very unkind to her.

Ms. Bai, 43 years old. I regard my mother-in-law as closer than my own mother, so I want to provide for her in her old age.

Ms. Bai said that she was born in a family that favored sons over daughters. Her grandmother did not care for her and her uncle did not love her. She has been disliked by her mother since she was a child. In the eyes of her mother, she is a loser, so She had no definition of maternal love. It wasn't until she met her mother-in-law that she truly felt what maternal love was. Her mother-in-law was very kind to her. She often remembered what her mother-in-law said to her: "Since their family doesn't care about her, You, then I will love you from now on, just treat me as your own mother, I love my daughter the most." At that time, Ms. Bai thought that her mother-in-law was just comforting her, but later Ms. Bai realized that her mother-in-law did not mean that. Just saying that, because her mother-in-law treats her much better than her son.

Ms. Bai said that whenever she thinks of her mother-in-law, she will burst into tears. Her mother-in-law has been dead for two years. Whenever she thinks of her mother-in-law, Ms. Bai will think of all the kindness and words her mother-in-law said to her. Her mother-in-law passed away due to illness, and Ms. Bai took care of her day and night during the last days. Although it was very hard, Ms. Bai did not complain because she knew she deserved it, because her mother-in-law gave her nothing but her own mother did not. love.

In my opinion, the daughter-in-law is not obliged to provide for her mother-in-law in her old age, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more of a social relationship rather than a blood relationship, so the daughter-in-law is willing to provide for her mother-in-law in her old age. That is a matter of affection. If the daughter-in-law does not want to support her mother-in-law in her old age, that is also a duty. No one is qualified to make irresponsible remarks.