Stay away from people who always complain

Stay away from people who always like to complain, but what if these people are your own family members? What if the person complaining is you?

? I don’t know what the definition of complaining is for an individual? Are they negative emotional words (whether external or internal), or some words that are not so negative, but will make you uncomfortable if you hear them too much, and the emotions revealed by the words.

? For me personally, this complaint comes from my mother.

When I was a child for the first time and listened to my mother telling some unfortunate things that happened to her, I would feel a sense of hatred towards the person my mother was talking about. I feel sympathy and sadness for what my mother said about her mother's situation at that time.

? My hatred for the bad guys in my mother's mouth was biased, and my sympathy and sadness for my mother's situation at that time were only temporary.

? Those people may have really persecuted my mother as she said, but they should be far less exaggerated than what her mother said.

? My mother often told me how cruel her grandfather was to her when she was a child. If she made the slightest mistake, her grandfather would beat her to death.

? When I first listened to this kind of talk, I still sympathized with my mother’s experiences as a child. After listening to it a few times, my mother's bitter words turned into complaints in my opinion.

? Sometimes my mother will ask me very ignorantly, whether she ever beat us viciously when we were children. Faced with such questions, I always feel extremely painful in my heart - I can only answer my mother with the answers she wants, but cannot tell the truth.

? Whenever my mother asks me if she ever hit me hard when I was a child, I will recall some things that make me feel a little uncomfortable now.

Perhaps in the eyes of my mother now, she beat and scolded us out of love and responsibility for us, and the intensity of the beatings and scoldings was just right. But when I was a child, my mother’s beatings and scoldings were enough to make me forget them for a long time.

? If my mother’s beatings and scoldings were compared to an elephant, my body and mind that endured my mother’s beatings and scoldings would be like an ant being stepped on by an elephant. The elephant will naturally feel that it was stepped on lightly, while the ant will feel that it was crushed to pieces.

? My mother always dislikes my grandma more than my grandpa. This is the only thing I haven't been able to do without being fucked by your grandma; as long as I'm awake, I always remember how your grandma fucked me. It's better when I'm asleep... These are what my mother often complains about.

? I really want to tell my mother, stop saying those complaining words over and over again, let the past happen! Why keep it in mind and complain about it from time to time for fear of forgetting. This is not only a kind of torture to yourself, but also a kind of torture to those around you.

? But I only said such words to my mother once, and the words were much gentler than the short paragraph above. But my mother didn't buy my account at all, saying that I thought she was too long-winded and said that she only said a few words, so I didn't want to see her... Mother usually ends up very angry and swears that since you If you don’t like to hear it, if you say this about me, then I won’t tell you anything in the future.

? Before long, my mother would seem to have forgotten that she had beaten and scolded me when I was a child, and would complain again and again. I could only deal with it casually, It's good to prevaricate in order to comply with mother's heart.

Although you should stay away from those who always complain, what if those complainers are your parents? Or is it just yourself? Perhaps you can only choose to tolerate your parents' complaints; for your own complaints, the best thing to do is to slowly improve them and gradually quit them like quitting smoking and drinking.

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