Girls’ favorite communication methods, girls’ three favorite chat methods

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I finally got to know a girl, and after chatting for two days, I didn’t even get to know her better, but the girl typed her into the “Read and cannot reply” message. Blacklisted.

This is something that is enough to make all boys cry when they hear it and break their eggs when they witness it.

"Teacher Hu Zhe, why is it so hard to chat with a girl all day long?"

A few days ago, a boy who was once again thrown into the cold palace by a girl, out of grief, asked I asked the ultimate question that all straight men have about women.

This is also the most common thing that the students I have taught come to me to complain about.

It is true that men are from Venus and women are from Mars. It is really difficult for two creatures from different dimensions to understand each other.

Especially when you have "hateful intentions" towards other girls and want to pursue them.

No matter how jovial and immoral you are usually, when you meet the girl you like, all that free and easy humor will disappear.

He racked his brains to win the girl's favor, but in the end he either used too much force or was unable to say anything.

In short, not only does the girl not like you, but she will most likely think that you are an idiot who behaves very strangely.

Want to win a girl’s favor?

Optical chat routines can only be regarded as treating the symptoms but not the root cause. What is the Achilles heel of chatting with girls?

Today, let’s talk about three major principles that you must not make when chatting with girls.

Confucius said: To know is to know, and to not know is to know. This is knowledge.

Sage Kong told the world this truth more than 2,000 years ago: knowing means knowing, and not knowing means not knowing. This is the expression of wisdom.

The translation should be more straightforward: Don’t pretend to understand if you don’t understand.

It is true that men are naturally good-looking and have high self-esteem, but it is wrong to be too concerned about face and turn into vanity.

Especially in front of girls, many boys want to make girls think that they are a deep man and a unique man.

He insists on making lofty remarks about some things that he does not understand, and even exaggerates the facts, trying to save face by saying things that he does not even believe.

For example, when the girl was chatting with him about a certain big shot, it was obvious that he and the big shot were far from each other. They might have just met each other while walking on the street, but he had to bite the bullet and say : "XXX, that's my magnet. We used to wear the same pair of pants."

The girl said that there was a delicious high-end restaurant and it was hard to get a reservation. Obviously he didn't even know where the place was. I don’t know, I have to tell the girl: "The boss is my friend, I just want to say hello."

There are three things that people cannot hide, cough, ignorance and love, the more you The more you try to hide something, the more obvious it becomes.

After you say these unrealistic and false words, you think girls will admire you, but in fact they will only think that you are superficial and just see through it without telling the truth.

No matter how hard you try to get along with her, she will have a bad impression of you.

In fact, no one is perfect, and no one knows everything.

Even when a girl talks to you about some topics that you don’t understand, you still have to pretend to be cool even though you clearly don’t understand. Not only does this make you look shallow, it also turns this gap into the biggest obstacle between you and her relationship.

If you are afraid of not knowing what to talk about, you can talk about it in the following two ways.

* Chat about some universal topics that will never go wrong, such as food and travel. No girl will dislike these two types of topics.

* It’s not easy to be pretentious when talking about topics that you are familiar with, because you understand. But remember to talk about something that both of you can talk about, so that the girl can participate instead of passively listening to you.

For example, 99% of young people now eat out for takeout every day, and having home-cooked food once is out of reach.

If you are good at cooking, you can talk to the girl about the dishes you can cook. If you feel like you can chat with each other, you can also take the opportunity to vaguely invite her to try your cooking. If it's not possible, you can still go out to eat something together.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t know the topic she throws at you, just show curiosity about her topic, ask her for advice and listen to what she has to say.

This will not only guide her to take the initiative to talk to you, but also make her feel that you are at least a humble and sincere boy, which will naturally improve her impression of you.

In short, don’t pretend to understand and deceive others. It is more worthy of people to openly face your own shortcomings than to hide them.

What should I do if I have nothing to say when chatting with a girl?

This is a problem that all boys are afraid of facing - not knowing whether to continue talking or to cut off the topic.

What if the girl doesn’t like to listen if we continue to chat?

It’s a rare opportunity to communicate. Wouldn’t it be a waste of opportunity if we didn’t talk?

Don’t end the conversation when you have nothing to talk about. A girl’s evaluation and impression of you mainly depends on whether you are happy or not having a happy conversation with her.

The feeling at the end of a communication accounts for 70% of her evaluation of you. After your chat reaches the emotional peak and ends with the period of decline, it will leave a good impression on the girl.

So don’t try to find something to talk about, especially when you are not so familiar with each other. Awkward chatting will only greatly reduce the girl’s chat experience with you.

So how do we judge when to stop chatting?

For example, when a girl responds to you with: "Hmm", "Oh" or simply responds with an emoticon, it means you should interrupt the conversation. Obviously, she doesn't know what to do anymore. He continued to say anything, and all that was left to do was deal with it if the conversation continued.

Of course, there are some special circumstances. If she sends some emoticons with emotions and text, and the text can be related to the content of your previous chat, then it means that she is not the reject you.

As for how to terminate a chat, follow one principle: you must remain polite and graceful, and don’t leave the girl feeling like she’s running away, let alone not reply directly.

That will make the girl feel that you are dissatisfied with her, and the good image you have worked hard to create will be in vain.

For example, after you get the above signal from a girl, you can just find an excuse: "I suddenly remembered that I have to go out to buy something, and we will talk later."

Or you can make an ending based on the current environment and express your concern for her by the way: "I have to take a shower. You should also go to bed early. Staying up late is not good for your skin. Let's talk next time."

In short, stay polite. Since the conversation has been going back and forth before, don’t end it hastily, so as to give the girl a good chatting experience.

Whether it’s a date in person or a daily chat on WeChat, there are quite a few people who always like to keep a straight face.

It seems that if he is not serious, he cannot appear to be the coolest person in the neighborhood.

In fact, in the eyes of girls, such a boy will not make them think that you are a man, they will only think that you are an extremely boring big pig's hooves.

You should pay more attention to this point when chatting on WeChat. Girls cannot see your expression and attitude from your text. At this time, it is very necessary for you to make your chat atmosphere lively.

Because you can arouse her interest in chatting, you can deepen your understanding of each other, and if you always send a serious signal, when you don’t understand each other so deeply, no one will I would like to talk to you more.

Just like you don’t want to talk about life with your class teacher.

The most effective way to create a relaxed chat atmosphere is to act cute.

Acting cute is a vague concept. It actually refers to an overall comprehensive feeling. Generally speaking, it is influenced by the following three aspects.

When chatting, use some modal particles, WeChat’s built-in emoticons, and your own emoticons to empower your chat emotions.

Using the above 3 tips can bring great emotional effects to girls.

For example, you have just added a girl and are going to ask her what to call her. At this time, if you directly ask him "What is your name?", the girl will feel that you are questioning her condescendingly. Chatting is not a police interrogation.

Even if she replies to you, it is only out of politeness, and she will still label you as having low emotional intelligence and being rude in her heart. If you happen to catch up with a girl that day, she might even greet your uncle directly.

But if you change it to: "What's your name?" and add a shy or cute emoticon, the girl will be happy to chat with you.

Such text can convey a very intuitive feeling to girls, that is, you are very emotional about chatting with her and you are very willing to chat with her.

This can give a girl a psychological hint. She will have an emotional response to you and chat with you in a relaxed manner.

This method is also applicable to face-to-face dating. If you usually have a tough guy image, the effect of using this trick will be doubled.

Acting cute in a moderate way can create an unexpected contrast for the girl, and she will be more interested in you.

Finally, I hope you understand that before you use routines, you must grasp the basic principles, otherwise putting the cart before the horse will only end your relationship in the bud.

To sum up today’s content, if you want to avoid offending a girl’s weakness during chat, you must pay attention to the following three aspects:

① Don’t show off when chatting, there are not many people He is an all-rounder who knows everything from astronomy to geography. Even if the girl talks to you about a topic that you are not familiar with, don't pretend to understand. Give the other party the right to speak and listen patiently to her, which will greatly improve her impression of you.

② Don’t force the conversation when you can’t go on. Learn to end the conversation in time, so that your chat ends at a climax, which is far better than ending in embarrassment. However, you should pay attention to the appropriateness when terminating the conversation. Some courtesy and grace.

③ Since you cannot see emoticons in WeChat, it is difficult for the other party to feel your emotions. Learn to use some modal particles and emoticons to empower your chat emotions, so that her enthusiasm will be mobilized. .