Why do I feel my sense of existence is very low?

I have been a person with a low sense of existence since I was a child. I look average, study average and have an introverted personality. Whether making friends or working, I will always be the one who is ignored by everyone. Especially when a group of people are talking loudly together, I am obviously ready for the topic, my mouth is open, but I don't know if I am involved, so I can only smile awkwardly. Being in such a warm atmosphere, but I am like an out-of-place bystander, that feeling is really unbearable. The more uncomfortable I feel, the more I want to escape. The more you want to escape, the more you can't fit in. The more you can't blend in, the less sense of existence.

As I grow older, I gradually understand that the most fundamental reason why I have no sense of existence is that I am afraid to speak because I am too worried. I have never shown myself in front of people, and I am always worried that there will be various problems, such as? Was it funny when I said terrier? ,? People don't agree with me? Wait a minute. But the more you have such concerns, the harder it is to speak. But by chance, I showed my courage once. People are not so exclusive to me, but I have been praised by others. At that moment, I suddenly found that it was not so difficult to show myself bravely.

Therefore, if you want to improve your sense of existence, you must maintain your inner self-confidence and independence. You are you. You are unique. You must first affirm your existence, so that others will see you, understand you and appreciate you. Of course, under this premise, we must actively learn some interpersonal skills. When to speak, what to say, and taking care of others' emotions and feelings are all very important things.

Finally, you should also understand that improving your sense of existence is not to cater to others' violation of your heart, nor to lick the dog, otherwise you will lose yourself. As long as you act in a team with a sincere attitude, you will gain the sincerity of everyone.