Shopping is comparing and talking.

The pain of comparison My adolescence, like many children, is full of the curse of "comparison". I still clearly remember that one day in the fifth grade of primary school, my deskmate pointed to the "double star" sports shoes that I had worn for two years and said in a surprised and sarcastic tone, "Ah, ha, ha, why are you still wearing double star shoes?" It's so broken, the soil is dead! "I didn't think clearly. I looked down at my shoes and at the handsome black Nike running shoes on his feet, and my heart suddenly became a mess. When I first learned about shoes, there was a saying that brand is good or bad, and wearing cheap brand shoes will be looked down upon. I raised my head without fear, looked disdainful, and proudly gave the boy a sentence: "What happened to Double Star? I feel very comfortable inside! " "But my little self-esteem was poked a hole, it hurts. From that day on, when I was shopping with my parents, I couldn't help secretly looking at the shop with a big hook. My parents would never take me in. But I didn't say anything. I didn't tell them or ask them to buy me a pair of shoes like this. Because I read the price tag, I know in my heart that my family can't afford shoes like that. At that time, I was a "female diaosi" who rented a house with my parents everywhere and couldn't afford even the cheapest Barbie doll! And my deskmate, in the present words, is "Gao Fushuai". I know very well that my home is different from his. When I was in junior high school, I bought my first pair of "famous brand" shoes: a pair of Kappa shoes. More than 300 yuan, much cheaper than Nike, Adidas and other shoes, but when my mother went to pay, I was still ecstatic, and a little voice in my heart said, "Look, I don't wear a double star now, and no one will point at my shoes and laugh at me!" However, before I could be happy for too long, I knew from my classmates and from my mouth that Kappa was nothing! When I entered middle school, I really realized what "comparison" was. Because you have to wear school uniforms every day, only shoes are not required by the school, so the only thing that can tell a person's "worth" is the shoes on his feet. It was our restless and sensitive adolescence, and everyone was trying to prove his value and publicize his personality, so everyone worked hard on shoes. The more expensive the shoes, the more gorgeous and the higher the grade. If there is an overseas limited edition or something, it will be more imposing than stepping on hot wheels. Just look at it. Those boys and girls who are "famous" in their grades, those who attract everyone's attention, and those who make people envy and hate "white" and "Gao Fushuai" are not wearing brand-name shoes with bright colors. It seems that people can be divided into three grades according to their shoes, which determines your circle and your level of making friends, and determines whether you are a hipster or a bumpkin. At that time, I knew that the conditions at home were much better than before, but I was still not well off. But I can't help but covet those shoes that show value. I also want to show off the market and attract the attention of people who know how to do things, just like those girls and boys. At least, don't look shabby and don't be looked down upon. But I also know very well that the cheapest pair of shoes like that costs several hundred, one thousand and more expensive. Not to mention whether my parents will agree, I feel toothache, stomachache and distressed when I think about it myself. I can't bear it! However, I really want a pair, very much. The first pair of brand-name shoes on the second day of the Spring Festival, I took my mother into Adidas' shop on the grounds that I was about to enter the third day, in order to prepare for the physical education entrance examination, look in front of the dazzling array of shoes and try to choose a suitable pair. I pretended to be calm on the surface, but in fact I was extremely nervous, as stiff as a poor man sitting in a luxurious western restaurant, for fear of being seen through. Picked up a pair of shoes that looked ordinary and took a look at the price, oh, more than 700. Afraid of being despised by the sales staff around him, he pretended to look around and put it back carefully; Pick up another pair, cough, more than 800, and then put it back; I chose another pair, more than 600 yuan, which was not much cheaper ... My mother followed closely and looked at the price of this pair of shoes. She said frankly to me, "Daughter, it's too expensive, isn't it just a pair of shoes?" Let's go to another house and have a look. "I know my mother is telling the truth, but I won't give up and say," Let's see. "I finally found a pair below 600, and I breathed a sigh of relief, as if I saw a glimmer of hope. The enthusiastic clerk brought me the right size. I tried and tried, walked and walked, and kept saying "nothing", but my mother looked left and right, but she just wouldn't say it. After a long time, she smiled and said to the clerk, "Let's have a look again. "I was very discouraged when I heard that, but I still took off those shoes and reluctantly left the store. I know that the price of more than 500 is still very expensive. Mom can't bear to part with me, but when I turn around, I always think about those shoes, and I'm absent-minded. I don't like other shoes either. I gritted my teeth, took my mother's hand and said, "Mom, I want that pair. Although it is expensive, I will wear it to run. If I wear more clothes and wear them for a long time, I won't waste them. "I could see the embarrassment in my mother's eyes, but my mother sighed and went back to buy me that pair of shoes, my first pair of Adidas. Carrying shoes, although I feel a little distressed about the money spent, I am still very happy. Now, everyone thinks it's ridiculous. I wear those shoes to school, as if I really feel that they have helped me improve my social status, and I have enough confidence to speak. I seem to have suddenly become one of the "hipsters" in the school. When I walked out of the comparison and found my true self in high school, my family conditions improved and I had more shoes, I gradually took these things less seriously. But I still have a "bad habit" of comparing with others, and I can't help looking at the clothes and shoes of people around me. But I soon found that in my experimental class, those really excellent students with ideals and ambitions are not "brands". Little r, who is super good at studying and ranks first in grade, wears nothing ostentatiously and can't see any famous brands. However, the high ponytail filled her with sunshine. She is an example for each of us to learn and even worship. Xiao Y is a serious and responsible monitor, good at coordinating and taking care of everyone. He has read many books, from Marx to Hegel, from Sima Qian to Liang Qichao, knowing everything. The monitor loves to wear the most common and comfortable shoes, the simplest and simple T-shirt and the small black schoolbag, which has been carried from primary school to now. We often joke that he is "shabby" and he never gets angry. He just grinned and waved his hand and said, "Why change your back? Isn't the schoolbag used for endorsement! I admire him, his knowledge and his maturity. Yes, the monitor is right. Schoolbags are used for carrying, shoes are used for walking and running, and clothes are used to cover the body. Very comfortable, very fit. Why pay so much attention to so many incidental things? In those three years, I gradually got rid of these "comparison" things and understood that "brand" and "price" are all floating clouds, and there is no need to feel inferior for these external things. If you have the conditions, you can enjoy things with better quality and higher grade, and don't think about glory; If there are no conditions, choose the right one, clean and comfortable, and don't be ashamed. No one will judge who you are by the tag on your clothes. Especially in senior three, in those days when I struggled for the college entrance examination, I understood that my future was entirely in my own hands. Who I am, the key is whether I work hard enough and have a sunny future. What brand of clothes and shoes to wear, no matter how expensive it is? Who cares except those who are still naive to use their parents' hard-earned money to improve their worth, but don't know how to practice a real skill? These "comparisons" don't mean anything. I can't take a pair of shoes as an answer sheet and get into the university I want to go to, can I? Later, when I was admitted to the coveted Peking University, I felt more and more that "comparison" almost did not exist in this good place to study. Although the students come from all corners of the country, they are all top students from all provinces and regions with strong learning ability. Everyone's family conditions are uneven, but few people care about "brand" and "price", let alone talk about it. Everyone knows that a better life in the future depends on your efforts now, and you can't be a hero by showing off your parents' money everywhere. A few days ago, I saw such a story: a boy dressed in fashion and holding the latest mobile phone, dressed in shabby clothes, went straight to the Nike counter with his parents, and he decided to buy a pair of shoes. Dad almost turned his face and roared, "It's better to rob a pair of shoes for so much money!" " "The mother was a little timid, stroking those shoes and looking at her son awkwardly, while the boy just made up his mind indifferently. Finally, the parents gritted their teeth and bought it for their son. The boy proudly swung out with his shoes, as if he were holding a two-dollar pancake instead of an expensive pair of shoes that his parents bought him cruelly. After reading this story, I sympathize with those parents who have put up with hardships. Now, I have a clear understanding of "comparison". Everyone has a love of beauty, and it is human nature to pursue fashion. All the behaviors of choosing goods according to one's hobbies and economic ability are correct. If the family is well-off, it is good to be willing to spend more money to buy good ones and enjoy higher treatment. But if it is upgraded to "comparison", it is not good to buy things to meet your actual needs, but to feed your vanity. There are mountains beyond the mountains. No matter how rich you are, there will always be people who can afford luxury goods more than you and me. Where is the end of "comparison"? The more fragile your heart is, the more you need external things to whitewash your strength. A truly connotative person never needs to exaggerate his strength with the childish behavior of "keeping up with others". Just as martial arts experts often remain anonymous and dress simply, twisting leaves and picking flowers can also defeat the enemy with one move. I only hate this truth. I found out a little late. If I can have a heart-to-heart talk with this confused adolescent of fifteen or sixteen, I will tell her about it. I wonder how much embarrassment I can save my parents and how much anxiety and inferiority I can reduce.