How terrible is a family without rules?

Rules, a big word we have heard since childhood, were taught by our parents to know rules when we were young, whether talking to elders, eating together or dealing with people.

Rules can be moral, legal or unwritten customs. When we were young, the rules we had to follow were customs, especially when eating. For example, pay attention to the relative position of the bowl and chopsticks before eating. When we sit down, only the older generation are qualified to face the door. When eating, you are not allowed to talk, your left hand is not allowed to droop, and you must hold a bowl. ...

There are many customs besides eating, all of which are rules. Morally, helping others, loving their jobs, caring for public property, being honest and trustworthy, etc. are also rules that social culture requires us to abide by. Rules are everywhere, all the time It is precisely because of these rules that our society can function normally.

So, when a family has no rules, what will it become? Maybe worse than poverty.

Between parents and children

Our parents gave birth to us and raised us. Even if some parents only care about their children's physical and safety needs, they don't consider their children's personality development and mental health, but in any case, they have no credit and hard work. We must respect and respect them.

Of course, this should exclude those parents who are not responsible. For example, some time ago, a woman gave birth to a child in a hotel, but she threw him into the garbage. Whatever the reason, this kind of behavior will be spurned by the world. In the end, she was sentenced to 10 for intentional homicide and sentenced to 6 months in prison.

Between parents and children, making rules helps to maintain family harmony, for example, we must respect each other and not impose our wishes on each other. If you ignore the rules, parents and children will act casually, parents may force their children, and children will respond rudely to their parents.

In fact, in many families, rules have not been given due attention. Parents think they are above their children, treat them like their own parents, suppress, abuse and beat them, and frequently force them to do things they don't like.

Parents never think that they should be bound by rules, so they also create unruly children. Children who grow up in this environment, although wronged for a while, will one day realize the fact that they are oppressed, especially in adolescence, they begin to resist the "tyranny" of their parents and fight for their rights and interests.

In the process of conflict, parents can gradually realize that there is something wrong with their previous education, but the relationship between parents and children can't be made up, even affecting their work, children's learning and the formation of mature personality.

In addition, ignoring the rules may also be manifested as a neglected way of education, that is, indifference to children's growth.

Children can play with their mobile phones and computers or go out with friends until they get home late, so their academic performance is in a mess and may be dangerous.

In short, such a parent-child relationship is very undesirable. On the one hand, it may lead to the deterioration of parent-child relationship. On the other hand, children have poor self-control ability and need some rules to guide their growth.

between husband and wife

Rules are a desire, a promise, and the sincerity of two people. However, in almost all marital relationships, rules have become a dispensable burden.

I read a comment some time ago. A netizen said that he and his wife never talked about unhappy things when eating, but shared interesting things they experienced that day. This is due to the rules set by the couple before, that is, they can only talk about these things while eating and refuse to spread negative energy.

This is actually a good rule. This rule is not to suppress and oppress, but to maintain the relationship between husband and wife, so that husband and wife can have a happy and relaxed meal time after a day's work.

This is their promise and a testimony of love.

However, many couples ignore the establishment of family rules. They think they have deep feelings and don't have to rely on foreign things to restrain their behavior, but in fact they quarrel every day and their minds are full of trivial things.

If couples can give full play to their creativity, restrain their words and deeds with rules, and even put a piece of paper on the dining table or other places where they can see it at a glance, why not?

People are always blind and confident in their own means of dealing with relationships, always thinking that the future will be better, but in fact, calm often breeds stormy waves. Not quarreling now actually means the next more intense quarrel.

Therefore, even between husband and wife, rules are very important. People who know how to use rules to maintain family harmony must be full of wisdom and foresight.