"Relatives are people who protect your interests under the guise of blood relationship", what do you think?

This sentence is all wet. There used to be a saying that relatives broke bones and joined tendons!

Relatives are relatives. Relatives who are related by blood are called relatives. Zhang Li, Li La Wang, Wang Lasong. That's not a relative. If such a person keeps a relationship with you, you are not interested in letting him make demands, and they will not be close to you at all.

The alley is not afraid of wine. As long as you have' good goods', you don't have to look at others, others will come to you. This is the way society is now. Some people ask the mountains to be rich, but no one knows that they are poor. These things show how cold and warm the world is, how bitter and sweet the world is.

How can a relative be said to be someone who keeps an interest relationship with you under the guise of blood relationship? Oh, I see. So, you must have had this experience. Must have been hurt by such relatives for the benefit. Otherwise, I wouldn't say so.

As the saying goes, Linda has all kinds of birds and people in society. With the development of society, people can do whatever they want for their own selfish interests. My neighbor once told me something. His family has an orchard, and the fruit needs to be shipped out, so he bought a truck, and every time he was dissatisfied. His relatives saw the opportunity and asked him to take some on the way. After a long time, the neighbors were hurt. First, he was late. Second, he was late for work. Every time he finishes selling, he has to wait for his relatives. Later, the neighbor took care of the fruit and could not take it away. His relatives were very unhappy, so they left an uncharted message, why bother to find someone to get the fruit!

Judging from this small matter, he is happy when you give him benefits, and he is like an enemy without benefits.

But I say goodbye to those who are related to you!

People help each other. If it's good, you can go. If it's not good, you can stay away. This kind of person can't be mean, but hateful.

Dealing with things depends on people, what kind of guests want to eat what kind of food, that is, we should discuss people below, and we should not give opportunities to greedy people.

Everyone should keep their eyes open.

Let me talk about my relatives. Grandpa died early, grandma bound feet, and mother was the eldest sister. She raised three little brothers with great pains since childhood, and even had no chance to study. She is too tired and short, and has made great contributions to her family. In that famine year, our family was poor, but grandma was always our support. Three uncles, two people who went to technical secondary school, and masons, lived well and never repaid my mother's kindness. Instead, he often comes to my house to ask for this and that, as if there are inexhaustible treasures at home.

After the resumption of the college entrance examination, my third brother and I were admitted to the university with excellent results. With a job, our family is no longer poor. As long as someone in my uncle's family is sick, he will inform my family to ask for money, otherwise the whole family will come to my house to ask for food, as if they were injured in the war for us. In the late 1990s, when my children were older and my life improved, I would give my uncles cigarettes, wine, tea and other gifts every year when I went back to my hometown, and then I would wrap 200 yuan's red envelopes. About 5~6 years later, my uncles were not satisfied, so they nagged behind their backs and said, "No matter how hard it is, it will cost 200 yuan", which was eavesdropped by my mother. From then on, I will never go to their home again, nor give them gifts or red envelopes.

People's greed is roughly the same, and their material desires are endless. We choose to stay away from such people! Mobile phones are blacklisted!

That's not necessarily true. Nothing is absolute. I remember when we were building a house in 2004, because of the shortage of funds, we borrowed money from our eldest brother and said that we had borrowed 20 thousand. As a result, three or four days later, our eldest brother and sister-in-law sent us 30 thousand yuan. We were very moved and grateful at that time, and we borrowed it from our third dad. Sanniang asked him to give me the passbook and write the password on a piece of paper. I remember very clearly at that time. He gave it to me.

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Yes, when we were young, we often regarded "relatives" as beautiful and important. Once we grow up and start living independently, we will soon know that family ties are often vulgar; Try to touch each other and roll your eyes without touching the light; Even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives; Life will also tell you that relatives are often less sincere to you than friends and more disgusting than outsiders, especially when right and wrong are right.

I often think that I would rather kill these people if I could. I don't care about my parents' face, but I will put up with it again and let them push their luck. Hurt my family, hurt me. Some people say that they have been poor all their lives, and they have recognized a group of relatives who look down on others, relatives who fall when they are down, and relatives who look on coldly. And I recognized them from the beginning, and they were full of small abacus and bad words. I have to say that it is difficult to paint people's skin and bones, but it is difficult to know people's faces without knowing their hearts. The meaning of this sentence. People's hearts are sometimes more terrible than ghosts, and relatives are sometimes more terrible than others. What are relatives? Why maintain its relationship? A large number of relatives are actually blood enemies and blood-sucking pests. Even the best relatives are worthless in front of interests! Too much unrealistic encouragement, mostly from fair-weather friends and distant relatives. They always look at everything with a superior attitude, but they don't care whether you live well or not, whether you are happy or not.

There is no complete word "life" in relatives' dictionaries, but only a few divided elements: how much money to earn, what does the husband/wife do, how big the house is, whether there is money at home, when to have children, and don't be so stingy when borrowing some money. All this constitutes a distorted standard, and these brazen relatives are the ones who personally annoy you and don't break the law. Why do you need relatives? Too much talk is all tears.

To put it bluntly, relatives are people who have always defended our interests under the guise of blood relationship. And those suggestions from relatives are often destructive rather than constructive. No matter how good the relationship is, it will be instantly clear compared with the interests. In short, those beautiful relatives can always make people feel how disgusting and chilling their family ties are.

Some of them are a little crazy, and their attitude is self-righteous like a wolf. They treat people in a mess and are irresponsible, but they still have to pretend that they have many connections and how great they are. They envy those who are better than them, look down on those who are not rich, trample on other people's children or families, and show how great their family is. Their benevolence, virtue, kindness and filial piety are actually just shackles used to kidnap others. Otherwise, the party concerned is the sinner in this moral kidnapping, refusing to recognize family ties, baiwenhang and so on. They met a person and said that the parties were victims of what they couldn't do or didn't do. They always turn things upside down, embellish them, and spread rumors and slander. In the final analysis, there is only one reason, that is, they did not get the benefits they wanted from the parties. They are upset and unbalanced.

They always pretend to be considerate of the parties, but in fact they are flattering their faces with one thing behind their backs and using all kinds of intrigues. When there is nothing, no relatives will help. But once they feel better, these people can't wait to eat and clean up. They will encourage the families of the parties to sow discord. They will arrange a blind date at random and ruin the happiness of the client for the rest of his life. After being rejected, the parties will be vilified outside, and they will be furious, saying that the parties will not look at themselves, and they are so old, so what else to choose? Or, I can't find the vicious language of waiting for the future. Look, this is what some people in this world are experiencing, the so-called affection.

On the other hand, if they really think of the client, would you please ask before introducing them? Anyone dares to introduce. In their eyes, is it that bad? What do you mean, "if you want to pick people, you have to have capital." Look at your age? This kind of family is almost enough, and it is very picky. "I say, meet similar relatives, or only know take advantage of, self-righteous relatives, let them get out of the house. They don't need to mind their own business, and it's not their turn to tell others what to do with those irrelevant people. I thought relatives would really worry about themselves. Sometimes inadvertently see the essence, in fact, will find that everything is false, no one really cares.

They will always think you are ungrateful, ugly, short and picky. All kinds of ugly rumors are everywhere, and the initiator behind the rumors is the so-called relatives. Is this for the benefit of customers? Is this something that relatives do? Don't pretend to be a good person if you look down on the client.

I have to say that there are still good relatives in the world. They are kind and really care about others. However, there is no denying that some relatives are really hypocritical, pretending to care about you on the surface, but in fact they have nothing to do with it, and they are still doing some activities to hit people when they are down. Are relatives, in their eyes, you are a person who has nothing to be poor and ugly, and anyone can do that. What age is it now? You are still engaged in those things, such as urging marriage, urging work, sowing dissension, and having children ... even with the psychology of watching jokes, they will be happy if nothing goes well and nothing can compare with his family. This is an endless luxury. Other people's business is none of their business, so we have to pretend to care about them. If you say who won't, if you are really worried, show your sincerity and take action. Feel sick. Don't think like a wolf about how to provoke other people's family relationships, discredit others, tell others right and wrong, slander others, think about how much money others earn, what good things to give themselves, and break up others ... not afraid of retribution?

In a word, I personally think that no matter what happens, we must settle accounts with our brothers in black and white, regardless of our relatives and friends. Draw a clear line with friends and family in everything and stick to principles. Many times, as long as you start to compromise with them, you will be belittled by them.

When one day they turn against each other, they will take those benefits for granted, and you are what they call ungrateful, baiwenhang. And the result? They have their eyes on you and your family.

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I don't agree with the definition of relative: someone who keeps an interest relationship with you under the guise of blood relationship.

First of all, we need to know what relatives are. Relatives refer to families or their members who are married or related by blood with their own families, excluding family members and paternal relatives. For example: relatives of spouses; Relatives of mom/dad; Relatives of the children. Simply put, it is the brothers and sisters of mom and dad, and the brothers and sisters of your spouse's mom and dad, who are closely related. It is no exaggeration to say that 10% of your blood is the same as your relatives, so your relatives are also relatives. They can also help you when you are in trouble, or send you a blessing when you are happy. Many people on the internet say that the poor don't ask in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. This is only a small number of people, not all relatives. I remember that in 2008, my family built a house. Due to lack of money, menstruation lent my family 20,000 yuan, and Uncle menstruation borrowed about100,000 yuan. With their help, my family successfully built a house. Of course, everyone is mutual. In 20 16, my aunt built a house and the family lent them 50 thousand. So I think relatives help each other. You help me, I help you, and everyone runs along the road of prosperity.

So I think the definition of relatives is a group of relatives who are related by blood, helping each other, supporting each other and sharing wealth with family members. We should treat family ties rationally, not follow the trend, classify family ties as derogatory, and completely classify family ties as interests. Who among people is not maintained by interests? So don't always think that your relatives want something from you, and don't think that your relatives just want to lie to you and treat you rationally.

These views are as follows:

First, from birth, people grew up in the harmonious circle of parents, brothers, sisters and relatives, and lived a simple and happy life. When you grow up, seeing everything with interests shows that you are a philistine and should not be like this. This will hurt family relationships and degrade your personality.

Second, there are certainly benefits, but don't overestimate yourself, or you will alienate others.

This is a fact. Girls who occupy other people's wealth also occupy other people's wealth and have to wander around. The difference is that they can cheat people and cheat money clearly and justifiably. Hell, every family does. People who love each other, go back and forth from there, and people who know life like the back of their hands can't repay the debts they owe in life. Who knew they were born in a low animal society?

This concept of "relatives" is also acceptable, and with the secular changes, the relationship between relatives has become favorable and the blood relationship has gradually faded, which is a social phenomenon! Although a little ironic, it does exist in reality! The original intention of everything is pure and strong, but with the changes of the times, it tends to fade. But this is a minority, "blood is always thicker than water." I think relatives are relatives who help each other in social life and share weal and woe with * * *, thus constructing a deep human warmth, allowing people to blend in and feel the beauty of life.

I don't agree with this view. The relationship between relatives is simple and complicated, sometimes warm and sometimes cold. The state of the relationship depends entirely on the enthusiasm of getting along at that time, not just relying on interests like business partners. What is the "relationship" between relatives and you, mainly depends on the starting point for you to see relatives.

Relatives: as the name implies, generally refers to the family or its members who are married or related to their own family.

This is a simple "rogue" relationship, because we can choose who to make friends with, but we can't choose who to be relatives with. There are all kinds of people in society, and there are always some people who are unpopular and disgusting. If those people happen to be your relatives, are they helpless and want to cry? Once you are with such a person, you can't get rid of it if you want to.

In society, just avoid people you hate. But relatives are different. Visiting relatives on holidays, everyone gets together. Even if you hate a relative, there is no good way to avoid it completely. If you don't move at all, there will be relatives pointing at your back. Besides, if the old man is still alive at home, it is almost impossible to cut off contact with those boring relatives. On many occasions, we can only sit together, listen to annoying relatives bragging, accept annoying cross-examination, and tolerate some of his bad behavior. So from this perspective, relatives are a rogue relationship.

Kinship also includes consanguinity. From the perspective of providing for the aged, kinship is a complicated relationship. Because this is not only a family relationship, but also involves many things such as the support, care and rehabilitation of the elderly between relatives.

Therefore, the reasons for maintaining the relationship between relatives who support the elderly are very complicated. It is possible that several families have long been incompatible with each other, and they have to continue to communicate out of their feelings and obligations to the elderly. It is also possible that they just come and go to share the maintenance costs together, which also involves the interest relationship in the problem ......

Of course, more people continue to keep in touch with their relatives because of family ties. As the saying goes, "nephews and uncles, broken bones and tendons." I have an uncle myself, who was very kind to me when I was a child. From the perspective of interests, I am the beneficiary, but not to him, so relatives are not only maintained by interests, sometimes because of family ties.

Therefore, I have always believed that the reason why people nowadays have no affinity for their loved ones is because in modern society, the ability of every family is stronger than before. Only when small things don't want to cause trouble to each other, will they feel less connected and less affectionate. However, when we get together organically, it is difficult to be loved by others from this angle because we get together less and leave more, because there are big cultural differences and few languages, and we are afraid of sensitive misunderstanding when we say something we care about, and we are afraid that the other party will think it doesn't matter if we don't say it.

I disagree with this statement.

1, killing everyone with a stick is not right in itself. Relatives are human beings, and there must be good and bad. Because no one is perfect, it is impossible for us to influence others' views on kinship, but at least we should know that everyone has several relatives, and of course there are some disadvantages. The good ones move you and the bad ones annoy you, but we can't define kinship based on interests, which is too one-sided.

2, all interpersonal relationships, will be more or less related to interests, which we must face, not because of choking. Whether it is relatives or ordinary people, since they live in society, they have to face the reality more or less. In rural areas, even if relatives are farmers, it is also an interest relationship to occasionally grow a few dishes and send them to others' homes, but this is a manifestation of attaching importance to family ties. This kind of interest protection is good, and we should accept it. When talking about feelings, don't involve interests. We will all deny them. Personally, I feel wrong.

3. In kinship, we can choose the good and follow the good. Those who are easy to get along with, have more contact, and those who are not easy to get along with, will get by. You don't need to do multiple choice questions. Even if we meet relatives who only look at interests, we can make our own choices. If it's a big deal, stay away from them and have less contact. At this time, not a mouse excrement can fall into the pot. But because of a bad example, it would be a pity to deny all family relationships and give up even a good relative.

Society has become very realistic, and the relationship between relatives has changed greatly, which will be full of comparisons. Some relatives even wish they were better than you. What kind of mentality is normal, we just have to get along on our own, and there is no need to completely deny family relations.