On the wedding night, my mother-in-law asked me to wash the feet of the whole family. Is it too much for her to do so?

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Men are superior to women has always been a word used in the old society. It is used to bind women and emphasize men's position in society. With the progress of the times, this idea has been gradually abandoned by people, and the status of women in society has gradually risen. As the saying goes, "women can also hold up half the sky".

Even so, there are still many people who think that the role of women in marriage is limited to carrying on the family line and serving the in-laws and husbands, and many family conflicts have also broken out.

This kind of unequal marriage violates the rule of happiness from the beginning. A good marriage is often based on mutual respect. No matter which party in the marriage is not respected in this process, the marriage will not last long.

Therefore, before a woman marries her husband's family, it's best to know about the other family's situation. If she finds out that the other family has this idea, stop the loss in time, and it will be too late when she is finally hurt all over.

Xiaoya and her husband Zhibin have been married for three months. To outsiders, their marriage is extremely inappropriate, because Zhibin's hometown is rural and he is still a foreigner. Xiaoya is a Beijing girl. Before knowing Zhibin, he never thought that he would deal with such a seemingly incomparable person.

Although Zhibin says that his family is poor, he is not stingy in chasing girls. As long as the other party wants something, he will try his best to satisfy it, even if the conditions are limited, he will make up for it in other ways.

Xiaoya was caught by Zhibin in this way. Zhibin looks good, is 1.8 meters tall, and likes playing basketball. Such boys are very popular among girls.

After spending time with Zhibin, Xiaoya began to think about Zhibin. She knew that Zhibin's family was not very rich, so she helped him as much as possible in life. Xiaoya had thousands of pocket money every month. Every time she went out to eat, Xiaoya rushed to pay the bill. Zhibin didn't agree at first, but at Xiaoya's insistence, he slowly accepted it.

After spending some time together, Zhibin proposed marriage to Xiaoya. Although Xiaoya loved Zhibin very much, she felt that the time was not yet ripe and wanted to spend some more time together. After all, they had only been dating for less than half a year. After learning Xiaoya's idea, Zhibin ignored her for three whole days.

Xiaoya was afraid of losing Zhibin, so on the fourth day, she compromised with Zhibin and promised to marry him.

They got a marriage certificate without their parents' consent. Zhibin's parents have no problem with this marriage, because with their family's conditions, being able to marry such a city girl is really a bargain.

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But Xiaoya's parents are not so happy. Although Zhibin is a perfect person in Xiaoya's eyes, Xiaoya's parents feel that Zhibin is very scheming. Without the permission of both parents, they took their girlfriend to get the license. Moreover, with Zhibin's family conditions, it is difficult to establish a foothold in Beijing, and Xiaoya is his best backer.

So they don't think that Zhibin really loves his daughter, but now it's cooked with uncooked rice. If you divorce, Xiaoya will be married for the second time. At the same time, they also consider Xiaoya's feelings and know that Xiaoya loves this man very much, so they only said to Xiaoya, "Daughter, we hope that after you get married, you must be careful of this man and his family and don't let yourself be wronged."

As Xiaoya's parents expected, when discussing the wedding room and bride price, Zhibin said that his family conditions were limited and his parents couldn't afford a wedding room for him. If Xiaoya didn't mind, he suggested renting a house to get married and buying a house when they were rich.

Xiaoya doesn't have any complaints, but Xiaoya's parents don't want to let their daughter rent a house every day. They bought a house in the suburbs of Beijing before. Although it is a second-hand house, it is quite new to decorate. Regarding the bride price, Zhibin said that their family can only afford 5, yuan, but they can't afford more.

Because the names of Xiaoya's parents were written on their wedding room, Zhibin suggested to Xiaoya that the name should be changed for them, so that he could live in peace of mind.

Xiaoya kept her mind at this time. She said, "In theory, this wedding room should be bought by your family. Now my parents provide us with a house, but they only rent it for free, so this house is still my parents'". Xiaoya's comments made Zhibin not bashful to continue.

The banquet money for the wedding, as well as the plane tickets of relatives of Zhibin's hometown, were all given by Xiaoya's family. Most of Xiaoya's relatives are rich, so they received 1, yuan for the money alone, not to mention that many people outsourced red envelopes to them. Compared with Xiaoya's family, Zhibin's relatives looked a little shabby. Most of their money was one or two hundred yuan, and they also took the whole family to dinner together.

After the wedding, Zhibin took his parents and uncles to visit their wedding room, which was surrounded by a large family.

At this time, Zhibin's mother said to Xiaoya, "Daughter-in-law, you are also a member of our family now, and I have to make it clear to you that in our family, a daughter-in-law is supposed to serve her in-laws, and women can't resist what men say. Besides, a woman's first task is to pass on the family reception. If a woman can't continue to burn incense for her husband's family, that's great unfilial."

Xiaoya began to mutter in her heart. This is not marrying a daughter-in-law. This is obviously finding a nanny who doesn't need money. Zhibin has never told her about the situation at home before. Seeing that Xiaoya didn't answer, her mother-in-law said, "Daughter-in-law, to show your sincerity, we will officially accept you as a daughter-in-law."

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Xiaoya looked at Zhibin awkwardly. Zhibin said, "Go quickly. My parents have been tired all day. What's the shame for my daughter-in-law to wash her parents' feet?". Xiaoya took a relatively large wooden basin. At this time, several feet reached into the basin. The taste of Xiaoya is unforgettable so far. Xiaoya washed their feet and then wiped them one by one.

In the evening, Xiaoya said angrily to Zhibin, "Let your family go home tomorrow, and I don't intend to associate with them in the future. You can go back to see your mother, but I will never set foot in your home, and I will not be filial to your parents, and my parents don't need your care."

Zhibin was a little puzzled at first. "What's the matter with you? I just let you wash your feet. As for the trouble, besides, my parents are a little old-fashioned, but they all come here like this. In short, I can't let my parents go back, and you have to honor them."

Xiaoya said, "Anyway, my words have reached this point. If you don't agree, you will get a divorce tomorrow." Zhibin didn't think Xiaoya didn't give in this time.

Although he is filial to his parents and afraid of making them sad, he cares more about his own interests. If he divorces Xiaoya, his previous efforts will be in vain, and he will have to leave home clean. With his conditions, it may be difficult to find another excellent girl like Xiaoya. Therefore, after weighing the pros and cons, Zhibin agreed to Xiaoya's request, but it is worth pondering whether his feelings for Xiaoya are true or not.

On the wedding night, the mother-in-law asked her daughter-in-law to wash the feet of the whole family, and the daughter-in-law broke up with her husband's family the next day.

In the face of the embarrassment of her husband's family, Xiaoya is decisive, because she knows that the idea that men are superior to women is deeply rooted in her mother-in-law's mind. If she lives together in the future, Xiaoya will inevitably suffer a lot, and there is a filial husband in the middle. Even if Xiaoya is dissatisfied with them, she can only bear it silently.

The famous novelist Dumas said, "Women sometimes allow others to cheat their love, but never allow them to hurt their self-esteem."

Besides, the idea that men are superior to women is wrong. If Xiaoya wants to live in harmony with her husband's family, she has to give up her dignity and compromise in this marriage. Therefore, for Xiaoya, breaking up with her husband's family is the best way.

No matter how important a woman values her family and marriage, she can't lose her self-esteem in order to maintain a complete family and marriage. Only by respecting yourself can you be respected and loved by your husband. If you lose your dignity, you simply give up the principle of being a man.