It pains me to hit a child.

Some children are timid from childhood and are very afraid of violence. Even before you start fighting, children are already shivering with fear, even have resistance to their parents, are afraid to contact their parents, and even have the idea of running away from their parents. Parents beating their children will make them feel scared inside, and also make them feel that their parents have changed.

Unlike in peacetime, children are no longer willing to share their troubles with their parents. Over time, the generation gap between parents and children is getting deeper and deeper. Some children are bitter and rebellious, and always like to go against their parents. In fact, such children are soft and hard. If you let your child do this, you will listen if you speak well, but if you yell at your child.

Moreover, hitting children from time to time will make them more rebellious, and will also make them afraid of their parents, unwilling to communicate with their parents, and even think that they will treat their parents like this when they are old. This kind of violence will lead to bad consequences. Some children are very sensible and see their parents angry, although they don't know why they are angry.

But children will blame themselves. Did they make their parents angry because they did something wrong? Such children can easily live in an environment of excessive self-blame, which is not conducive to their healthy growth, and such children will not be happy. Such children are prone to pessimistic thoughts and always condemn themselves, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children.

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If you want to criticize children, start with positive language. Although the child made a mistake, it is by no means unforgivable, and it is impossible to completely deny him because he can't control his anger. So, say a few positive words first, such as "Mom knows that you are happy today and like to run around the house, but Mom just told you to be careful not to break the glass ..."

Affirming the mainstream aspects of children before criticizing them can help parents reduce their anger without hurting their self-confidence. If you criticize as soon as you come up, your child will feel wronged. After a long time, it will be easy to deny yourself and feel that you are useless and can't do anything well. Lower your posture, bend or squat, and don't condescend to educate your child.

Parents who condescend to criticize their children are prone to lose their temper, and being on an equal footing with their children helps to suppress their anger. Bowing itself is respect for children. This is out of love education, and it can also make children love themselves. Children love their parents and naturally don't want to make each other angry. Before doing something, they will try to figure out their parents' requirements, do as required, and please their parents.

It should be noted that education in a low voice is not a mistake of coaxing children, tolerating them and letting them go indefinitely. Parents must stick to principles, explain the truth, make him aware of his mistakes and urge him to correct them.

People's Daily Online-It is counterproductive to beat and scold children loudly, and education in a low voice helps parents to enhance their prestige.