Don't talk about things when they are done, don't admonish when things are done, and let bygones be bygones.

Duke Ai asked the community about Zaiwo, and Zaiwo replied: "The people of the Xia Dynasty used pine, the people of Yin used cypress, and the people of Zhou used chestnuts, saying that they made the people tremble." Confucius heard this and said: "It won't work. He said, "If things go well, don't admonish them, and let things go by the wayside."

Translation:

Duke Ai of Lu asked me, "What kind of tree should the god of the earth use?"

Zaiwo replied: "The Xia Dynasty used pine trees, the Shang Dynasty used cypress trees, and the Zhou Dynasty used chestnut trees. The meaning of using chestnut trees is to make the people tremble."

Confucius listened After arriving, he said: "There is no need to mention what has been done, there is no need to dissuade what has been done, and there is no need to pursue what has been done."

"Remonstrance, let bygones be bygones." When you first look at these twelve words, you will feel that they are a kind of positive life. It is a good motto to live a low-key life and let yourself and others go.

Today I want to talk about my understanding of these twelve characters.

Don’t talk about things that have been done - don’t mention things that have already been done

I have two thoughts on these four words: first, we must make a fortune silently, and after we make a fortune We need to keep a low profile and continue to make a fortune.

Nowadays, it is difficult for many people to keep silent and make a fortune. Most of them start to show off and show off after achieving a small achievement. However, being a low-key person is something that each of us should learn. If you don’t talk about success, I think it’s just to make a fortune quietly. This is probably the popular saying: "You have to quietly amaze everyone."

After achieving achievements, we should not be complacent. Continue to work hard at the next level, because when you look back in the future, your current achievements will mean nothing. If a person keeps emphasizing his achievements ten years ago or twenty years ago, then I think this person is a failure... People should be constantly improving. They should continue to learn and improve at any time, and always be on the road to learning. on the royal road.

You should not be complacent about your little achievements.

Even if you don’t talk about things that have been done, let alone things that haven’t been done yet, you shouldn’t talk about them, so as not to cause more troubles.

Looking at it from another perspective, don’t talk about the things you have accomplished, and you should work hard on the unfinished things in silence. If you want to do something, just do it with firm belief, don't just say it but don't do it. Success must be reflected in your own actions, it is useless to say it.

Succeed without admonishment - there is no need to dissuade what has been done

Sui here means completion. So this means that everything we do may not necessarily go smoothly and everything will be successful. We may encounter setbacks, encounter difficulties, and irreparable things happen.

My understanding is that if you do not give advice, you should look forward.

No matter whether the current result is satisfactory to you or not, it has already happened. The only thing you have to think about is what to do in the future.

Many times we regret anything we have done or every choice we have made in the present and in the past. We often say if we had. But how could there be so many ifs and how could there be so many originals? You should not regret anything. If you do it and happen, then you should bear it and solve it. Regarding the results that have already occurred, it is useless to dissuade, regret, and get angry. The only useful thing is to solve it.

So I think that to follow the situation without admonishing is to let yourself go, not to miss the past, but only to look forward to the future. In the present moment, don't think about what has happened, just think about what you plan to do in the future.

Let bygones be bygones - there is no need to pursue things that are past.

If doing things without admonishment means letting yourself go, then letting things go by the past means letting others go. I don’t know if you have ever met someone who settles old scores in life. I hate people who settle old scores. Originally it was C's matter, but I have to drag you to discuss AB's past matters... However, we are destined to be unable to change others. I can only tell myself not to settle old scores like others!

"The Analects" always mentions "gentleman". I think that a gentleman must be open-minded, optimistic, tolerant, and have a certain tolerance for mistakes. The world is wonderful because of differences. Everyone is not perfect, so they all make mistakes. For those who make mistakes, we should guide and tolerate them instead of holding on to them. Many times, saving some face for others means leaving some escape route for yourself.

Just imagine, when we make mistakes, don’t we want others to be harsh on us?

Letting go of the past is a tolerant mentality. Let the past go. While letting yourself go, you should also let others go.

Don’t talk about things when they are done, don’t admonish when things are done, and don’t blame the past. I hope that on the way to making a fortune, you and I will not dwell on the past, not be afraid of the future, and seize the day!