Talking about marriage

I've been thinking about this for a long time.

My husband is usually busy. I go on business and seldom go home. Go home and rest for three or five days when you are free.

As a wife, I really understand that men regard home as a place to relax. He said twice that I want to go home and rest. One for his mother and one for me.

He is not male chauvinism, nor is he straight with cancer. If I ask him to do something temporarily, he will help without delay. I just don't understand why I can always hold my mobile phone except for eating and going to the toilet. Play games and watch video chat. Or occupy the toilet, play games and watch video chat. Especially after having children, he seldom takes care of them alone, so that I can do other things with confidence. He thought to himself that he did have time to spend with his children. But in my eyes, playing mobile phone company is of low quality and even has a negative impact.

So I asked my friends who are also married. The answer they gave me was: the same husband!

I sent this spit to a circle of friends, "The common skills of married men, playing mobile phones, occupying toilets." Here are some of their comments:

The one in the red circle belongs to the married little sister, and everyone agrees that the husband is the same. I won't send some of the same comments.

In addition, there are also single women who vomit: even if men are not married, they like to play mobile phones and stay in the toilet for a long time.

Another married man also said: everyone likes to play mobile phones, right?

But as a woman in marriage, she should be able to understand the meaning of this passage.

We are not accusing this phenomenon of being wrong, because in this era of electronic information, mobile phones are an important tool for us to obtain information and contact others. But what we are dissatisfied with is that while women give up all kinds of entertainment after marriage, men can keep all the habits before marriage.

Of course, I can't generalize, because there are indeed many men who can effectively arrange most of their free time for their relatives and partners. So let me talk about the characteristics of this kind of man around me:

1 The family that comes from is a' woman in charge'. Most of the cities where I live, Native House, have very similar backgrounds: men do business outside and women stay at home. Therefore, every child is taken care of very carefully. Almost all family services and children's education are contracted by mothers. Even in some families, mothers have to undertake the task of making money to support their families. (This situation is even worse, which is probably what we now call widowed marriage. )

The way elders get along with each other can easily be cloned into our own marriage. Especially men will think that this is how my mother came to take care of me, so my wife should also play this role. They automatically assign the tasks undertaken by their mothers at home to their wives. So when it comes to "housework" and "parenting", he naturally thinks that this is not what he wants to lead.

Women say that men don't help, not that I don't want to do housework. What we want is that when we are busy working, or when the child is crying, the other half can lend us a helping hand, so that we can relax and be considerate and caring in words.

2. The gradual weakening and disappearance of emotional perception. Some people say that in fact, my other half was not like this when they first got together. When I cook, he will help me with housework and cleaning. So is my husband. When I am unhappy, he will soon find out and ask me what's wrong. When I am tired, I can take it away from my hand and do it myself. However, in the third year of marriage, I obviously felt that he began to delay. Yes, it is procrastination. When I express my needs, he will say, ok, wait a minute, I'll be ready in a minute. But many of our needs need to be obtained immediately. For example, when a child cries, I hope he will help immediately. I hope he will appear in the next second when I am at a loss. Even, I hope he can show up to help me before I express my needs.

But time is such an invisible weapon. The longer two people spend together, many things will become natural. The other person will take it for granted that you do laundry and cook, and won't think that you are actually tired and need a rest after doing so many things.

This problem will also appear in women. Therefore, while we spit out the other half, we must first reflect on ourselves and whether we have achieved the same understanding and consideration as before. If our introspection is right, then we need to communicate with the other half. Seriously, sit down and talk. Express your fatigue and tell each other what you need to do. Never let them think for themselves. Because it will disappear. ) I have tried this method many times. And the sooner the better. As soon as you find that your husband doesn't love you as much as before, you should start to communicate and express your needs.

The above is part of my life experience. If you read this article, you have the same experience. Write it down and spit it out together

If you have more ways to keep the relationship fresh, please give me your advice.

Life must be managed with care. Two men and women who love each other, if they want to live a better life, can find a more suitable way to get along with each other through mutual communication.