Why do parents always quarrel?

When couples live together, there will always be some contradictions. When they have children, parents should not only think of themselves. Even if there are contradictions between husband and wife, we should take into account the children's thoughts. They shouldn't always quarrel in front of the children. Their young minds can't bear their parents' frequent quarrels, and they will be unhappy in the family, which will directly affect their children's life. They are not sure about the opportunity and have no feelings in their hearts. Frequent quarrels between husband and wife will make their fragile young hearts leave. The most obvious effect is as follows.

1, irritable and withdrawn

Couples often quarrel. To tell the truth, it was only the children who were injured. After a long time, this will affect the child's personality. If a clever and sensible baby often sees mom and dad quarreling in front of him, his personality will become more irritable and even irritable and withdrawn.

In children's inner world, people often think that other people's families are so harmonious and beautiful, and gradually form abusive and lonely feelings in front of classmates. There are still many imitations of our adults' words and deeds, because the children's first teachers are their parents. If we quarrel in front of the children, then the children will see and remember the behavior during the quarrel, so that over time, the children's personality will become very violent.

2, lack of security, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss

I believe there are many irrational parents who start yelling whenever they get hot-headed, regardless of who is around them. Children will definitely cry when they see it, and even wonder if you will be separated, and then you may lack the company of your mother or baby.

Parents quarrel in front of their children. It's best not to make such a very hurtful quarrel picture in front of children, because it will make children feel scared and helpless. Seeing parents quarreling again and again will make children seriously insecure. In fact, children at this time are very fragile and soft inside. I have read a related statistic, and 80% of adults in fear of marriage have experienced emotional disharmony or frequent quarrels between their parents since childhood, and they are disappointed or even afraid of marriage. This is an unsafe factor in their childhood psychology, which has an impact on their children's life.

3, learn for your own use, unfilial.

It is true that the baby is not filial. Seeing parents quarreling or behaving is usually contagious. I don't like every time my parents quarrel. When I have emotions or can't control them, the little guy loses his temper, even to his parents. Over time, children will become unfilial and ungrateful. It's not really a child's problem. The root cause lies in my parents. I really shouldn't quarrel in front of the children. If parents always quarrel, children have bad personalities and families are not harmonious, children will have shadows in their hearts. In fact, parents' love is hereditary. If a family is harmonious and never quarrels, children will feel their parents' love and follow suit, which will make them look forward to their future marriage and make them grow into caring, warm and confident people. If parents are very caring, passing this love on to their children will play a positive role in all aspects of their lives. When a child grows up in a loving family, he will feel very warm inside, have confidence to face the difficulties in his future life, and be a warm person. Parents will directly affect their children's later life, so parents should not quarrel in front of their children, but should give them a warm home.