Brothers and sisters, no matter how good the relationship is, you should have three kinds of consciousness when you go home to be a guest.

In the afternoon, I saw someone on the Internet who thought I had lived in my sister's house for a week. I felt a little supercilious and didn't care, so I packed my things and came back.

As soon as this is said, many people echo it, saying nothing more than that family relations are relatively indifferent now, brothers and sisters may not be reliable, and so on.

But I want to say it from another angle.

Of course, I don't know the whole picture and don't want to comment. No one knows what this netizen is like. But generally speaking, when we go to other people's homes as guests, many manners can never be ignored, even brothers and sisters are no exception. After all, brothers and sisters owe you nothing.

You must love to understand that no matter how good the relationship between brothers and sisters is, you must have three kinds of consciousness when you go home as a guest.

Harmony between people is often caused by distance, because with distance, people can get along more happily without seeing the real other person, but people who are deliberately displayed and have better morality.

However, living together for a long time will inevitably expose their shortcomings to each other.

Speaking of this, some people may say that brothers and sisters should not be one of the most familiar people. How can they not know each other's shortcomings? That is to say, but don't forget one thing: the bottom line we can accept at different ages is completely different.

When you were young, you lived with your brothers and sisters. Everyone is still a child, a pure family. Many things are neither yours nor mine. Naturally, you will be more tolerant in the face of many things in life.

But when they grow up, especially when one of them is married and has his own life, at this time, there are children's factors about the continuation of family ties, so brothers and sisters are drifting away at this time, and many people may not be used to entering another person at this time because of their fixed patterns.

I saw a netizen say this: staying in any family for a long time should not exceed three days.

In fact, there is some truth in this. If you go to other people's homes for a long time, it will always bring some trouble, and because of their different living habits, you may also be rejected. In the short term, some people will be willing to endure it, but after a long time, it is really not necessarily.

Being a man, the most important thing is to be conscious.

Of course, some people may say that they have a good relationship with their brothers and sisters and nobody cares. Living together can also tolerate each other, no matter how long, it must be good, and there is such affection in life. But to be honest, not everyone's family can be so beautiful, which needs the maintenance of both sides. So, don't hold such expectations from the beginning.

Some people are good at being careless and disappointing in front of their families. Only when facing strangers will they know how to write the word politeness.

This is really not good.

No matter whose world you live in, don't stand there like a memorial tablet and feel what others owe you. Do what you can, and everyone is happy. Everyone else is trying. Why do you want to enjoy it alone? You are brothers and sisters, can you forget to be grateful?

Don't take anything for granted.

In my life, I know a girl who said that her sister was not good to her. She went to see her sister for a summer job, and within a month, her sister had an opinion. As soon as she got angry, she came back and said her sister was wrong. Actually, I think it's more her fault. Her sister is pregnant for six months and has to cook for her every day. She is not busy at all. She doesn't cook, wash dishes or mop the floor, just like at home. She is very lazy. At home, she was lying on the sofa playing with her mobile phone, and her clothes were stretched open.

She quarreled with her sister because she made breakfast and told her to get up and eat. She stayed up late at night and didn't want to come back, but her sister kept telling her to get up and she yelled at her sister.

She thinks that if I don't go, my sister and they won't eat, wash dishes or mop the floor? I'm the only one left. They didn't pay anything.

This is unwise. Anyone who goes to a guest's house will have more things than usual and people will be tired, so doing something to help will make the other person think better. Using the word affection, people who are too confident are selfish in nature.

This kind of feedback can be reflected in many aspects. In fact, helping to do what you can is also one of the feedbacks.

There is also a kind of feedback, that is, if you go to other people's homes and stay for a long time, you should also be careful to express your gratitude at the right time.

This kind of formal gratitude is often more memorable, and at the same time, it can make the other party agree with you from the heart and think that your contribution is more worthwhile.

For example, I have a good friend. When she was in college, she went to her brother's city for a summer job and lived in his house. Her brother is married. She has lived for almost two months, which is really a long time, but when she left, everyone was very happy, including her sister-in-law, and there was no mood.

Not only does she usually know how to help with some housework, but when she finally gets paid, she also invites her brother and family to have a meal, buys a little gift for her niece and gives a lipstick to her sister-in-law. Although it is not very expensive, it is sometimes just a heart between family ties.

Therefore, any relationship, including family ties, needs to be maintained deliberately. The feelings that really follow one's inclinations do not exist in this world. You must realize this fact.

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