Why is there the idea that women should be husbands and children?

When did I become interested in psychology? In fact, in 2003, the first year after I graduated from university, I tried to be a graduate student in the Department of Psychology of Capital Normal University, but that time I failed.

In 2004, I entered a well-known newspaper and worked for ten years. During this period, I got married and had children, and lived a two-point and one-line life from home to work step by step. Occasionally read a few favorite books, catch up with some interesting American dramas and watch some popular movies. Life is like a long TV series, the first episode is broadcast every day.

20 14, I met some special friends and lived a life of sweat. For people who live a relatively fixed life like me, I envy their free and easy attitude towards life, but I am struggling to give up my stable job and rich income and live another life like theirs. But every time I think that my life in my sixties is the same as that in my thirties, I will feel a feeling of lovelessness!

After struggling for half a year, I decided to resign, which aroused strong opposition from my family. My father said a lot of ugly things. Because I am not only his daughter, but also a part of his face and even self-esteem. My resignation means that my future life is not as stable and comfortable as he expected, and he will lose the capital to show off his daughter in front of others.

His attitude and words put a lot of pressure on me at that time. I can't feel the warmth and support of my family I longed for in my imagination, but it is more a kind of pain and naked injury. You know how desperate it is to be overwhelmed by family complaints again and again when you are confused, especially when you need encouragement and comfort.

Under such pressure, I resolutely resigned.

After I resigned, I did business with my friends. Business started well. I often go to all parts of the country to find good sources and designers. My life is busy and interesting. During this period, my parents quarreled with me many times because I came home from work irregularly. Almost every time, they say: women should stay at home and teach their children. What's wrong with running outside all day?

At that time, I vaguely felt that although I was in my thirties, my parents still wanted me to follow their ideas completely. As long as they think it's good for me, I should listen to them, no matter what I really want. Every time I quarrel, I will tell them fiercely: this is my life, and I can live it as I want! I'm not making dolls!

For the first time, I understand how difficult it is for a child who is used to obedient to be himself. He has always been a good man in other people's mouths, blindly giving in and wronged himself, and no one will understand when it breaks out, because others are used to his cowardice and obedience. Occasionally resist, occasionally be brave, even if you take a step sideways, that feeling is not so happy and happy, but uneasy. With this anxiety, a deep sense of freedom comes with it.

If giving up a stable job to do business is the first turning point in my life, then switching from doing business to studying psychology is the second turning point in my life.

Before the National Day of 20 14, I reported a training institution to my relatives, and she wanted to be a third-level psychological counselor. That is, on that day, with the encouragement of my friends, I also applied for a second-level psychological counselor.

When I told my parents about this decision, my father reacted violently. He thinks I'm just doing nothing, except doing business, and thinking about the psychological exam counselor.

Only this time, I don't feel so guilty as before. I used to feel that I didn't know what was good and what was bad without being invited by others. This time, I just told them my decision, not let them tell me how to live my life. To hell with those harmful feelings of shame!

On the next road, there was a feeling that the little donkey was running on the asphalt for the first time. Spacious and comfortable! I finally realized my dream more than ten years ago and flew very happily.

I didn't know that I was really a brand-new rookie in psychology until after the psychological counselor exam.

/kloc-subjects over 0/00 years can be covered by several examination books? If you want to swim in the ocean of psychology, how can you swim without diving?

So, the swimming ring followed me, and I began to swim around in all kinds of fancy in the ocean of psychology.

Theoretically, I began to take the postgraduate exam in psychology, participated in the systematic study of psychoanalysis, and got to know many like-minded students, who often analyzed and discussed in groups.

Actually participated in the consultant growth course of Xingzhi platform, from primary to intermediate, then to advanced, until the actual training camp for consultants later. I listened to all the classes and got a bright little red flower (excellent student award).

Needless to say, this series of courses is definitely the nine yin classics of novice consultants. After practicing with the teacher step by step, the teachers in the course can cut off more than half of their own confusion about how to consult, and can offer a panacea for the negative emotions of visitors and the silence in the consultation process.

Not only has my business improved, but I obviously feel that my daily communication with people is smoother. The most important thing is that I made up with my parents. When I mention my childhood experience, I always cry like a bitter cabbage. Now I understand that they have their limitations, and they have fed me what they think is the most nontoxic spiritual food. Since I'm not poisoned, I really don't have to lie in the past and cry and beg my parents to love me in the way I want. What? Do not love yourself? Then study! Is there anyone in the world who knows what you want better than yourself?

Finally, let's talk about some questions I am often asked:

You listen to so much negative energy every day, can you stand it in your heart?

A: They are all so sad and miserable that they come to me for advice and seek change and relief. When they are dying, they must have upward spiritual motivation. Is it not full of positive energy?

Besides, everything has two sides, anything! It's just that many people are immersed in negative emotions, chewing hard and hurting themselves. When I help them out of their misery and see the other side of things, many people will reconsider their cognition of this matter. I feel very fulfilled!

Besides, I have a supervisor. When I can't stand it, I go to her for analysis. Therefore, I can not only bear it, but also feel stronger psychologically!

(2) Have you ever studied psychology and have no worries? It's over.

A: If so, why can't I go to heaven? Counselors are human beings and have emotions. However, others have a pair of eyes in front of them, and counselors have four eyes, six eyes or more. What do you mean? If you learn psychology, you won't die with yourself, others and the world. Looking at the problem from multiple angles, has your vision broadened? Open your eyes and feel comfortable? Once you feel comfortable, life will be much easier.

So now, if my friends always beat around the bush on a problem and fall down repeatedly, they can't stop me. When they ask me what to do, I will meditate for a long time and say to him seriously: learn some psychology! Learn some psychology! Even if psychology can't cure your heart disease immediately, it can at least make you understand your behavior and why your thinking mode is like this. Wouldn't it be better to know why? In addition, fortunately, there are many interesting people on the platform. Wouldn't it be nice to meet a few like-minded friends?