"Your wife and son can't be born, and you still want to drink chicken soup." What should I do if I meet such a mother-in-law

They all say that "every family has its own problems." A few days ago, A Liang had a headache for her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In order to solve the problem, A Liang was badly scolded.

A Liang said that a few days ago, he personally kicked his mother out of the house. It is also because after his mother was driven out, he was smeared everywhere, saying that he was unfilial and forgot his mother when he had a daughter-in-law, so A Liang was scolded miserably.

A Liang said that although a lot of scolding made him feel bad, he didn't bother to explain it, because in his opinion, he was absolutely right, and if he did it again, he would still throw his mother out.

A Liang said that when he was eight years old, his parents divorced and his father left home. He was brought up by his mother since childhood, so he was particularly tolerant and grateful to his mother. Even after marriage, he asked his wife to give way to his mother everywhere, because her mother has a strong personality, she can't stand it, and she is not young. He is worried that her mother will be angry.

At that time, A Liang agreed to all his mother's requirements, and his mother had the final say in the family, and she also took care of the money, because in his view, it was not easy for her to raise him through hard work and it would not harm him, so he trusted her very much.

A Liang said that at that time, although his mother often quarreled with his wife, and his wife often secretly wiped her tears to complain to her, he still turned a blind eye, thinking that this was the case between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and she would be fine if she got used to quarreling, so he always made her bear more.

At that time, A Liang thought these were trivial matters, and they would always be fine in the future. But when his wife gave birth to a daughter, he realized that he was wrong, because his wife not only changed her personality greatly, but also often quarreled with him when she was fine, and even filed for divorce more than once.

That night, my wife told A Liang that she wanted to drink chicken soup and asked A Liang to buy a chicken to stew the soup the next day, because A Liang had a rest the next day and had time to cook it. But the idea of making chicken soup is very troublesome, so A Liang told her mother about it and asked her to buy a chicken to stew tomorrow. A Liang thought that her mother would promise him when she heard this, because her wife had just given birth and really needed to mend her body.

Who knows, after listening to his words, the mother not only refused, but said to A Liang in a louder voice: "Your wife and son can't be born, and you still want to drink chicken soup"?

A Liang said that everything my mother said was heard by my wife, so she was very excited that day. She not only had a big fight with A Liang, but also cried and said, Either your mother moves away or we divorce, it's up to you.

In this case, A Liang said to his mother that night, "Mom, you can move out tomorrow. My wife wants to divorce me. Your relationship is not good, I can only separate you! " ! A Liang thought that her mother would understand her when she heard this, so she agreed, but she was very excited when she heard this, and even said to A Liang, "Divorce, because she can't have a son anyway, and she gave birth to a loser. Why do you want her? If you have to kick me out, then don't recognize me as a mother?

It was precisely because of the answers from his wife and mother that A Liang understood the seriousness of the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and finally let her mother move out and return to her hometown in the countryside, which was also the return of her mother, so her reputation was stinking and she was accused by many people.

A Liang said that he was often called stupid and unfilial because it was really not easy for his mother to raise him. Some people even said, "If the daughter-in-law is gone, she can remarry, but there is only one mother. Once she is gone, she is really gone. "

A Liang said that in his view, all the misfortunes in his family were caused by his mother, so as long as his mother was driven away, the family would be harmonious and happy. So A Liang asked me, "Is he doing the right thing?" ?

Bian Xiao has something to say:

In my opinion, I think A Liang's approach is correct, because before he became the mother's son, he was still the husband of his wife and the father of his children, so all decisions he made must put family first.

Psychologists all say: "Putting the relationship between husband and wife first is the key to a happy marriage."

A Liang said that all his family's misfortunes were caused by his mother, but this is not true, because the culprit of his family's misfortunes is not A Liang's mother, but A Liang himself, because all his family's misfortunes are caused by A Liang.

Because A Liang is so incompetent and irresponsible, he is always partial to his mother, so his mother will intensify her efforts and then push her luck to hurt his wife. It was because A Liang looked down on his wife that he resented her, so her personality changed greatly, and then she made trouble at home.

Of course, A Liang's mother has problems, too, because she is too controlling, too much in charge, and has no judgment on her words and deeds. It has seriously affected her son's marriage and family, so her fault is not small, and it is not worthy of sympathy to be driven out by her son, because she did it herself.

In my opinion, those who say that "the daughter-in-law can remarry if she is gone, and the mother is really gone if she is gone" are all standing and talking like it's easy, because it didn't happen to them, so they can say these sarcastic words.

A woman once asked me, what if my mother-in-law is mean and prefers sons to daughters?

I answered them:

Let your husband fight. There is no strong mother-in-law, only a husband who doesn't care. If your husband can stand firmly in front of you to protect you, then your mother-in-law will not hurt you even if she can't.

In my opinion, partner is the key! Take good care of your parents and educate them. Children have principles, and parents will not go to heaven. Afraid of children's unclear brain, parents say that wind is rain. That little family will be a mess.

In a family, there is only one person who can really solve the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and that is the man himself. If he doesn't care about anything, the family will be finished.