Someone who is willing to listen to you.

At ten o'clock in the morning, Yu Jie came to the office on time. I know, she's talking again.

Sister Yu, who is in her forties, has an unfortunate marriage, but the separation and merger have not affected her charm. She has lived alone for most of these years. After all, she has a strong personality and has never kept a lifelong partner. It is inevitable that she will be lonely inside. She needs to vent too many repressed things. What Sister Yu needs is someone who can listen to her quietly, whether she is serious or not.

At first, I listened carefully to my sister's emotional history and life history over the years, and interposed a few words of my feelings from time to time. Every time my sister talks, I always look at her with my eyes. I think this is a kind of respect, and I do recognize the ups and downs of her marriage over the years. Slowly, I found that she didn't need me to express any feelings. Although I interrupted a few words, she could immediately find the pause in front and continue. Now listen to her talk about what happened yesterday (basically, someone introduced her boyfriend). I just reply the words "hmm" and "oh" while looking at the computer. The elder sister will still come over and talk about it every day, and she will leave without other people's advice and whether you listen or not.

Before, I asked my sister why she told me these secrets every day. She said that I am patient and will listen to others quietly, and she just needs to find someone to talk quietly, so that she will be more comfortable when she speaks.

? It is my consistent view that talking too much will suffer. Naturally I don't want to gossip in the workplace. The manager asked me to go to the office because of work that day. After talking about work, he suddenly talked to me about his outlook on life and values, and slowly talked about his family. Originally, it was a shame to wash one's dirty linen in public, and the manager seemed to suddenly pour out the bitter water. Later, he would tell me about his previous experiences from time to time. Unlike the royal elder sister, the manager needs someone who can understand and keep his mouth shut. In the process of his speech, he also needs listeners to express his feelings.

Someone confides in you, which shows that he trusts you. The premise of trust is not to gossip and to be loyal to your confidante. If you talk about other people's business after dinner and spread it around, who will come to you next time?

Listening while listening is bright, while listening while listening is dark. A listener needs to distinguish right from wrong when listening. Speaking one's point of view properly will sometimes inspire a confidante. Of course, it depends on whether the confidante gives you this opportunity.

I used to feel extremely depressed about talking to my friends on the phone. Most of them call to talk about herself. As long as I echo a few words, she won't ask, "What about you?" Or "What do you think?" I think since we are friends, shouldn't we talk to each other? Why only talk about yourself and don't care about the feelings of the listener? Knowing that such a friend will talk about her world every time she calls, I will no longer interrupt my life in the middle. I think I'm just a loyal listener. Well, I'm really fit to be a listener.

Compared with listeners, I think many people prefer to be the objects to talk to. Maybe it's because of my personality. Even if I talk to someone occasionally, I can't help turning around in this conversation, and I will become the listener of the other party. What's wrong with listening to other people's stories At least I found that many times I was not alone.