Excellent parents

The two old sayings of "protecting calves" and "crows don't think children are black" naturally have their own stress and truth.

The most vicious language can attack your own children, which is also the most vicious thing in the world. No affection, no friendship. Facts are stranger than novels. It hurts to think about it. After marriage, I often say what I mean, but I can't help it. I feel familiar with Yan's return, and the small garden wanders alone.

A family, blood is thicker than water, no matter what, can't affect the affection and friendship that stand in the middle. Everyone will pretend to be a moral giant, but most of them will become ridiculous buffoons. The so-called moral judgment is nothing more than trying to prove one's dignity and selflessness and make others feel funny. Play smart and you'll be exposed in the blink of an eye. These dare not be used on ordinary people, but like a downpour, the maw is all spilled on the closest people. It is also a kind of sadness. Being a parent is a great failure, and being a child is a great sorrow.

From ancient times to the present, the traditional concept of son preference has been deeply rooted in people's hearts. Especially in rural areas. The girl will get married sooner or later. Spending money on her is a loss, and after spending it, it will be rewarded and compensated many times. A great parent, who can't turn over all his life, put the matter of studying on his daughter and said, "If I hadn't provided you with school, I would have moved to the city." Who doesn't want to live a city life? " It is difficult for ordinary people to accept this fallacy, even unimaginable.

From the moment the child is born, isn't it her responsibility and obligation to raise the child? This is a contradictory statement. If you want to live a comfortable life, you can have no children. You raised her, but you took away the capital and money of your happy life. Is this what normal parents can say? If you were a child who grew up in a city, what kind of condemnation would you get? I can't drive a luxury car, I can't live in a mansion, and I can blame the children. This kind of evasion and framing can not only create better living conditions for children, but also transfer all these weak performances to their own children, thus punishing them. This is really what parents should do, should they say? This can not help but make people panic. It's really scary to think about it.

City parents may not have such ridiculous remarks. Most of them are only children, and one person is supreme. Daughter is also the blood of inheritance. It is logical to give birth to her and raise her. If a daughter gives birth to a child, she will adopt the child as a grandson. On the other hand, this excellent parent has become a demon again. Said, "Show it to my nephew. You have to pay for this. Whoever gives money. " It's really sad Even if you don't say this, your daughter won't let her see it for nothing. She will show something. Most people are kind and warm at heart. This kind of parents who can't lose anything on their daughters is also a kind of "victory". Of course, when they have grandchildren, they will like to see them for free. Even if you can't, you will pay your grandparents to see it, because your son's children belong to your own family, and it is only natural to see your grandson. My daughter's child belongs to someone else's family, and I can't bear to see it. Even if I see it, I have to gain something. This really comes from their truest thoughts, without exaggeration or falsehood.

Let's talk about the bride price of marriage. I don't know other people, and I don't know the rules. Of course, their excellent parents are also taken for granted. I'm not criticizing grievances or anything, but saying that they take it for granted and have no gratitude at all. My daughter's family never bought a car, so she immediately changed the money into a car that she would never earn in her life to buy a good car. The most ridiculous thing is that there is no reward for raising a daughter, and it is still a loss. At that time, my daughter proposed to buy a car and said that she would pay back some money if she lacked money. They also refused in person and immediately said that she had no money. Moreover, after this incident, I immediately stopped talking about urging me to buy a car before, and I didn't mention it either.

And a baby. Qiqi's parents just watched it for a month. Of course, it didn't make people look at it for nothing. After leaving, they gave her a big red envelope. Of course, people also mentioned it. She said she wouldn't say it, but she had long thought about giving it in the form of a red envelope. Why do you say it? Hurt my daughter's heart, and verified the idea of son preference in a more disguised form. This is not friendship, not family. As a result, after I left, my husband and I looked up to ourselves day and night. Perhaps only they could understand the pain and happiness, and they didn't complain about them, but completely let them enjoy themselves.

Including going home for the New Year at the end of the year. The man has no parents here, so he doesn't have to consider where to spend the New Year. Considering that the family conditions are not as good as here, all parties are unfavorable to the children, and my husband proposed to let my parents come to Beijing for the New Year. I politely asked Qiqi's parents. Of course, I still want to go home for the New Year and miss my relatives. I just compromised each other and asked if there were any vacant rental houses in the city. There was no fierce quarrel at that time, but I was impatient. At that time, they refused directly, and then they said they would not come back, and they did not come to Beijing. But no one expected that this was the calm before the storm. No one expected that two days later, he actually scolded his daughter and said, "Baiwenhang, ungrateful, ungrateful, uneducated, and even don't know how to drink water." Anything ugly will pour out. Of course, my husband was not spared. In this way, I was completely inspired by the grievances that I couldn't let go for a long time.

I have been comforting myself that I may not be doing well enough, and I have been trying to find excuses for them, especially in front of my husband. Every time in the dead of night, I am in great pain and struggle. Everyone doubts life and human feelings. Love in the world can be calculated like this. Is there selfless love in the world? I once doubted whether my existence was reasonable, and the pain of insomnia could not be solved and confided. I can only write down the pain that I have nowhere to put in this empty corner.