Should I have children after divorce?

Do women still want children after divorce?

I tell you, every divorced woman who has to have children often leads a miserable life.

Why?

I have done tens of thousands of marriage counseling, and found that there is only one kind of woman who has bad karma, and that is "100 mom".

As soon as the child is born, your life is over, and so is the child.

Because you don't understand, the greatest kindness of a woman is to live well.

Let me give you an example. I have a student who burns himself like a candle for her husband. The more she burns, the less she likes her. Finally, I got bored when I saw her, and finally forced her to divorce.

There is only one condition for her divorce, that is, bringing children.

When looking for a husband, let her son check the door. If her son doesn't like it, she can't like it as much as she likes it.

The son said, I don't want a new father, I want you two to remarry.

Then she said that she begged her husband to come back. Later, my husband's career failed and the expansion period ended. The woman outside had no money to fish, so her husband went home on the slope.

She tried to help her husband succeed in his career. As a result, her husband expanded again, went outside to find a woman and forced him to leave.

The son said, why can't you bear it?

She said it was not that I couldn't bear it, but that your father had to leave us. Finally divorced again.

My son cried with her every day, didn't go to school, and said he would commit suicide if he didn't remarry.

She asked me what to do.

I said, why is your life such a failure? You burned for your husband and he ran away. You light a fire for your son, and your son makes trouble.

Have you ever wondered why?

Because you always want to be a perfect woman, but you don't want to be a perfect yourself.

You always want to accommodate your husband and please your son, so there is no "self" in your life.

As a result, you spoiled your husband and made your son as selfish as his father.

Do you know that parents have two responsibility? One is to make their children grow up healthily and the other is to make them become individuals spiritually.

You sacrificed everything so as not to hurt your children a little. As a result, your children regard you as an oxygen tube. He can't live without you.

Do you think you love children or hurt them?

Why can't your son accept your divorce? Why must his life be perfect?

Do you know that you have raised a husband and son of a baiwenhang?

They don't know how to cherish their wives and mothers.

This is your most cruel place: you don't allow children to face the real world and be a person who knows how to love others.

The smartest woman I have ever met always gives custody of her children to her ex-husband, then works hard in her career, finds a man who really loves them, and then takes them back.

You should remember one sentence: there is no obstacle, as long as you stand up by yourself.

Your greatest responsibility is to teach your children one thing: it doesn't matter who you leave in this world, but you can't live without yourself.

Life is full of challenges. I can't teach you not to be afraid, but I can help you be fearless.

Many women would rather endure their husbands' mental humiliation, economic persecution, apathy and behavioral injury, and maintain a family that has long existed in name only. Actually, she is very narcissistic.

She doesn't know that in fact, such a bad family atmosphere is full of poisonous gas, and no one can live well in such a gas chamber.

She doesn't know that parents' greatest responsibility to their children is to give them a soaring sky, and we should dare to face things that children can't face;

The important thing is not that the child is not hurt, but that the child is getting stronger and stronger under your education.

Those mothers who don't allow their children to be hurt a little and think that their children will be disabled for life at the thought of divorce are all their own sins, and they are often unloved since childhood.

If you talk to them more deeply, you will find that the reason why they can't stand the little grievances of their children is because she suffered too many grievances when she was a child, and the tears of her children will evoke the pain that she has been suppressing since she was a child.

They are actually letting their children be their own meat shields, just hoping not to touch their past sufferings.

For example, a mother later realized that she felt that her child's divorce was bound to be hurt, because her childhood experience of relying on others after her parents divorced made her feel that her child would have such pain;

But she doesn't know that even if the child is divorced, there is a loving mother to accompany her, and her painful child will not suffer at all.

Only when she realizes this, can she give up her obsession of wanting a "perfect child", live a high life and let her children laugh at all the difficulties in life.

Divorced, what about the children?

Let the children understand that life is impermanent and the world will not be perfect. We can carry things together, and there is no hurdle.

Tell yourself: Only by learning to love yourself can you really love your children, with 60 points for yourself and 40 points for others, so it is worthwhile between people.

When we face the problems in life and marriage, if we can fully understand ourselves and use psychological knowledge and technology to solve the problems, we may be suddenly enlightened.