"Personality Color" introduces you to people with colored eyes.

25-year-old Xiao Guo is not only a primary school teacher, but also a mother of two children. Occupation requires her to be patient, careful and careful. It's a pity that even if she sticks sticky notes everywhere, every once in a while, like a black hole, she always sucks something important from her, and then she seems to fall into an emotional black hole and can't get out.

It's not that she used Xianglinsao's style to say that the last time she took the courier with her child in her arms, the child's medicine was lost and others didn't return it to her. Watch her complain, forget to save any files, read the wrong time and so on. Over the years, such things have been happening constantly, and it is said that personality determines behavior. It seems that she has been tortured since childhood.

In life, are you also dissatisfied with your own personality and don't understand other people's behavior? In the book Color of Personality, Mr. Le Jia gives a way to interpret your personality.

1. A person's personality can be divided into four "true colors": red, yellow, blue and green.

People with red personalities pursue happiness. They are confident, enthusiastic, free and easy, and like to express their emotions through physical contact, but they often talk too much, are too ambitious, are too enthusiastic and noisy.

People with yellow personality pursue achievement. They are agile, efficient and resolute. They are strict with themselves and others. They only ask the results, regardless of the process, but they are often considered willful, self-righteous and unscrupulous.

People with blue personality, especially pursuing perfection, are calm and restrained, thoughtful and perfect. But some people say they are indecisive, hesitant and anxious.

People with green personality pursue dullness. Resourceful, tactful, always watching the limelight, never offending people. Whether you call him timid or indecisive, in short, Green is a person who will never take the initiative to get himself into trouble.

There are no two identical leaves in the world, and people's personalities are also very different. Personality is of course innate and difficult to change, but now most people are proud of having a unique "personality". They think that personality is the true self, and unconsciously suppress their true preferences for many years. In fact, everyone has their own motivation to do things, which is the truest part of our hearts and will not change.

The real power of "personality color" lies in analyzing the motivation behind the same behavior. Let's briefly discuss the social problem of "children running away from home". Nowadays, most children are only children, who are highly rebellious and difficult to take care of. Is it because children are difficult to take care of, or parents have not found a suitable and effective method?

According to teacher Le Jia's analysis in Color of Personality, blue and green seldom run away from home, while red and yellow often run away from home. Green children are usually the last to run away from home. For example, the boss broke the bowl and ran away, and the green second child stood there like a piggy McDull. Dad thought it was him and was beaten without saying a word. This kind of child rarely goes out even if he is driven away with a stick, so the word "rebellious" can't hit the green head.

When Lan is oppressed, especially wronged and misunderstood, she will definitely use silence to convey stronger anger and resistance. They don't run away from home, but they are temporarily afraid of what may happen outside because of their clever nature, but this doesn't mean that they don't have desires, which is essentially different from young children.

Red and yellow are the most frequent characters who run away from home. Although they all run away from home, the motives behind them are completely different. Red children are mainly emotional, and when their heads are hot, they will give their parents some color to see if they have run away from home. In fact, they just want to scare people. If they wander outside and have nothing to eat, they will run back. The children of the yellow race want to show their inner strong resistance and strong desire to control their own destiny. Usually, after going out, in order to show that their route is always correct, they strongly adhere to the concept of "starving to death and never looking back". Among all the children of personality, it is such children who really make parents feel the biggest headache on the issue of rebellion and running away from home.

Knowing why children do this is far more important than what they do. Unfortunately, most parents have not learned how to be a qualified parent. Teachers often say that education should vary from person to person and teach students in accordance with their aptitude, but in fact they always solve all problems in a one-size-fits-all way. Even if you want to talk to your child, a few words are pushed back, making communication more difficult.

Wouldn't it be better if we could learn the judgment method in personality color and predict the possible development direction of things, and many things could be prevented before they happen?

Teacher Le Jia also mentioned four kinds of behaviors that are out of character. They are out of character, that is, they don't grasp the degree, and good things turn into bad things.

2. Four kinds of natural transition:

Excessive red: poor emotional control. For example, in a circle of friends, someone can send more than a dozen messages a day. I still said in the morning, ah, I am in love, I like him very much, and I will see her hair soon. Why did he ignore me? It is really unpredictable to fall into madness and fall in love at noon. Don't torture me. In the afternoon, I said, what are you dragging? Think about it here if you don't love it. I sent a video of eating crayfish in the evening. In fact, other boys just sleep at home all day. Tell me.

Excessive blue: indecisive when things happen, such as falling in love, when to confess, what color clothes to wear, sports shoes or leather shoes, and what flowers to buy? What should she do if she agrees, and what should she do if she doesn't ... He has to imagine all possible problems, but he is afraid to take action, which really makes him anxious.

Excessive green: the wall grass has no opinion. Male chauvinism is yellow, and I like to get a green wife best. Others have the final say in everything, and they have no idea at all. What husbands say and do, most of them end up being beaten and bullied.

3. Find your true colors and know people with your eyes.

We all hope that we are healthy red, optimistic, positive and relaxed, healthy yellow, efficient and decisive, and can accept other people's suggestions, healthy blue, deep and restrained, healthy green, approachable and refreshing. However, we often see other people's shortcomings and magnify them infinitely, so it is not easy to accurately judge other people's personalities.

In fact, people's family background, growth experience and career choice will also affect our judgment of real color, and even cover up the original background color. Teacher Le Jia said the most stupid but effective way to confirm personality. See what kind of personality people are often responsible for the price and mistakes made by themselves or others, so that it is easy to find the true personality! Because the innate shortcomings and faults are not easy to change, the so-called "a leopard cannot change his spots", you will find that many behaviors that you couldn't figure out before are well documented and traceable.

Then how can we foster strengths and avoid weaknesses in life, enlarge our own advantages and live more comfortably? In the book, Mr. Le Jia made a very detailed interpretation of every essence from the aspects of personal growth, getting along with friends and treating work.

Red is suitable for being a host and has good field control and eloquence. As an actor, it is easier to get into the play than to get out of it. Blue is suitable for scientific research, rigorous and meticulous, highly single-minded, working in a bank, pursuing perfection and making no mistakes. Yellow is suitable for being a policeman, alert and decisive, and green is suitable for being a teacher, consulting, educating others and crossing others.

Teacher Le Jia also summed up a set of "insight-insight-cultivation-influence" four-in-one model. Epiphany-is to let us find our true self, gain the strength of life, and always know how and where we will fall before tripping, so as to prevent problems before they happen; Epiphany-is to better understand and understand others, and the greatest advantage of understanding others is that we can feel comfortable in our own hearts without entanglement and confusion; Practice-be a better self, a harmonious self, a balanced self and a happy self; Influence-that is, give full play to your personal influence and establish a benign relationship with anyone you want to get along with in a way suitable for different personalities.

Once you "see" your true self, you can begin to learn to accept and like yourself completely; Only in this way can we truly recognize our own advantages and limitations, so as to find a way to "practice" that suits us; Once you have "insight" into others, you can understand why others are so different from you, and you will no longer blindly compete with yourself. If you don't understand every day, you will feel relieved and live more comfortably. Only under this premise can you change others with your own wishes. You will learn the methods in the book and effectively "influence" others in different ways according to the needs of different personalities to achieve a win-win situation.

There are thousands of personalities, but they can be divided into four colors: red, yellow, blue and green. It's really like deciphering a person's personality code, which makes people look at it again and again and can't put it down. After reading the introduction of "True Color and Aggressiveness" several times, I finally understand that my friend's distress actually stems from red aggressiveness. No wonder the yellow race and I love and hate, love and kill. You think it makes sense, you can see through it. Why bother? Rolling the world of mortals, human nature is the "true color." If you also want to find your true colors, identify your own advantages, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and "look at people with color", welcome to read!