Why do many people like gossip?

We live in a social network. There are all kinds of people in this network, so it is inevitable to gossip and be gossiped. There seems to be such a poem in A Dream of Red Mansions: "Whoever doesn't talk about people before, doesn't talk about people later". Obviously, we can't get rid of this huge social network. Unless you are isolated, everyone is an element in this network. Of course, it's hard to be slandered by rumors, but you'd better understand the purpose and reason why others gossip about you. In this way, maybe you will make a choice in attitude and behavior and try to minimize all your injuries:

1. Some people are jealous of you, so they deliberately speak ill of you after their predecessors. You don't have to be angry with such people. Once you get angry, they succeed. The more painful you are, the more they want to see you. At this time, you don't care what they are saying about you. You don't live for them. Why should you be influenced by their emotions and behaviors? We should ignore such gossip, no one is watching, let them say what they want to say and go their own way. Don't let your brain cells make sacrifices for them, so that gossips can't achieve the expected results;

2. Some people gossip without much malice. They just can't stop talking. They are typical gossips. Everyone has problems in their eyes. It's better to ignore such people. Don't belittle yourself with their common sense.

When we hear gossip, we should also review our behavior. How do people evaluate themselves? Why would they say that? Maybe I didn't do it very well, which caused a bad influence. At this time, I want to reflect on myself, take other people's gossip about you as a mirror, reflect on my own behavior, and correct my mistakes in time. It may be a good thing to have a perfect attitude and correct mistakes.

When being gossiped, you must be open-minded, look at the problem from another angle, and prove yourself is still important, at least in the circle, otherwise who will pay attention to you? What's wrong with being a little "Ah Q spirit" sometimes?

Be sure to remember that it is very painful to be gossiped by others, so try not to gossip about others in your future life and work, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you", because the personal quality and psychology of people who always gossip about others are still questionable;

6. You can treat gossips with contempt, especially gossips and gossips. Don't quarrel with them, and don't retaliate against them by gossiping. This will get the effect of "one dog bites one dog", which is a good show that many people like to watch.

7. Don't defend gossip, it may get darker and darker, and it is the best policy to let it die.

In short: ignore it, do what you should do, and don't gossip about others!