My father-in-law has been living in the hospital with cancer, and my mother asked me to divorce my husband. What should I do?

"My father-in-law got lymphoma and his trachea was cut off by gas. The wound is very long and has split. He has been in hospital for more than three months, and he will continue to live, and I don't know how long he can live.

My mother has been taking care of the children (almost two years old) during hospitalization, but my sister-in-law said this year that if I keep tying this granddaughter to my side, the family will be separated, so my mother can't take care of it this year.

Lymphoma is terrible enough, and we have to stay in the hospital all the time. My mother is afraid that he will bring me and my husband down. Now the children are going to take care of their grandmother. To be honest, I'm not at ease. Husband's salary is not high and he has to go to work. The telephone communication between my mother and her mother-in-law is not good for her. My mother has been nagging me about this and has been unstable this year.

Yesterday I called my husband in front of her and asked him to come back for a divorce. He calmly agreed, saying that there is no difference in feelings with her husband. Now my father-in-law makes our life very sad, and they haven't called much during the months when the children are at my mother's house. There was no one at my husband's house during the Spring Festival, so I left two days after I came back. I live at my mother's house. Every day during the Chinese New Year, my mother chats with me. Until yesterday, the old people on both sides of the phone completely broke their faces. They often quarreled with her husband. I went to my husband's house to get something a few nights ago, so I needed him to deliver it because I was going back to the countryside. Because my mother's words made him unhappy, he said to go home directly in front of his uncle and aunt. His tone is very bad.

My mother asked me for a divorce. Such a family is afraid that I will suffer all my life. What should I do? Why is my life so uneasy? "

My suggestion: if it's not a breakup with my husband, it's best not to divorce. Your sister-in-law tries hard on you, and your mother doesn't think of you and wants you to get a divorce. Everyone who meets terminally ill patients should unite and care for them, and do well in the end without regret. When you ask for a divorce, your husband naturally agrees, and each plans to start a family.

You can ask your mother how a person who has the idea of your sister-in-law will treat her if she is ill, how she will feel, whether she will be sad or lonely.

You take care of the children yourself, why do you let your mother take care of them? When my father-in-law is ill, your mother-in-law takes care of running errands. You and your husband work hard to make money and try your best to pay for the treatment. The poor should be broad-minded, not melodramatic, not competitive, just let nature take its course and have a clear conscience.