To tell the truth, we are all different people!

Our understanding and liking of ourselves at the level of consciousness only accounts for 1% of our own panorama. The subconscious is a very powerful force, which has a complete influence on our self, 99% of which we don't know.

Just like the iceberg above, consciousness is just the tip of the iceberg, exposed on the water, while the subconscious is like an iceberg hidden in deep water, which is not easy for us to find.

I found a phenomenon at work before. When I have worked for a period of time, I am particularly familiar with the working environment and have a good relationship with my colleagues. Sometimes it is half a year, sometimes it is a year or two, and there is no accurate time.

Whenever this time, some accidents will happen inexplicably.

For example, a colleague who has many intersections with himself at work, or a leader, will inevitably have many contradictions and misunderstandings, which are difficult to solve and have deep misunderstandings. Directly affected their work and mood.

So under normal circumstances, I will choose to resign, because I don't want to offend people, and I don't like people who have contradictions with others. I like a harmonious atmosphere, so it is difficult for me to concentrate on my work in a disharmonious atmosphere.

In fact, when you carefully and calmly review the whole thing, you will find that it is a superficial consciousness to choose to resign because of the contradiction with your colleagues. The real reason is that you are tired of that job and don't like the pace of work.

This kind of consciousness and idea is the subconscious mind, which is deeply buried and difficult to be detected, because some subconscious minds are disgraceful and people dare not touch them.

For example, because I was tired of a job, I resigned for my own selfish reasons. If I tell anyone, others will think that I have no perseverance, patience and maturity.

Consciousness is what we can see and feel, while subconscious is an invisible world, but it dominates our external world. Our consciousness, self-knowledge, thinking, rationality, judgment and feelings all come from the subconscious.

Look at the picture. The horse in the picture refers to our consciousness, and the driver refers to the subconscious.

There is such a story.

Xiaohua's childhood dream was to become a businessman. He likes being a boss in business. Every time I see the businessman in high spirits on TV, he is envious.

Xiaohua's parents want him to take the civil service exam and work in a state unit, so that he can have an iron rice bowl, food and clothes.

Xiaohua saw her parents, who were busy getting up early and greedy for the dark, and paid a lot for their schooling. Can't hurt them, he didn't tell his parents what he really thought, but followed his parents' wishes and applied for civil servants.

After that, Xiaohua successfully entered the state organs and worked mechanically from nine to five every day. Although he is doing a job that everyone envies, he is not happy at all.

Obana's leading colleagues have a bad relationship, are not motivated at work, and occasionally lose their temper. On several occasions, because of mistakes at work, the superior said a few words to him, and he had an argument with the other party.

Why is Xiaohua like this?

Xiaohua followed her parents' wishes, finished college, successfully entered the civil service and entered the state organs. He thought that he could work happily in the unit, and it would be smooth sailing and calm.

However, difficulties and troubles followed. He doesn't want to lose his temper, but he also wants to get along well with his colleagues and do his work well, but he just can't help himself. In fact, the real reason is that his subconscious made him do it.

As I said just now, horses are our consciousness. We think that we can control our own life and choose freely, but in fact we are a machine in automatic restriction mode, and often we can't help ourselves.

The groom is our subconscious, and the horse doesn't know that the left face is tight because the coachman (subconscious) tightened the left reins.

But the coachman can't decide the real direction of the carriage, because the coachman has to obey the passenger's command, and the passenger wants him to go to Fuzhou, so he can't drive the carriage to Guangzhou.

What do you mean by passengers? Passengers refer to "true self", which is a person's most authentic psychology. There are things he wants most, things he wants to say most, and things he wants to do most.

Take the story of Xiaohua for example. What Xiaohua wants to do most is to be a businessman. This is his true self. His true self (passenger) will tell the subconscious (coachman) that I don't like the work of civil servants, and I hate it. As a civil servant, I don't want to do these things. Driven by the subconscious mind (coachman), the horse will listen to his inner voice and make some actions that go against reality.

Dreams are a bridge from the subconscious to the conscious. It can be said that the subconscious has the function of early warning. Not only that, dreams can also give us a lot of inspiration and encouragement, and may also sort out some life mentality on the day you dream.

I remember when I was a child, from grade one to grade five, I often had the same dream-looking for my mother.

I asked people everywhere in my dream and kept looking for my mother. Most of the endings have not been found, and I can only look for them two or three times occasionally.

When I find my mother, she always says, "What do you want from me? I am here! "

I didn't understand why I kept dreaming about my mother, but now I know. I want to be with my mother forever and love her. This is my subconscious.

And I also long for my mother in life, don't blame me, don't have too many conflicts and contradictions with my mother, and our relationship should be harmonious forever.

In addition to dreams, there are many manifestations of the subconscious mind.

Many seemingly simple life events, seemingly insignificant, actually contain some information.

For example, if you want to engage in a certain industry, you have to take the exam. As a result, I couldn't find the admission ticket, traffic jam and so on on the day of the exam. Many unpleasant things happen one after another, which shows that your subconscious doesn't really want to go this way.

At some point, such as a slip of the tongue, such as a person "you are so stupid!" " ""why are you so angry! " "I hate you! "And so on, something like that. You didn't want to say these words, but you will blurt them out inadvertently and you will regret them later. Actually, it's subconscious.

There are other phenomena. You are a manifestation of the subconscious. If you repeat the same pattern over and over again in your relationships.

For example, the way your colleagues and bosses get along with you, no matter where you go, you will meet the same people, the same things and the same way of communication. Then you will know that a pattern of the subconscious mind is dominating your fate and behavior!

Our subconscious mind is far away from our consciousness, and sometimes we can't express our truest thoughts, because it will easily offend people and be excluded and isolated by others. In real life, we should learn to be tactful, know the way of the world, and learn to watch the momentum …

Therefore, we play various roles and deal with all kinds of people every day. We say insincere things and act every day. We are duplicitous, and we are duplicitous. This is the needs of others, but also our own needs.

Therefore, most of us live unhappily, while those who live happily care nothing because they live themselves and show their true selves.

I am Yu Tingzi, a post-90s mother. I write my heart by hand, and I will tell you my heart in the simplest words. Your presence is my greatest honor!

Stop saying "I'm doing it for your own good"!

Honey, that's not love.

Anyway, I must marry him!

Do not envy others, only envy yourself.