How to talk to your in-laws about bride price?

In the final analysis, the ways of talking about bride price can be divided into direct and indirect.

Take me for example. I met my wife through my cousin's introduction. After getting along for a period of time, I officially put marriage on the agenda.

Engagement requires a bride price, but your mother-in-law didn't say the exact amount. Their attitude is that it doesn't matter how much they give, so there is no need to borrow money. Anyway, they won't accept money, and it's also troublesome to get cash. Just transfer it directly to my wife.

According to the rules of my hometown at that time, the first bride price at the time of engagement generally ranged from 1 10,000 to 30,000, but the rules on my wife's side may be somewhat different, so my mother-in-law said that the bride price was 50,000 when my wife and cousin got married two years ago.

At that time, I only had 53,000 yuan on my bank card. Later, I transferred 52,000 yuan to my wife and left 1000 for me to travel.

When I got married, I sent 20 thousand to my father-in-law's house as the cost of catering.

My cousin's marriage was arranged through a matchmaker, and his family was separated from his in-laws by a road. When the matchmaker comes forward to negotiate, the in-laws will stop talking when they are satisfied. In-laws don't think it's enough, so let the matchmaker take the message. Cousin sent three bride price money back and forth, adding up to nearly 100 thousand.

Of course, different places will have different rural customs, especially in rural areas. There is no need to answer this question if the in-laws must follow some local customs. Because in most cases, if you don't want to embarrass your wife, you can only choose to do as the Romans do.

If the bride price proposed by in-laws exceeds your expectations, it needs to be analyzed in detail.

My in-laws will transfer the bride price to my daughter, so please try not to care about the bride price, just do what my in-laws want and borrow money if necessary.

This is indeed a tough battle. I suggest you come forward in person and communicate with your in-laws generously and sincerely.

The premise is to do your girlfriend's ideological work first. It's your married life. If you take on too much bride price, it will be a heavy burden for forming a new family.

After all, the bride price should be the start-up funds for two families to help a newborn family, not the poverty alleviation funds given by one family to another.

This truth is not difficult to understand. In most cases, with the support of my girlfriend, my in-laws are willing to accept it in most cases.

Speaking of this topic, I am glad that my son and daughter-in-law can fall in love freely without references. My son and daughter-in-law have known each other for about a year, and they began to visit their home (I went to my parents' home four or five times, and every time I came out empty-handed). About half a year later, my son brought my daughter-in-law to our home. Before I came, I made some preparations and bought her a brand-name big red clutch bag with thousands of dollars in it. When the prospective daughter-in-law came to our house for the second time, I said I would visit her parents. My husband and I took our son to visit her parents with gifts. Because my husband is a foreigner, I am a local relative, and my daughter-in-law belongs to a minority, I said I would raise it with their family after I knew the situation. I said that our children love each other so much that we adults can't pretend not to know. The purpose of coming to see you this time is to get married as soon as possible. My in-laws were very happy and offered to get engaged first. If they are engaged, how many people are there in their family, and their family pays for the engagement party. The engagement took place in a big hotel near their home. How much should our family prepare to give red envelopes to all relatives who come to the engagement party? They didn't mention 3 gold and 5 gold at that time.

On the day of engagement, I prepared a red envelope according to the standards proposed by my in-laws, which was about 16000 yuan. I gave it to my in-laws and daughter-in-law, and they put it on at that time. I also prepared a change fee for my wife.

Decorate the new house for my son and daughter-in-law immediately after returning home. Half a year later, my son's prospective daughter-in-law took over the house for her parents, and her in-laws were very happy. I followed suit. Now we have to determine three things, the first is the time to get the marriage certificate, the second is the amount of bride price, the third is the time to give the bride price, and the fourth is the time to get married.

My in-laws said they wanted to ask a fortune teller to calculate the time, so I'll call right away. A famous local fortune teller went to their house in the afternoon to calculate the time: one was to calculate the time to get a marriage certificate, and the other was to calculate the time to get married.

After I came out from the fortune teller's house, I went to discuss the new house with my son and daughter-in-law. I said: the time to get a marriage certificate and the time to get married are all set. Now even if we talk about the amount of bride price, the in-laws and couples can't talk properly. They just said the amount of money for half a day. Finally, I asked them to say it so that we could get ready. Finally, my in-laws said: I want my eldest daughter to get married and be a good example for the following two sisters. 100800 gave the bride price, and my husband's face turned red with excitement (in his view, our family prepared a house and decorated the car, and there was no loan at all, and the woman didn't take anything with her money). He said that I only have one son anyway, and my in-laws will watch. I'm afraid that something will go wrong, so I'll say we can accept the amount of the bride price, but the decoration is over plan, and I hope the bride price will arrive about half a month before marriage. My own mother agreed at once, and that's settled!

Half a year has passed, and we have fulfilled our promise as planned. Our family also married a daughter-in-law as planned.

The main reason is that my son and daughter-in-law can fall in love freely. They don't have letters of recommendation. If there is a reference, I think if there is a reference, talking on both sides may avoid embarrassment.

This is how I talk to my in-laws about the bride price!

First, I tentatively asked my son's girlfriend how much money she wanted. She said she wanted 60,000, which was similar to the figure there. In this way, I was full of confidence and talked to my in-laws about the bride price. He said I'd handle it as appropriate, and I said I'd take 66 thousand. The number is still auspicious, and he is very happy because his daughter must have communicated with him. She wants 60 thousand, I'll take another 6 thousand, and he'll be happy!

As for going to his place, what gifts to bring is entirely in accordance with their customs, because one mile is different and ten miles is different. After all, our two families are 600 miles apart, and our two in-laws are very happy! That's settled. It is the sixth day of the first month of this year. Unfortunately, an COVID-19 epidemic shattered the impact of the whole year. The superior asked not to allow all relatives and friends to visit, and the red incident was closed, and the matter ran aground.

I believe that under the wise leadership of the CPC Central Committee, the epidemic will soon pass, and the victory will definitely belong to us! At that time, the two in-laws are happy to choose a good day to send a bride price!

My son is 23 years old and his girlfriend is his high school classmate. I'm a senior now. I think it's okay to have a bride price. My son is self-reliant. It is not easy for our parents to raise their children. When they are old, they have to sell iron to marry their sons. After marriage, they will receive their grandchildren for free. Children are filial to themselves. If they have the ability, they will come to us. When we have no time, we will be fine, and we will know each other well [pray] [

Speaking of this topic, I have to say that everything is nothing more than communication and your attitude.

At the beginning, my lover and I were in free love. I am in Jiangsu, and her hometown is in Yunnan. The first time I went to her house, I went to talk about the bride price. Because it's too far, it's impossible to walk often. I can only take advantage of the company's 7-day annual leave to celebrate the New Year while playing and doing business. We stayed together for three or four days, and on the last night, after dinner, we started to cut to the chase and get down to business.

Why is it the last night? Because you have to give your father-in-law time to get to know you first. In fact, from each parent's own point of view, the bride price only depends on whether you have the ability to let your daughter live the rest of her life. Therefore, it is very important to know you first, whether you are mature and stable, and whether you can entrust it.

My father-in-law asked for 60 thousand, and finally we talked about 36 thousand, and things were settled directly

Therefore, everything is inseparable from people. Of course, like me, it is an example after all. How much can a person ride?

When we got married, it was 15, and my wife and I were classmates. It was my uncle who went to talk to him. Everyone sat together, and the banquet gave 8800 yuan, which was from my family. It adds up to more than 10 thousand Now the child is over 5 years old. The family is very happy. As for the bride price, we can discuss it here. We didn't say how much it would cost. Thanks to my parents-in-law, my family didn't embarrass me. That more than 10 thousand is also borrowed, because I am a poor child I would appreciate it. [Praise] [Pray] [Pray] [Pray] [Pray] [Pray]

I don't know. I am not married. We don't have many bad habits here in Tongling, Anhui. My partner and I will give more if we can, but I will bring it back and the money will be used after marriage. Even if I don't have money, I don't care about paying my debts after marriage or having personal contacts. My family and I have the same meaning. As long as my life is good, the bride price is not particularly fancy. Ask your in-laws about their customs first.

Seeing the right person and the right heart is the person who deserves to be entrusted for life. After marriage, children are a family, why do you want a bride price?

I talked about it. I really didn't ask for a bride price. I plan to hold a wedding in 1 1 month this year.

Children are my pride, and we can't get in the way for ourselves. No matter how far she marries, she will always be mine, and I will always be confident.

Bridal gift is an important part of China's traditional wedding customs, so how do you talk about it with your in-laws?

One is to talk to the matchmaker.

If two in-laws are embarrassed to talk, find a matchmaker. First, how much does the woman want? Go to the man's house and ask how much she can give. Both companies have a number, which is easy to talk about. For the sake of children, both sides can meet each other half way. The man does not give as much as he wants, and the woman does not give as much as she wants. Let the matchmaker mediate, and everyone will have face, so as not to hurt their feelings when they say it.

The second is to let the children speak first.

If there is no matchmaker, let the boys explore their parents first to see how much he can give, and the girls also tell their parents how much bride price they are going to ask for. The two children once again showed what their parents meant, and both sides had a bottom in their hearts. When they really sit together and talk, it will be much easier.

The third is face to face.

When we have mastered the foundation of both sides, it will be much easier to talk about bride price with in-laws. First of all, it must be that the man asked how much bride price he wanted before the woman responded. At this time, I will talk about what I know about men. Nine times out of ten, I would say. I can never make a false price like talking about business. That will give people the impression that I am selling my daughter, which will embarrass both sides.

Summary: The bride price is not a "financial gift". Not too high. It depends on the situation of the public. In addition, it depends on the man's economic ability. A family with good conditions, no one else will satisfy you. If the conditions are poor, you can also consider less points. You can't "give it to Yuanyang" because of tens of thousands of bride price. Personal opinion, for reference only.

For life, talk about life, I am a farmer talking about life, welcome to pay attention to communication.

My friend's son works in Beijing and finds a girlfriend. When the parents met, the woman was embarrassed to mention the bonus, and the man directly gave five bundles of 100,000 cash. When you say send, you are serious. When the woman's parents were thinking about it, the girl said, Dad, I want a suite and a Land Rover Range Rover. Her father said: medium!