Stay-at-home mothers and working mothers, who is right and who is wrong?

One day, we must learn to accept our ordinary imperfections. One day, we must learn to live in peace with ourselves and the world, whether it is beautiful or ugly in your eyes.

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Eiko is a stay-at-home mother with a second child. The daughter is 6 years old and the son is 3 years old. Before giving birth to a child, she worked in a good company with a good salary. After giving birth to the baby, she had to quit her job to be a full-time mother because the elderly at home were in poor health.

From a strong woman to a full-time mother, this role contrast is unacceptable to Eiko. For a long time, she lived in depression. Even for a while, Dabao cried and she cried. Every day, facing the children's eating and drinking, Lazar feels that her life has been completely ruined and become useless.

Especially when playing outside, many elderly people who take care of their children will ask her: where are your elderly people? Why not babysit for you? Why didn't you go to work? Such problems, later, she even dared not go out. Sometimes I see a lot of negative news about stay-at-home mothers on the Internet, such as her husband's cheating and it's useless for children not to like their mothers. She was deeply frightened.

Finally, I arrived at Dabao Kindergarten, and Bauer arrived unexpectedly. She's a stay-at-home mom again. The two children made her grumpy and disliked her husband in various ways.

She couldn't figure out why she became like this. Bad mother in the eyes of children? A shrew in her husband's eyes?

In fact, Eiko's current distress is because she has been unable to accept the role of being a full-time mother for so many years.

Since we can't choose life, we must learn to make peace with ourselves. Although you can't work, you should learn to keep your home warm. Learn to be a gentle mother and a virtuous wife.

There are too many demands on mothers in this society. We can't be strong women, and we can live the most beautiful ourselves.

As the movie "Finding You" said:

This era has a high demand for women. If you choose to be a professional woman, some people will say that you are a bad mother.

If you choose to be a full-time mother, some people will think that this is not a career.

Once a woman becomes a mother, what will she be? Perfect mom? Surrounded by virtual reality, all information is being told? Give children the best love? 、? Take good care of your children? .

Use this? The best love? 、? The most meticulous care? Corresponding, often can only be? The biggest guilt? 、? The most anxious heart? .

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In fact, working mothers in reality are not as glamorous as we see on mobile TV.

I know a working mother who returned to work three months after giving birth and had to show her mother-in-law the starving children.

She works as a supervisor in a private enterprise and has a lot of work. During the day, she is as independent and self-reliant as Superman, and she has to go home for her children after work.

Feel guilty about children while bearing the pressure of work;

Just like two burning candles, they run 24 hours a day and need to run all year round;

I can't sleep well because I don't have enough sleep, so I can only sleep on the subway, bus or traffic lights?

Sometimes when the company is busy, she can't even interact with her children for a few minutes for several days. At night, she went home, and the child was asleep. In the morning, she got up, but the child was still awake.

Even if the child is ill in hospital, he can't stay with the child. Looking at the child's tender little face, she is getting closer and closer to her grandmother, and she is getting stranger to her grandmother. She has thought of quitting her job many times?

Her biggest dream is to be with children.

People, living in this world, have nothing to struggle with. Don't be too hard on yourself. Remember, we are just ordinary people.

People can't be compared. Sometimes we have to learn to speak? Forget it, okay? Otherwise, you are torturing yourself. Learning to be happy is more important than anything else.

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In this pluralistic society, too much news will cause our anxiety.

Stay-at-home mothers will lose themselves, husbands will cheat, and they will not be role models for their children.

Working mother: A child's childhood is inseparable from his mother's company, otherwise it will affect his life.

No one is perfect: the most important thing in life is not to turn an ugly duckling into a white swan, but to accept the fact that you are an ugly duckling, and then to be a happy and confident ugly duckling and meet yourself.

As a mother, no one makes great efforts to give her children a hundred times of love. But the reality is so cruel: I can't afford to raise children after work, and I can't accompany them after taking a job.

Everyone is not perfect. The first thing we have to do is to accept our imperfections. And learn to accept imperfect children. Fathers who accept less than perfect children. The so-called: to please others, please yourself first.