After the husband found out that his wife was cheating, why did he refuse to live a "husband and wife life"? The 50-year-old man said this.

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Compared with everyone entering marriage, the initial dream is to join hands with the loved ones for life and grow old together. I hope my marriage is happy. As a husband, I must hope that my wife will be faithful to marriage, but there are always women who will never forget their initial intentions on the road of marriage, betraying their husbands from beginning to end and pushing the whole family to the abyss.

Why did the husband refuse to share the same room with his wife when he found out that his wife was cheating?

The following is the heartfelt words of a 50-year-old man. Let's have a look.

Mr. Zhang, 50 years old, coordinates Hangzhou.

I never thought that my wife would betray me. I still can't believe this fact, but it really happened again and I can't accept it. Four years ago, due to job transfer, I had to travel to other places frequently, which lasted for several months. I was busy at work during that time, so I probably ignored her in my life and didn't care about many things.

Once, the company got the project plan in advance, and we went home one day in advance. I wanted to surprise my wife, but she gave me a shock. Rumbling in my head, I don't know how to get out of the house. My legs are as heavy as lead. After that day, I didn't recover for several days. I don't believe my wife would betray me. I can't believe it, and I don't want to accept it.

From that day on, there was an insurmountable gap between me and her.

We got married early and fell in love freely. I was 23 when I got married, and she was 2 1. On the wedding day, I promised her that I would treat her well all my life, work hard, earn money to support my family, and treat her and her children well in the future. After I got married, I also worked hard and gave her every penny I earned. After the baby was born, I tried my best to take care of them, no matter how hard or tired I was, I didn't complain. Maybe I just want to make money and give her a better life. I go back late every night, and sometimes I'm too tired to bother her, so I sleep on the sofa.

I know that she cheated on me because of my own reasons, because that aspect is usually too cold to her.

But that's no reason why she can betray me and her family. Knowing that she was involved in the scandal, my wife knelt in front of me and cried and begged me to forgive her. I can't stand it. After all, I still have feelings for this woman in front of me. Thinking that the child still needs his mother, I forgave her and made her promise never to do anything wrong to me again.

Although I say I forgive her, I still can't let go psychologically, and there will always be a knot in my heart.

From that day on, my wife took care of me. Every day after work, she takes a change of clothes and delivers food to her hands. But the more she works hard, the more uncomfortable I feel. There are always lingering shadows in my mind, including the scene when she touched another man. I didn't like her at first, I didn't like her, I didn't like her.

I have to bring home the bacon for my children. As for her, I have no place for her in my heart for a long time. I haven't touched her since. My heart has a diaphragm.

There are three main reasons why she refused to live with her as husband and wife.

I'll tell you why I refuse to live a married life with my cheating wife. In fact, it is these three reasons.

Number one: I feel worse than eating flies.

Since I was with her, there was only one person in my heart. I always consider her feelings first. As long as she asks, I will try my best to satisfy her and regard her as a part of my life. Although two people are together, there will always be quarrels. I always let her go, and she has the final say in big and small matters.

I stayed up all night and thought a lot about the days when she cheated on me. I never understood why she chose to betray me when I was so kind to her. She explained many reasons to me, and I didn't want to hear a word. For so many years, I worked hard for this family, but she gave me a green hat. I feel as bad as eating flies. Every time I lie in bed with her, my stomach begins to feel sick. I feel that she is no longer pure and has no desire for her.

I have never been interested in being with someone I don't love, and I don't want to look at her again, let alone our married life. My marriage with her has been going on, for the sake of the children. I know it's not good to do this, but I don't want my child to get hurt, so I can only endure it again. I also know that sooner or later, I will file for divorce myself.

The second point: the pain in my heart cannot be erased. This is a lifelong pain.

Even if you love someone again, you can't tolerate the other person doing something out of line. Men are proud. If your brother knew that he was cuckolded by a woman and didn't know how to laugh at him behind his back, he would never look up in his life. Therefore, if a woman cheats, a man will never forgive her.

It is said that men are generous, but they should also distinguish right from wrong. For marriage, men are absolutely not allowed. Such injury is a fatal blow to men. There is a gap in my heart, even if I am together, I won't feel anything, and I don't want to live a married life with a woman who betrayed me.

Any man will be narrow-minded in this matter.

The third point: second time around.

Cheating is always only 0 times, countless times. Even if a woman is found cheating and forgiven, in the near future, she will have a second, third and more times. She will overcome the scar and forget the pain.

Just like Mr. Zhang, his heart died and he was no longer interested in his wife. All previous efforts were in vain. Even if his wife is kind to him, he and his wife can't make up. As the saying goes, the husband and wife quarrel at the end of the bed, but this matter alone, he can't convince himself and his wife to make up. It is even more impossible to have a husband-and-wife relationship with her. Their marriage is just an empty shell.

Write it at the end

If we can be together, we can be together. As the saying goes, it is fate to be married for a hundred years. Since you choose to live with a person, you should be responsible for your choice, be loyal to your family, be loyal to your marriage, and not betray your marriage.

An adult should control his desires and know what to do and what not to do. Never do anything that harms others and does not benefit yourself, because stealing food will be discovered sooner or later, and the consequences will be very serious. Don't imagine that as long as you sneak around, you won't be found. You know, birds leave traces. Where can there be an airtight wall?

I wish every couple a happy family and a harmonious life.