Chasing a girl, what should I talk to her every day?

Chasing a girl, what should I talk to her every day?

Don't use words indiscriminately, it's easy to turn an embarrassing chat into an embarrassing chat.

Girls nowadays are very smart. For you, a confident love story is just embarrassing for them.

If you are new to those words and don't understand their essence, don't use them indiscriminately as soon as you start, because sincerity and simplicity in the chat process are very important to girls.

Of course, if the girl you are talking about is just playing with you, let her go, because even if she is mechanically shocked by your words, she is not afraid that you are playing with her.

Be generous in chatting, don't hesitate, and learn to be neither humble nor supercilious.

When they find that they are knowledgeable and can talk about many topics, they are often afraid to take action at the beginning.

Especially in the face of the girl she likes, Kan Kan usually talks about Kan Kan in front of others but has nothing to say: "I don't know what to say to her", "What if she doesn't reply to me" and so on.

In fact, in the end, they were too nervous to put themselves and each other on an equal footing.

Naturally expand your chat topic.

The point of chatting is that what you say should make the other person feel that he has something to answer, and it has certain extensibility, such as: "Have you eaten, have you slept?" Why does it become a dead end for chatting? Not only because I can basically answer these words in a few words, I don't need any extension at all.

1. One sentence contains multiple topics.

Many people's chat habits are questions and answers from others, and the content is also around each other's questions. For example:

W: It's cooler here these two days. What about you?

M: Well, it's still very hot here.

This kind of answer, tell me what you can get the other person to answer, and how can you get the other person to answer you?

Chatting needs a topic, and topics don't pop up on their own. How to create a topic is very important, but a single topic is easily left out in the cold.

Like this:

Man: I can fry eggs on the hot soil here.

Woman: Yes, hehe.

The above dialogue can't be said that the man's answer is not good, but girls are still likely to be indifferent to this topic for many reasons. Maybe the early chat didn't go well, and her interest in you decreased. Maybe she is in a bad mood, not in the mood to talk about such things, and so on. At this time, if you can give each other multiple topics, the effect will be much better.

Example: Yes, do you know? It was so hot that I blew all the perfume bottles in the car. I can't take it anymore. I really want to find a place with few people to swim 200 meters at a time.

In this sentence, it means heat. Around this big theme, there are two small themes, one is that the perfume bottle in the car is sunburned, and the other is to go swimming.

Around each small topic, the other party can have many points of interest:

1. Do you have a car? What car? (If you haven't mentioned this topic before)

2. Is the perfume bottle sunburned? How is that possible? This kind of glass can withstand high temperatures of several hundred degrees. How did it blow up? Where is the glass? Did you hurt anyone? What's the smell in the car?

3. Can you swim? It must be cool to swim 200 meters, right? You must have a good figure, right? There are many people everywhere now. There must be more people in the swimming pool on such a hot day. Must be the same as going to jiaozi?

The more information a sentence contains, the more points of interest it can provide, so that the other party can choose more topics.

In-depth theme

In fact, the depth topic, like the above topics, brings more points of interest, but this time it has changed from a horizontal topic to a depth topic.

For example:

Man: It was so hot that the perfume bottles in my car exploded.

Man: The smell in the car is choking. Too much fragrance will stink.

Woman: Hehe.

Man: I was dizzy while driving and almost ran into a traffic policeman.

Woman: Haha, yes, then you will be in trouble.

M: The key is the taste after a while. When I arrived at the company, my colleagues insisted that I had a lover. She also said that a woman with such a strong perfume must have low taste and despise me desperately.

W: What's your favorite perfume?

M: There are several female colleagues booing and insisting that it is xxx brand. They say so, so I'll buy them a bunch next time, and they won't even wipe it for 20 yuan a bottle.

Woman: Ha ha ha. If you offend a woman, you are finished. It seems that the popularity in your unit is good. Do any girls have a crush on you?

Around a topic (provided that it is interesting), fill this topic with substance, give the other party an overall impression, and the other party will be mobilized and take the initiative to find a starting point to get to know you in the topic.

3. Multi-line theme

The so-called multi-line topic, just like chatting with friends, often comes out with two topic lines. After these two topic lines are parallel for a period of time, one of them will close.

Cover up the last bad topic and ease the atmosphere. Let's give an example in a chat. There are many foreigners in the places where girls chat, so my sister said that she would marry foreigners in the future.

Woman: Actually, foreigners are very nice. I will marry a foreigner in the future.

M: Foreigners are full of energy. Aren't you afraid you can't stand it?

M: But hybrids are beautiful. There are several little sisters in my unit community who all look like dolls.

Woman: You/are angry.

M: Haha, I'll give you two hugs next time if you like.

Woman: OK, I don't want to hug you. Just take a picture.

This girl has no emotional experience and is sensitive and exclusive to some adult topics.

If we just talk about the first topic, the result is: I will never talk to you again. Of course, if you are attracted enough, you can still continue, but the relationship will cool down.

So cover up the last topic with the next lovely positive topic. If you are attracted enough, the other person wants to talk to you instead of blushing at you, and her attention has been attracted by the new topic, she will go on with the second topic and ignore the first topic.

The frequency of chatting with girls should be moderate.

Chasing a girl, don't think about chatting with her every day.

What you do, no, is particularly unattractive to girls, and even makes us feel that you have nothing to do all day.

Being able to chat and knowing how to master the frequency of chatting is a sign of high emotional intelligence.