How to get along with a hypocritical mother-in-law

Last night, I asked my daughter to talk to her mother-in-law. After normal chat, I said goodbye to each other and didn't see anything unusual.

After a while, my mother's cell phone rang, and it was my mother-in-law. After rambling for a long time, she told her mother that her father-in-law was hospitalized with cerebral thrombosis, but it was nothing serious and she could be discharged in a few days.

Finally, my mother-in-law told her mother on the phone, never let the two children know, so as not to worry.

She knew that my mother was with us, and even when my mother answered the phone, I was sitting next to her. Why did she pretend to be a secret?

If I didn't know much about my mother-in-law's mind before, I have been fighting with her for nearly eight years. I have advanced from palace fighting to a female companion who can barely last one or two episodes. Her routine can be seen through in an instant.

I just want to be a virgin and kick my mother out as a shield for her. Sure enough, after my husband finished the phone call, her hypocritical voice came along the radio waves, which made me shudder.

"Oh, I told your mother-in-law not to tell you. Look, she just can't keep a secret. " "Your dad's nothing, you don't come back ... you may not come back to see your dad next week? You are so big and white. "

Inconsistent, inconsistent, I gasped in boredom.

To tell the truth, if I sum up my mother-in-law's behavior and language over the years, I can produce a bad mother-in-law handbook. In fact, I often persuade myself not to be as knowledgeable as her, but I am often angry at her poor acting skills.

It can be said that her hypocrisy goes deep into the bone marrow, and all her actions are completely based on selfishness. For my mother-in-law, having a son is to support the elderly, and helping to look after my granddaughter is worried that I will not give her money in the future.

Her influence on us is all-round and three-dimensional. Even hundreds of miles away, we can feel the overwhelming shadow. Therefore, when the child needed a pick-up in the first grade, I refused her enthusiastic help. There is no way. I really don't want to live a life where chickens fly and dogs jump every day.

Maybe hypocrisy is a necessary mask for modern people, but I can't learn it at all. I am a very straightforward person and never like to beat around the bush. It is often said that "a daughter-in-law is like a mother-in-law", so I am worried that I will become a hypocritical person like her in the future, smiling at outsiders every day and being mean to my family.

The thought of going back to face her this week gives me a headache. I can already guess that she will make various demands on us in the name of her father-in-law's illness. What's inconvenient about living together without a car? Anyway, she always cares only about her own comfort, regardless of other people's feelings, which her husband knows very well.

A colleague described the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as "respecting each other as guests", which doesn't need to be very close, as long as the surface is cheerful. It seems that my internal skills are far from being comparable to others, and I have to continue to study in the future.