Neighbors in the city, familiar strangers

"A wall separates us from each other, and we pass by without talking", which is a true portrayal of the indifference of today's urban neighborhood relations. The Social Investigation Center of China Youth Daily once conducted a survey on "neighborhood relations". Among the 4509 people who participated in the survey, 40.6% were unfamiliar with their neighbors, and 12.7% were "completely ignorant" about their neighbors. In the survey, 34.8% people said that they didn't get along well with their neighbors, and 80.9% people felt that the neighborhood relationship was getting colder and colder than it was 10 years ago.

It is common for neighbors to "meet each other after a brief encounter, but they don't know each other"

In the investigation, the reporter found that in many residential quarters, most residents feel that it is often difficult to meet even neighbors who go door to door or upstairs and downstairs. When neighbors meet in the building or elevator, they will nod and smile politely at most. Most netizens said they would not take the initiative to gossip with each other. Although they live next door, they are the most familiar strangers. In the past, after dinner, neighbors got together, a cattail leaf fan and a stool, and talked about everything, which is rare in the city now.

Netizen "knitting sweater": Isn't the most familiar stranger a neighbor? Almost every day. I have lived here for nearly 10 years. Those elderly people watched me from my teens to my twenties. I watched them grow from young to gray. We live in a matchbox, but we don't share or understand each other.

Netizen "Mi Long": It has been 8 years since we moved from the countryside to the city. I usually meet strangers and don't even say hello. We don't know the surnames of our neighbors upstairs and downstairs yet.

Netizen: I live on the sixth floor. Once I went upstairs, I found my neighbor's key in the keyhole, forgot to take it out, and rang their doorbell. The other party only opened the door a crack and asked who I was looking for. After I explained the situation, the other party awkwardly took out the key, hurriedly said "thank you" and slammed the door. At that moment, I felt a chill in my heart.

There are many reasons for the apathy of neighborhood relations.

When talking about why today's neighborhood relationship is so different from the past, many netizens interviewed said that it is mainly for security reasons. In addition, some netizens put forward reasons such as "I don't know what to talk about", "I don't have time to understand" and "I might as well surf the Internet if I have this time".

Netizen "GG Bond loves to talk": Now most children are only children. For safety reasons, parents often educate their children not to talk to strangers. This makes them form the habit of not actively communicating with their neighbors.

Netizen "Ruo Qiqi": Many people living around are renting houses, which is very mobile. They moved in today and moved out in a few months. They don't trust at all. How do they communicate?

Netizen "silly cow on a sunny day": I can communicate with strangers through QQ and forums freely on the Internet, but in real life, I don't know how to talk with strange neighbors. First, I don't know why I want to chat with my neighbors. Second, I don't know what to talk about.

Netizen regrets: I miss the neighborhood relationship in the past.

Over the years, with the acceleration of urbanization, more and more people have moved from rural areas to cities and from bungalows to high-rise buildings. While the city brings convenience to people's lives, it also makes people gradually indifferent. Many netizens expressed their nostalgia for neighborhood relations in interviews.

Netizen "exaggerated rice fruit": At that time, there was no salt for cooking at home, so I went to ask my neighbors for it, and I would go to the door with my rice bowl when I was eating. Now everyone "wraps" themselves well, and that kind of "human touch" is gone.

Netizen "Xiao Yuanbao": I especially miss my childhood neighborhood. At that time, real distant relatives were not as good as close neighbors. Neighbors not only have a good relationship with each other, but even know who has several relatives.

Netizen "Nannan Mom": When I was a child, it was common to eat at my neighbor's house. Now that the conditions at home are good and people are alienated, no one wants to disturb anyone. The most pitiful thing is children, who lack communication partners since childhood.

Try to get familiar with the strange neighbors in the community.

At present, objective conditions such as social environment and housing pattern cannot be changed. Some netizens suggested that relevant units in the community, such as neighborhood committees and real estate, can play a guiding role and organize various owners' activities in public places in the community as much as possible. You can also set up a QQ group in a community to create communication opportunities for young people who generally like to soak in the internet.

Relevant government departments have noticed this social problem. In recent years, some cities hold activities such as "Neighborhood Festival" and "Community Neighborhood Month" every year, and carefully design and launch a series of neighborhood exchange activities with novel forms and rich contents, among which "Hundred Banquets", "Opera Fans' Music" and fun sports meetings are particularly popular among residents. Carrying out such activities can make unfamiliar neighbors become familiar, alienated neighbors become close, lonely corridors become lively, and difficult neighbors become warm, which is conducive to promoting neighborhood harmony and is worth learning and popularizing.