Notes on Huang Zhizhong persuasion class

The first lesson of Huang Zhizhong's persuasion class

I was still on the subway at 8 o'clock last night, and I went into the live broadcast room with great expectation to listen to the teacher. Anyone who has seen "Qi Pa Shuo" knows him. After listening to his class, I have a deeper understanding of "Tao and technique" that Xiao Huxin told me. The teacher's class is more about conveying an idea than "10 persuading others".

The following is part of the content and understanding of last night's lecture.

What are the two consequences of going the wrong way without persuasion?

Let the other party suffer (injury, threat, consumption, extortion)

What does it mean to make the other person suffer? For example, if a mother gives her child a reason, you should study hard. Only by being admitted to a good university can we have more choices and a better life. The child responded: Are you bored? Every day is truth! When mom listens, the backhand is a hit, which is an injury.

What is the threat? The threat is that mom says, do you dare to talk back? Do you believe it? Is to say "I'm going to hurt you" to each other. Either describe a terrible future to your child, or threaten your child that your life is about to be dark.

How much does it cost? It is to give children "chanting" and read it every day. "Why are you playing games again? Don't you know how to read? " "How do you watch TV again? Have you finished your homework? "

Blackmail is also common, the most common is emotional blackmail. "Mom and Dad have worked so hard to drag you to eat and wear and don't listen to me, you baiwenhang!"

Let yourself suffer (avoidance, grievance, flattery, exchange)

Avoidance is to put the problem on hold and pretend that it doesn't exist. For example, my mother said: forget it, forget it, let's eat well first, and don't say these unhappy things.

Grievance is to submit to humiliation, think more about each other, respect each other's feelings, and lack respect for yourself. "Okay, okay, I was wrong. I won't talk about you in the future. "

Please may be material and emotional.

Exchange is a promise of reward or exchange.