How to talk to the leader?

In social activities, it is very important for your future to maintain a good relationship with your own leaders. Here are some tips for talking to leaders:

1. Be concise.

For a leader, time is the most precious, so it is very important to be concise when talking to him. Of course, this does not mean that a large number of situations will be said quickly, but clearly and selectively.

2. Provide a variety of choices for leaders.

You should put forward various possible solutions to the leaders, including their respective advantages and disadvantages, for the leaders to choose from, rather than just proposing a specific measure or action step. This method not only allows the leader to make the final choice, but also forces you to consider it more comprehensively and thoroughly. Obviously, the result is beneficial to you and your leader.

You must never reject the suggestion made by the leader immediately, because he may know the reasonable aspects of this suggestion or he will never tire of hearing your opinions. If you finally disagree with the leader's suggestion, you can raise your own objection by asking questions or others may raise objections. If you can explain that your objection is based on the fact that the leader doesn't know the facts, so much the better.

Don't flatter and agree blindly.

From the perspective of "eloquence" alone, the traditional methods of flattery and echo may not leave a good impression on the boss. Because it lowers your personality in the first place.

Never adopt the policy of "kowtowing" to the boss. Don't be intimidated by the boss's position or authority, thinking that we can do nothing but flatter and tame. Naturally, you don't have to deliberately show "don't care."

We should not only maintain our independent personality, but also show respect for our boss. Naturally, we should attach importance to the opinions of our superiors, because they have the responsibility of leadership in affairs and work. Besides, they may be superior to us in knowledge and experience. However, when necessary, we should not be afraid to express different views from them. As long as we are polite and humble and faithfully express our views, we will get more attention from each other than blindly flattering and echoing.

For the boss, he needs some insightful and reliable assistants more than ordinary yes-men. Blindly flattering and agreeing is really a dishonest act. Strictly speaking, it is cheating, which may bring great harm in the long run. If the boss is a talented person, he must know this well. If the boss is a fatuous person, he is like a drunken captain. You can't guarantee your safety by flattering him blindly and echoing his voice. All fatuous and decadent characters and systems, like a ship sailing under the command of a drunken captain, will be subverted sooner or later. If you are smart enough and have considerable talent, leave quickly and find another place worthy of your energy and talent in time.

At the same time, you should also know: don't just treat your boss as your boss, remember that he is not only your boss, but also a person. As a person, he needs to talk about all kinds of problems with his friends like ordinary people. If you can convince your boss that you don't intend to influence your work decision through personal relationships, he may be willing to treat you as a friend and talk to you about his children or how to spend the weekend.

Don't say anything that makes the leader unhappy.

Some words will make leaders unhappy, try not to say them. Here are some examples:

(1) said to the leader, "You have worked hard!" "You have worked hard!" This sentence should be said by the leader when expressing condolences and rewards to his subordinates. Now, in turn, the lower level tells the higher level that this may have negative effects.

(2) A similar sentence is to say to the leader: "What you did really moved me!" Or: "I am very moved by the manager's decisive decision!" " In fact, the word "touched" is the usage of leaders to subordinates, such as "I am very touched that you are serious and responsible in your work and are not afraid of delaying your own affairs!" This language is inappropriate. Respect leaders and say "admire", such as "manager, we all admire your decisiveness!"

(3) Answer the leader's question: "Whatever!" Leaders will think that young people nowadays are indifferent and don't understand etiquette, and naturally look down on those who say this.

(4) Say to the leader: "You don't know this!" Or "I know!" "You don't know this!" "You don't understand this!" This will hurt the feelings of the leader and make the leader feel that you don't respect him.

(5) Inadvertently say: "It's too late!" This sentence means that the leader moves too slowly, which will spoil the broth. From the leader's point of view, there must be a blame of "why not do it earlier", so it is definitely impossible to accept it happily.

(6) Say to the leader: "No, isn't it? It doesn't matter! " This sentence is obviously disrespectful to the leader and lacks respect. To say the least, it will also make leaders feel that you don't talk about ways and means, and it is easy to say inappropriate things.

(7) The leader assigned tasks, but the subordinates said "I find it difficult", "difficult" and "difficult", which directly made the leader unable to step down. On the one hand, it shows that he is shirking responsibility, on the other hand, it also shows that the leader has no foresight and makes the leader lose face. Third, the eloquence of talking with the opposite sex.

Talking to the opposite sex is a very happy thing. It can not only help you keep close contact with the opposite sex around you, but also help you understand the opposite sex. However, when talking with the opposite sex, there may be the following situations: one is that because the other person is the opposite sex, he has a lot of scruples, and he should think carefully about every sentence, and the result is nothing to say, which makes the other person feel boring; The other is to talk big, broad-minded and happy. Therefore, they often give each other the impression that "God speaks".

If you want to have a pleasant conversation with the opposite sex, you should master the following skills:

1. Don't promise casually.

As the saying goes: "A promise is a promise, and a promise is a promise." If you want to be a gentleman, don't promise easily in front of the opposite sex. In particular, a woman's commitment to the opposite sex is often kept in mind, even trivial things she will not forget. If you forget it, or it is difficult to cash it, she will think that you are a person who does not keep your word.

2. Don't be ambiguous.

Because of the gender differences between men and women, when chatting with the opposite sex, you should make it clear and don't be ambiguous, so as to avoid misunderstanding and unnecessary trouble.

3. Master the scale of speaking

"People are not sages, to err is human?" Since everyone will inevitably make some mistakes, in order to show friendship, you'd better not blame each other's mistakes, especially to the opposite sex. In case you inevitably talk about each other's mistakes, you should also pay attention to your own discretion, show your good personal restraint, and don't push others too hard.

4. Clever "suspense". Add interest

In order to enliven the atmosphere and add interest, you may wish to promote some "imprisonment" when talking with the opposite sex. For example, when talking about one thing, you suddenly stop halfway, leaving suspense. If the suspense is well set, it will often be interesting and fascinating, which will make both parties feel a kind of enjoyment. 5. Quote classics. Tell more stories and jokes.

In order to enrich the content of your chat, you can insert some stories and jokes in time, or quote classics and make a chapter, which will not only make the conversation go on happily, but also leave a knowledgeable impression on the other side.

6. Get rid of the entanglement of the opposite sex appropriately

Sometimes, you may meet some annoying members of the opposite sex. They talk endlessly and waste a lot of your precious time. How can we properly get rid of each other's entanglement? You might as well try the following methods:

(1) "gas" the other party. In order to show their lack of enthusiasm for communication, you can adopt a "low-key" way of talking: if you don't say a word, or don't pick a fault, the other party will get bored and take the initiative to leave.

(2) Don't say anything irrelevant to the topic. When you speak, try to avoid complications and say something else. Try to keep the topic firmly focused on a certain issue. This will give the other person an impression that they don't like chatting. If the other party knows where the interests lie, he will simply explain his purpose and end it early.

(3) stand up and walk around. During the conversation, you can also stand up and walk around at will to show that you have no intention of chatting. In order not to appear impolite, you can take cigarettes or drinks as an excuse, preferably when the other person is talking.

(4) staring at a place, or staring blankly. When the other person is talking, you can just stare at a place in a daze, or when the other person is talking most vigorously, you suddenly ask, "Excuse me, what did you just say?" Even if the other person chats happily, he will be dismissed by your attitude.