A letter to my quarreling husband

There are often noisy moments in married life. When you and your husband quarrel, you should calm down. It will be easy to reconcile after both parties calm down. Below I have compiled a letter I wrote to my quarrelsome husband, please read it. Part 1 of a letter to my quarreling husband

Husband:

You said you think there is nothing wrong with you, and I agree with you. You devoted your whole life to us, mother and daughter, and saved your own food and medical expenses. As long as your children needed it, you went out of your way to buy and take care of it. You are also a good son. As long as your parents need it, you will do whatever it takes to fulfill it. I also understand your feelings for me.

Maybe my understanding of life is too limited. I only pay attention to the feelings of my own small family. For it, I would rather work no matter how hard or tired I am. In fact, I didn't expect to have a bad relationship with your family at the beginning. I have always longed to live a harmonious and happy life. You should have memories of our initial relationship. I was very happy to go to your home, and you once asked me: Why do you like going home more than me? At that time, I thought life was very simple and I could simply look forward to a bright future with you. But later, our child was born, and the elderly came to our house to see the child, and the relationship in our own little family became complicated.

Husband, you have to admit that mom loves you very much. She doesn’t want you to share too much housework. And she not only likes us to respect her, but she likes to be the master of the house. Everything in our family She likes to get involved in everything and wants us to listen to her. But you are her son, and you are used to your mother taking care of you and reporting everything, so you don't feel this pressure. Just like I sent you the complaints about my mother in Lili’s space (her husband’s aunt’s child, her mother-in-law loves her very much, but because her mother-in-law cares too much, Lili is also very disgusted with my mother-in-law), your first reaction It's the same as saying I just guessed. You're not in that position, and you can't understand many things at all.

In the days that followed, you kept criticizing me. I went to work 7 months after giving birth, and my work was very hard. I often worked overtime. I was so busy that I didn’t even have time to drink water. I traveled everywhere on business and overtime. You are a newbie, the guests are always making things difficult for you, and when you get home, you will look at your face and listen to your scolding and shouting. Have you forgotten that? Have you forgotten that we fought because of your mother? I went there with the scars in my heart and body. At work, do you know how I lick my own wounds? Do you know how I cry secretly in a deserted place?

As soon as I mentioned it, you said I attacked you first, what do you think? Have you ever wondered why I attacked you? You fight back every time, so what’s the point? Do you know how much scars your over-defense left on me? You always thought that I was the one who was being strong. Could it be that I swallowed my anger and put it in my heart? Is it right to accept these unaccustomed things with a smile? They say they can't afford to hide, but where can I hide? This is my home. I hope that my home will be harmonious and have each other's happy smiles. , I hope my husband will be considerate of me and consider my feelings first when encountering problems. But this is simply a luxury. I am afraid to go home. I am afraid that when I go home, I will be a guest and listen to others.

The main reason why I don’t have a good relationship with your mother is that you like to listen, comfort her, and maybe tell her that you want to give me a good education. The correct way is to tell her that your wife is also your relative, and your mother should not tell you everything. If you are really good to your mother, you should teach her to be open-minded, broaden her horizons, make more friends, and take more walks, instead of focusing too much energy on pondering your daughter-in-law's expressions and words. Just like when you were on your way back to your hometown last time, you knew that your child's milk contained sugar, but you still let her drink it. Many times, you just wanted to fulfill her and make her happy for a while, and you forgot what is truly good for her. At this time, your behavior is tantamount to asking the old man to drink poison to quench his thirst.

You feel that I am always bad, and you say that I am getting worse. Maybe, it makes you so uncomfortable, maybe because you have grown up too. Do you think I have explained your pain points? But I still have to say that if some conflicts are not brought out early, they will only accumulate.

XXX

XXXX. !

Everything is fine at my parents’ house, so there is no need to worry. I forgot to tell you, the deposit in the passbook has been transferred to my account. Originally, I was a little worried about your financial situation, but since you can make a comfortable living by overdrafting your credit card, there is no need for me to worry.

In addition, I would like to give you a kind reminder. There are 2 packs of instant noodles at the bottom of the kitchen cupboard at home. Although you are eating well now, I am still a little worried. You will need them when Rod, Zhutou San and others are too busy to meet each other.

Say hello to my new neighbor across the door for me. The house loan will be due at the end of the month, and then you will have to say goodbye to your new friend! By the way, you must not spend any money at home. Water, I grow cactus. Mimi and I are together. The pest killer at home has been used up. Now you and Xiaoqiang must be looking at each other.

Of course my two lovely brothers will not cause you any trouble. They have been trying to persuade me to divorce and find a capable man.

Now I feel that it feels so good to go home. I don’t have to work so hard every day to wash and cook. I can go shopping freely. I am really happy!

I wish you and Bingbing have a good time tomorrow. , and I heard that Bingbing’s new boyfriend is a boxing coach at the Sports Academy. I don’t know if it’s true or not. You know I’m not that gossipy!

Goodbye!

Your dear Wife

　XXXX. I should write you a letter. Don't be nervous, just speak your mind.

I have not been in a good mood during this period, and I am not in the same good mood and good temper towards you as usual. Something happened yesterday, and I don’t know why tears suddenly burst into my eyes. It must be It must be because of the recent messy things that have made me feel very upset and aggrieved. Coupled with your unreasonable evaluation of my work, it makes me feel even more aggrieved, haha. Indeed, my job, as you may feel from the outside, seems empty. But what does that sentence say? It is reasonable. The leader recognizes and affirms my work ability? Otherwise, our boss would not be an idiot and recently gave me a promotion and a salary increase. After all, I am still a small leader in my work unit, managing a department. Maybe my usual performance has given you the illusion that I am too lazy to work? In fact, I still care about this job. There are not many ** companies in Nanjing, and there are even fewer ** companies. Unlike in * *, you can change jobs at will. If it doesn't work, you can still work as a ** and the income will be considerable. I really want to work in this company stably and for a long time. I also have a career plan for myself. Do you want to laugh at me again when you see this? . .

I saw you going to bed so late last night. I felt quite guilty and felt sorry for you. You told me that you felt a lot of pressure. I tilted my head and thought for a long time, haha, what caused you to feel like this. My current daily life: work during the day, go to and from get off work every day, come home from get off work, eat, watch TV online, and sleep. In terms of life and work, I don’t have to ask you about everything or listen to your opinions on everything. I don’t rely on you financially either. Then the only thing left is emotional dependence. The external manifestation of emotional dependence will cause you great pressure. After thinking about it, I should ask you to come home from get off work on time every day. If you work overtime or don't come back for dinner, I will show my displeasure and will be unhappy. , I don’t want to eat either. That should be it, right? I really need to do some deep self-reflection on this point, and I shouldn’t tie you down so tightly. Sometimes you want to take a breath, right? After being with me, you don’t even have time for basketball anymore.

It's really hard work to take the bus back and forth for two or three hours every day and have to buy food and cook when you come back. I'm really not considerate of you at this point. Sometimes you want to have your own space and take a breather, right? -_-

I will pay attention to it in the future. If you work overtime or have social activities, or occasionally don’t want to go home, I will not let you go. How can I be too harsh on you? If I'm unhappy, I won't show it on my face?__?, I should also have my own psychological space, just like the original person. I can't live a good life by myself every day, haha.

Also about your previous girlfriend, I brought it up several times. It was because I was wrong and it was not right for the person. But this is also an external expression that I care about you. Of course I will pay attention to it in the future!

Regarding the matter of the house at **, although you did not bring it up yesterday, I know that I did not do it well and often expressed it in my words. I don't like that house, it feels too remote. What I did was wrong. I shouldn't have spoken so openly. Although it was a little far and a little off, at least I still had a car of my own. I didn't have to travel in wind or rain while you had to squeeze into the bus. In any case, it is our future home after all, and we are decorating it now. I shouldn't dislike it like this. I will adjust my mentality in the future, try to accept the reality, and fall in love with our first home. In the future, I will work hard with you to make money and buy our second property =^_^=

You know that my literary talent is not good. I have written so much nonsense. Don’t laugh at me. .

One last thing to summarize, don’t feel stressed, you should feel honored and happy to have someone who can rely on you like this. Being a man is actually pretty good! Y(^_^)Y